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It is easy to get discouraged by people who bring you down, but one thing you have to realize that people who bring you down are no match for you. Which is why I am going to explain to you the art of dealing with people you can’t stand and those who want to bring you down.
1. Dealing With People You Can’t Stand & How people will try to bring you down:
They can try, but they cannot stop you or make you feel any kind of way unless you give in to what they are doing. As a Christian, whenever I was faced with people who were trying to get in my way I would remember the story of David (also read my blog here on David when people don’t believe in you). I mean legit, his family really did not like him, people laughed at him when he said he would slay Goliath. BUT David had what I like to call spiritual cockiness (which I talk about in my video down below).
That whenever someone said something to him he would clap back and he would prove them wrong by his actions. And ultimately his name is the name that we remember in history not all the people that brought him down. And before I get into the post, be sure to subscribe to my YouTube channel by clicking here.
2. Dealing With People You Can Stand And Dealing With People Who Bring You Down ~ When It Is Family
If your family is trying to bring you down that happened to David too. When Samuel came to his father Jesse to anoint one of his son’s as king, do you know that Jesse brought all of his son’s in to be considered as king EXCEPT for David (1 Samuel 16).
That should just go to show how low they thought of him that they did not even call him in the house to be considered as king. And to add icing on the cake, every time David would say something such as ask a question his brother would jump down this throat. In this case all David was asking was, what was the reward for the person who killed Goliath.
Now Eliab his oldest brother heard what he said to the men; and Eliab’s [k]anger burned against David and he said, Why have you come down here? With whom did you leave those few sheep in the wilderness? I know your presumption (overconfidence) and the evil of your heart; for you have come down in order to see the battle. But David said, What have I done now? Was it not just a [harmless] question? 1 Samuel 17:26-29
3. Dealing With People You Can’t Stand & People Who Bring You Down ~ When They Try To Crush Your Dreams
So at this point David had faith in himself and thought that he could slay Goliath. And I get that David was small and Goliath was a giant but even when he told his people that he was going to slay Goliath he received no encouragement whatsoever. They literally told him that he was too young, that he was just a boy, and that he was not going to win. (1 Samuel 17:33). Have you ever been in a situation where you have had some great ideas, a great plan, and you have went to share them with the people that you love the most only for them to shoot you down and tell you, you cannot do it?
4. Dealing With People You Can’t Stand & People Who Bring You Down ~ Trust Yourself
Often times when you have your own plans for yourself, other people will butt in and tell you, your plans or dumb or they will try to tell you what they think is best for you. At the end of the day, the people you care about do not mean any harm by saying this but they are bringing you down all the same by allowing their own opinion to override your opinion when you are the one living your life and they are the one trying to tell you how to live your life.
As is the case with David, when they were going to let him go fight Goliath, probably thinking he was going to die; they at least thought they would give him armor to give him a fighting chance. But then David said:
â€œI cannot go in these, he said to Saul, because I am not used to them.So he took them off. Then he took his staff in his hand, chose five smooth stones from the stream, put them in the pouch of his shepherd’s bag and, with his sling in his hand, approached the Philistine. 1 Samuel 17: 38-39
What David was saying was that he knew what was best for him and that he was going to do what he wanted to do and that he did not care what anyone had to say about it or how they wanted him to do it. And mind you plenty of people laughed at him along the way as he was just a teen facing a giant but David knew what no one else knew. That no one could make him feel anyway that he did not want to feel, and as long as he had confidence then what other people thought did not matter. He suffered from something I like to call spiritual cockiness. Which you can see my video below on what that is (and don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here).
How David handled these people are the same ways that you re going to go handle these people. Also check out my video below on how to get the spirit of David.
5. Dealing With People You Can’t Stand & People Who Bring You Down ~ Ignore Them
When it came to David’s family treating him badly, he straight up ignored them and was about his purpose. When your family OR ANYONE comes against you and tries to bring you down often times it is best to not say anything. Just go about your everyday life and keep doing what you were doing. David was still anointed to be king, David still slew Goliath, and David is still a man after God’s own heart. The fact that his family thought that he did not deserve to be king or thought that he would not be king meant nothing and it did not stop what was meant for David.
6. Dealing With People You Can’t Stand & People Who Bring You Down ~ Clap Back In A Godly Way
To be fair I probably would have made fun of David too and thought that he was going to die, BUT this is where David did not lay down and die but instead, he let people know the power that was in him and so he said:
“For who is this uncircumcised Philistine that he has taunted and defied the armies of the living God? 1 Samuel 17:26
I love this line because I imagine the swag that David had when he said it. Like he was basically making fun of Goliath’s penis and saying that he was not worth anything and that he was no match for him and God. NOW, WHAT!
What David was basically saying is that this giant is no match for me and who is the Philistine who thinks that he is going to go up against me and win. David did not care who Goliath was, he did not care how big he wants, he had no fear when facing Goliath. And he had no issue putting other people on notice letting them know that.
Whenever people want to bring you down I want you to have the same conviction. Whenever you are dealing with people who bring you down, you need to have the mentality of David. Who are these Philistines that dare come up against you? Who is this person who thinks they can speak down to your destiny, who is this person who thinks that the dream God gave to you cannot come to pass, WHO ARE THEY TO DOUBT WHAT YOU KNOW TO BE TRUE?
And here is what David knew:
Saul replied, You are not able to go out against this Philistine and fight him; you are only a young man, and he has been a warrior from his youth. But David said to Saul, Your servant has been keeping his father’s sheep. When a lion or a bear came and carried off a sheep from the flock, I went after it, struck it and rescued the sheep from its mouth. When it turned on me, I seized it by its hair, struck it and killed it. Your servant has killed both the lion and the bear; this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of them, because he has defied the armies of the living God. The Lord who rescued me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will rescue me from the hand of this Philistine.1 Samuel 17:33-37
What David knew was that the same people doubting him did not know him for real. They did not know what he had been through. They did not know the power he had, they did not know anything, David knew his own power because he has apparently killed some lions and bears and then he once again insulted Goliath penis telling them he was going to kill him too.
My point is. Just because you believe you can, don’t expect people to think that you can. Don’t expect people to recognize your greatness. Recognize your own greatness and there is a time to clap back and let people know to back down and to not to keep coming for you…. In Jesus’ name Amen. Also check out my video down below on how to clap back the Christian way.
7. Dealing With People You Can’t Stand & People Who Bring You Down ~ They are projecting their own insecurities on you
David had the confidence to slay Goliath but no one else did. And just because they were scared they expected David to be scared too.
“The men of Israel said, ‘Have you seen this man who is coming up? Surely he is coming up to defy Israel'”. 1 Samuel 17:25
These are the men that were fearful of Goliath. These are also the men whose names are not mentioned in the Bible and these are the men that we do not even know who they are. These are the men who tried to project their own fears on David and these are the men that David did no listen to. So you have to ask yourself what will you choose? Do listen to other people allowing them to steal your destiny or to yourself and what you can do and step boldly into the future. If you know that you have a destiny, a calling, a purpose and that God created you then you know that other people’s words don’t matter. And say to yourself “who is this Philistine?” Who is this person who thinks that I have the ability to speak down to me and rob me of my dignity?
8. Dealing With People You Can’t Stand & People Who Bring You Down ~ Have Faith In You And Not What Other People Are Saying Too You Or About You
The good thing about David is that he suffered from having too much faith in himself and too much faith in God. And the great thing he did otherwise he may be dead. Do you remember when Saul tried to get David to put on all this heavy armor on thinking he was protecting David? David took it off and put on a tunic and got some rocks. David said that he was not going to use that Armor.
David did not slay that lion and that bear in that armor so he had to trust in what he knew and not what other people knew. Because if he would have gone out to slay Goliath in that armor David may have died. David was able to do what he did because he trusted in his skills to throw a rock and hit a target (really hard might I add) with it. Something that may have not been done had he had on some heavy armor.
Reaching into his bag and taking out a stone, he slung it and struck the Philistine on the forehead. The stone sank into his forehead, and he fell face down on the ground. Samuel 17: 49
9. Dealing With People You Can’t Stand & People Who Bring You Down ~ Shut people up with your action
Seeing is believing. There comes a time where talk becomes cheap. People can tell you that you are not going to be anything, you are not worth anything, and try to crap on your dream. Just like with David you may have ignored them and you may have even clapped back and them. But yet and still people are still trying to bring you down and that is when what you do will shut them up. When it came time for David to slay Goliath, Goliath made fun of David BUT David STILL clapped back.
The Philistine also said to David, Come to me, and I will give your flesh to the birds of the sky and the beasts of the field. Then David said to the Philistine, You come to me with a sword, a spear, and a ]javelin, but I come to you in the name of the Lord of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have taunted. This day the Lord will hand you over to me, and I will strike you down and cut off your head. And I will give the corpses of the army of the Philistines this day to the birds of the sky and the wild beasts of the earth, so that all the earth may know that there is a God in Israel. Samuel 17:44-46
And then there came a time where talk was cheap and he needed to show everyone that what he was saying was right all along and so he:
So David triumphed over the Philistine with a sling and a stone, and he struck down the Philistine and killed him; but there was no sword in David’s hand. So he ran and stood over the Philistine, grasped his sword and drew it out of its sheath and killed him, and cut off his head with it. Samuel 17:50
David killed Goliath and even after he was dead just so that his word would remain true again David ran over and cut off Goliath’s head so that no one could call him a liar. And then no one had anything to say because how can someone bring you down after you have just been exalted to the top. Let your haters be your motivators, stop listening to other people and use their negativity as energy to do exactly what they told you, you could not do.
And just like David said about Goliath, who is that Philistine that thinks they can step to you. Who are those people? I mean really who are they? We don’t know. What happened to all of those people who put David down. We don’t know, nor do we care. They were not important. The hero here is David. The hero can be you.
10. Dealing With People You Can’t Stand & People Who Bring You Down ~ Final Thoughts
In case you are missing the key theme here, I am telling you that people who bring you down should mean nothing to you. Why would you care about what other people think if you are too busy doing you? (see my blog here for more on this topic). When you focus on other people you are giving them all of your power and you are letting them dictate your future. You are allowing them to rob you of something great and you are giving away the power God put in you. You may not be able to control what comes out of their mouth but you can choose what you want to believe and how you allow other people to affect you.
Just like David’s response to Saul, when people speak down to you, let them know that in your time alone with God you have dealt with bigger and badder fish and them putting you down is the least of your concerns. And just like David addressed Goliath ask yourself “Who is this Philistine” Who is this person who thinks they have the right to come at you sideways? Who is the person who thinks that you have the right to mess with your self-esteem? Who is this person who thinks they have the right to talk down to you?
They don’t have that right. And just remember if David would have fallen into the negative words he would have faded into obscurity. He would not have been king. He would have died on that battlefield, and his name would have been lost. And if you let other people who want to bring you down bother you, then that is where you will fade into… obscurity. Remember that other people have no control over your destiny. Remember that other people who bring you down are about their own insecurities and their own fears, never really about you (see my blog here for more on that).
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