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In this post, I want to talk to you about the lies of married men who cheat and the lies they often tell their mistresses. Because one of the most popular posts that I have on my blog to date is can a married man love his mistress which you can click here to read. And I am a realist, and so my answer is NO.
BUT you would not believe how many women really try to fight me on this. I think the reason is that they get caught up in the hype. They get caught up in the lies. And they really want to believe that this married man loves them, is going to leave his wife for them, or that all the time and/or years that they have spent messing with this married man has NOT been in vain. But this may be a news flash but married men who cheat lie. They are lying to their wife and they are probably lying to you if you are a mistress.
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As I said in another blog post of mine about what women need to know about married men who cheat, the cold reality is that a married man is just using you to have his cake and eat it too. I am not just saying that it is statistically proven. I do not say that to make you feel bad if you are in this situation but to help you face the fact of the situation and not to continue to romanticize it.
He will probably lie to you and lie to his wife about you just so that he can keep you both right where he wants to keep you. In your lane, causing him the least amount of trouble as possible. While he has a separate relationship with each of you.
That is why it is so important for you to know the lies men tell their mistresses so that you are under NO delusion that the situation is more than what it is. Now if you are okay about being a mistress and you do not care about what lies he is telling you THEN I would say to you that you need to get some self-esteem.
Because for whatever reason you are bent on thinking that you have to share a man and that you don’t deserve a man of your own that can one day marry you.
All and all remember what goes around comes around. If you want to be a mistress to a married man and possibly break up his household. Then remember, when you get married the same thing is going to happen to you because that is what you are attracting.
Anyway back to the subject matter at hand,
Married Men Who Cheat May Say: #1 I am going to leave my wife for you
Men who cheat rarely divorce their wives and marry ‘the other woman.’ Only three percent of men who engaged in extramarital affairs actually married their mistresses. AND if by chance he does end up leaving his wife for you, you have a 75% chance of divorce rate (source).
In layman’s terms, the married man is not leaving his wife for you, and even in the OFF chance that he did your relationship is destined to fail anyway.
Plus, if you get with a man who is willing to leave his wife for you, in the LONG shot that he does marry you then eventually he will probably trade you in for someone else. He has done it before and like the old saying goes. How you get him is how you lose him.
Lies men tell their mistresses #2 You Are More Than Just Sex
Married men who cheat are going to tell you this because they want sex from you. This is not true, you are probably just sex. The reason why I know this is because most of the time you get together he is having sex with you. What real relationship can be formed with you as the mistress? It is not like he can take you home to meet his family, friends, or like you can go out in public and enjoy life together.
In reality, you are not in a real relationship because of his situation, and the reason why you are in a situation with him is that he wants to have sex with you. Which is probably how you spend most of your time. As a side bar check out my video below for a message to women who cheat with married men.
Married Men Who Cheat May Say #3 I Love You
Maybe the married men really do thinks he loves you but more than likely he is just telling you that to string you along and make you believe that the relationship is more than what it is.
He loves his wife, he married his wife, and he created a family with his wife. That is a more significant indication of love than keeping you tucked away in the corner for his own personal pleasure. What about that spells love?
Lies men tell their mistresses #4 I cannot leave my wife right now because of xyz but once that is over, I will.
Remember when dealing with married men who cheat AlWAYS, refer back to lie number one. He is not going to leave his wife for you, and he is just telling you that xy and z circumstances are keeping him from leaving his wife. It could be the kids, the fact that she is sick, that she is mentally unstable, or whatever the reason he seems to come up with. The reality is, is that he is just telling you an excuse to keep the situation with you going for as long as possible.
The longer he can keep you strung along the more he can have his cake and eat it too. If a man really wanted to end his marriage then he would do it, and if he is making excuses as to why he can’t do it. It is because he does not want to end his marriage and has no intentions of leaving his wife.
Married Men Who Chat May Say: #5 I Just Live with My Wife, But I Don’t Love Her
Many married men who cheat will express a decline in attraction to their spouse, insinuating they are deprived sexually in some way. One of the most common tactics a married man who cheats will use is to lie about their current living situation.
The most common lie is that they are sleeping in separate beds or on the couch because they need to stay in the home for some reason. Usually, it’s for the kids. (source). The fact of the matter is that many men are going to say whatever they feel they need to say to get you to sleep with them.
They will downplay their situation at home and make it seem like they are not happy when really they are just lying to you, to make you feel sorry for them, and increase the likelihood that you will enter into an affair with them.
Lies men tell their mistresses #6 This is my first time doing this
If he is one of the many married men who cheat, then is a cheater, then cheating is in his DNA. It is doubtful that you are the only person that he has cheated on his wife with. According to a survey, 55% of male respondents cheated on their spouses with five or more people (source).
So half of the cheaters have been with 5 or more people, and that does not account for the cheaters that have been with 4, 3, or even 2 other people aside from you. Being a cheater is probably who he is.
Married Men Who Chat May Say #7 What Does It Matter that I am married, it is you I really want to be with
In this case, the man may not even have the courtesy to lie to you and tell you that he is leaving his wife. He may be very honest that he has no intention of leaving his wife but tells you that you should not care because you are the one he loves. It is a lie.
If he really wanted to be with you then he would do that and nothing would be stopping him. He is just making up an excuse of why he is not going to leave his wife and leading you to believe that you are the one he really loves.
In this case, he is straight-up telling you he is not leaving his wife and just fluffing your tail feathers by telling you he loves you trying to mask the fact that he is really never going to leave his wife. And he is hoping that by using the word love with you that you are not going to care.
Lies men tell their mistresses Lie #8 I am a good guy
Many married men will try to trick you into thinking they are a good guy, thinking that if they say it, then it will make it true. If a man is cheating on his wife, his family, or attempting to come to you and cheat on his wife and his family, then he is not a good guy. He is a cheater, and there is nothing good about that.
When Married Men Who Cheat Say #9 We got married when we were young
Okay so this may be true, he may have gotten married when he was young, but that is called SO WHAT. A man may try to tell you that he got married when he was young or lead you to believe that he was somehow tricked into getting into a married.
A man may try to tell you that love has faded from their marriage because he was a different person back then. Maybe the woman got pregnant and tricked him into marrying her very young.
Whatever the reason is, he is still married. And if he does not want to be married any more than he can get something called a divorce. Once again if he is not divorced, then he does not want to be.
Lies men tell their mistresses Lie #10 If I get a divorce she will get everything
Once again this may actually be true, BUT the more than anything is that he does not want to get a divorce. A man who really wants out of his marriage will be out of his marriage, point blank period.
And even if he is staying in his marriage because his wife will get everything, then that is just another indication that he is staying in his marriage with no plan of leaving his wife. So where does that leave you?
Lies men tell their mistresses Lie #11 I care about you more than I care about her.
Probably not true because she is the wife, with a ring on her finger. She knows his family, she may have his kids. She knows his friends, and she is on the life insurance policy. He can take his wife out freely in public without being fearful that they may get caught, he pays their bills, the mortgage, and he comes home to her at night.
If you really just weigh the facts, it is clear that despite what he says he cares about his wife way more than he cares about you. He took a vow before God, the courtroom, a preacher or whoever married them that he will be with this woman.
He has not done that for you. So just his actions alone should prove how much he cares for her. All and all have enough respect for yourself to not compete with another woman for any man married. Check out my video below to learn how to stop competing with other women over a man, and don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here.
These are 11 of the most common lies men tell their mistress, and I really hope to God that if you are reading this you are not a mistress or at the very least you are not feeding into these lies that he is telling you.
If you are with a married man, then get out! Get out now, do not waste your life, or even years dealing with a man that cannot be 100% committed to you.