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In this post, I am going to give you some really legit reasons why falling in love with a married man is just not supposed to happen and why God is not with it. If you have not read my Can A Married man fall in love with his mistress blog (click here) I highly suggest you read it. In it, I speak the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. The main reason why you are not falling in love with a married man is that your love is based on a lie, deception, and you are living in a false reality.
I know it sounds harsh but this whole idea that you are going to run away with your married man and live happily ever after is just NOT true. Statistically speaking, even if by chance a married man does leave his wife for you. Nine times out of ten the relationship does not work out anyway. And that is just one reason, here are some other VERY LEGIT reasons why God is not going to allow you to skip off into the sunset with your married man.
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1. God Is Never Going To Support You Falling in love with a married man because you are going against God
Before we get into it, know that I am a Christian. I can only come at this topic from a Christian standpoint and I can say with 100% fact that God would back me up on this. So I do not want to hear “oh God made me fall in love with another woman’s husband.”
No, He didn’t. God is not going to support you falling in love with a married man. You chose to be with another woman’s husband so please take God out of it. God is not going to bless your sin when He clearly says in his word do not commit adultery. God is not going to come down and change some of His commandments just for you to be with another woman’s husband. It does not work like that.
The reason why I am telling you this is because you would not believe how many women fill up my email inbox trying to convince me that they are falling in love with these married men, how God understands, and that their actions are justified. If you are a reader of my blog then you know I am Christian and as a Christian let me say this.
God is never going to give you another woman’s husband. Point blank period. There are no if’s and’s or buts about it. I do not care how in love you think you are, getting God’s blessing for you to take another woman’s husband is never going to happen. And I have a video as to why that is which you can watch below. And don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel by clicking here.
2. God Is Not Going To Support You Falling In Love With A Married Man Because It’s Lust
I wrote a blog on love, lust, and infatuation which you can read here. So many people confuse the two. But when you think about what are you doing MOST of the time when an affair is happening. It is probably sex. And if he takes you to dinner you are just having dinner before you have sex, or you may do an activity before you go and have sex with this married man. But what the affair all comes down to is sex. Therefore, if all of your interaction is based on sex you are not in love you are in lust. And lust is a work of the flesh.
Let’s call a spade a spade and call an adulteress affair what is really is. It is about satisfying the flesh. If you are in this situation, do not try to pass off your fleshy desire as anything else. If you are with a married man you are doing it because your flesh wants it. Not because God has sent this man in your life as your true love and somehow wants you to fall in love with him and steal the married man away from his family. Let’s be real. Love is unselfish and an adulteress affair is completely selfish.
If you want to feed your flesh and take a married man away from his wife, then own it. But leave God out of it. God knows your intentions and He knows your heart. He knows when your flesh is weak and when you are feeding into temptation because you really want to sleep with these married men. All of that spells lust. The fact that you would try to mask that and pass it off as something else is just delusion on your part.
You may be able to fool yourself. But God knows if you are really seeking to please Him or if you are seeking to please yourself. God made you and there is no hiding what you really want, need, or desire to come out of a situation from God. He knows how long you have been flirting with the married man, how you have been dressing up to impress the married man, and how you have been trying your best to get the married man to come back to your house and sleep with you. My point is, let’s not pretend that an affair is about how much you LOVE the married men. It may seem like that, but where it stems from is lust. You can watch my video on is it love or lust below.
3. God Is Never Going To Support You Falling in love with a married man because you are messing with His covenant
God is never going to support you falling in love with a married man because marriage is a covenant of God. And if you read the Bible you should know how God feels about covenants. A married couple has taken a vow before God, you know the part that says “What God has joined together let no man tear apart.” So don’t be the person trying to come in between what God has joined together.
And then try to excuse your messiness by saying that you being with another woman’s husband is God’s will or some other reason that you tell yourself. I know that this sounds harsh to some of you but harshness is what some of you need. A big dose of realness to lift you up and out of your delusion that falling in love and running off with a married man is the right thing to do. It isn’t. Not ever.
4. God Is Not Going To Support You Falling In Love With A Married Man ~ BUT what about forgiveness
As a Christian, your intent may be to jump around with a married man, and then once you have gotten him you may want to ask God for forgiveness and since you are covered by grace you will be forgiven and all would be well. Before I get on with my point I want to tell you a true story.
As I had a conversation with a friend about this topic she asked me. “What if the situation happened to you. If you fell in love with a married man, don’t you feel like God would forgive you?” To that question, my answer is this.
- ” Although God forgives, let’s not use His forgiveness as a crutch to openly sin in His face and call it okay.”
My answer to her was this. I would not have the balls to openly try to steal another woman’s husband then turn around and ask God for forgiveness. I know that it is wrong and I would not want to disrespect God by using His grace to call a wrong a right. Despite popular belief.
- ” Forgiveness does not give us a pass to do whatever we want to do in life and then plead the blood of Jesus when it is convenient for us.”
There needs to be some self-control in all of this.
So many people want to do something bad KNOWING well in advance that they are going to do something bad with the intent of asking for forgiveness. Asking God for forgiveness means that we regret the wrong that we are doing and we seek forgiveness with the intention of not committing the sin again.
How crazy would it be, if a serial rapist raped someone, asked for forgiveness, and the next day rape someone again, asks for forgiveness, and then two days later rape someone again? He is just asking for forgiveness because he feels like that is what he should be doing.
But he is not really sorry, because he keeps doing it. When you ask God to forgive you, God convicts you and you want to make the situation right with God. Not continuing on in your sin. It is the same in this situation if you are trying to steal another woman’s husband, sleeping with him over and over again, plotting, and having the intent to steal the man away from his wife.
Like the rapist, what you really want to do is to feed your flesh and do what you want. You want to keep doing the same thing over and over again, ask for forgiveness because that is what you are supposed to do as a Christian, knowing you have a master plan to keep messing with the married man.
Do you see where I am going with this? By going about things this way, this is NOT true repentance because instead of stopping the sin at onset or even after the first time of you asking for forgiveness you just keep going and committing the same sin again and again.
5. God Is Never Going To Support You Falling in love with a married man because there will be consequences
After reading all of what I just wrote to you, and if you still decide to steal a married man out of his marriage, then you may ask for forgiveness, but also be open to the consequences that may come. For every sin that we commit there are consequences. God’s grace is sufficient and sometimes He gets us out of things and other times He allows us to pay for our sin because He needs us to understand the magnitude of our sin. If we never reaped what we sowed, then we will go around all the time living by the flesh pleading the blood of Jesus because it “sounds” right, when really we are living by our own terms, not God’s terms. The Bible clearly says:
- Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Galatians 6:7
Meaning that you know committing adultery is wrong, you are openly sinning in God’s face trying to call it right, and possibly tearing a family apart in the process. Based on Biblical karma YOU WILL REAP the consequences of what you are putting out. That is the danger of mocking God, disregarding His commandants, and trying to justify your wrongdoing.
How about you bridle your flesh and tell your flesh that you will not satisfy it by stepping into sin with another woman’s husband? How about you trust and believe that God will bring you, your own husband instead of trying to convince yourself that God has brought you another woman’s husband?
God is not going to do that. God says do not commit adultery. God is not a liar and He is NOT going to go back on His word because you want to steal a married man. Also, check out my video on why having too many people in a relationship never works.
If you choose to do so, acknowledge that this is a choice that you have made and do not try to throw it back onto God. And if you do continue on with an affair don’t try to blame God when it blows up in your face. I know I am coming across as very harsh, but this angers me that women want to put themselves in a situation and then try to make an unholy situation holy. It angers me to hear how women are trying to break up families and take husbands away from their wives.
It angers me to hear of the wives sinking down into depression wondering why their husband was taken away by another woman. None of that is okay. God is never going to give you another woman’s husband. The point, blank, period. So if you came to this post hoping that you will hear something otherwise then I am so sorry to disappoint you. I feel it my obligation, to be honest with you. Instead of falling in love with a married man, cut it off and find a man of your own.
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