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I know that the world would have you to believe that sex without commitment, is a liberating experience. That there are no after psychological after affects whatsoever. That you can freely give your vagina to any and every man that you want to, and somehow this should make you feel empowered.
If you have come to this post I want to ask you a question. When you have had sex with a man and you have never heard from him again do you really feel empowered or do you feel like crap? I want you to think about that as you continue to read my post. AND before I continue on this with the post I also want you to check out my video below and subscribe to my YouTube Channel by clicking here.
1. Sex Without Commitment And Is Casual Sex Healthy ~ Free Vagina Really Isn’t Free. It Has A Cost
Is casual sex bad for you? The reason why I wanted you to think about this question is because the world wants you to think that people like me have lost my mind. But I have had sex before and as someone that has been celibate, guess what? I am so much happier now because I do not feel used and abuse. I do not fear ghosting, I am not having casual sex or wondering if or when a man is going to call me back and IF he was serious about me after we had sex. How long this is going to last or even after our “situationship” ends I do not feel like I made a mistake of having sex with him. I do not have to worry about anything of that. THAT MY DEAR is liberation.
And so people like me, who think that you should not freely pass your vagina around like a tray of passed hors d’oeuvre, are seen as having an outdated mind frame in which we want to set women back 100 years. I am the type of person that likes to use common sense.
Do you remember that old children’s tale the Emperor’s new clothes? Where these scammers came and gave the king invisible clothes and told everyone only smart people can see them. So everyone pretended to be able to see these new clothes because they did not want to be labeled as dumb when really the king was walking around naked with no clothes on. And no one wanted to say it, because they wanted to pretend they saw the clothes.
That was a metaphor for sex without commitment. People want to tell you that sharing your body AKA and being nude with no real commitment is no biggie when in fact you cannot even walk outside with no clothes on. Your body is very personal. No one wants to say that it is silly, emotionally damaging, promotes STDs as no contraception is 100%, and against our very human nature as whenever we have sex we attached to the person that we are having sex with hormonally (which I have a video on down below). Like the above story, no one wants to call crazy crazy because they do not want to be the one that looks none progressive of women’s sexuality.
2. Is Casual Sex Healthy Or Bad For You ~ Does Sex Without Commitment Feel Good Forever Or For the Moment
Is casual sex healthy or is casual sex bad for you? I want to give you my perspective. I am NOT a virgin. So, therefore, I am NOT going from a prudish place. I have been on BOTH sides. I am celibate now (click here to read my blog on why) and I can tell you that my celibacy gives me more of a liberation than me having sex with no commitment (which I have done before). I spoke about this in my benefits of celibacy blog (click here), but choosing to not have sex actually gives me more control over my body and my flesh than just giving it to everyone. And it just gives me a peace of mind. If you don’t believe me watch me video on celibacy and see what I mean.
To some of you that may be a lame answer, because to you sex feels good. You do not have a boyfriend and just having sex without a commitment makes you feel great for the moment and you do not have to deal with all the hustle of a relationship. But I can almost bet you just tell yourself that, but you don’t actually believe it yourself.
4. Is Casual Sex Healthy Or Is Casual Sex Bad For You ~ What Is Your Value?
Do you value what you have between your legs so low that you think it should be freely shared with everyone? And I am not trying to be mean at all. But legit, I have seen women not want to touch the door of a public rest room with their hands, but you want to have sex with your vagina with men who are not even commited to you.
How much more private is your vagina. I mean everyone can see your hands, not everyone can see your vagina. I just think the way people value things are little backward sometimes. The idea that its okay for people to freely see you naked but you cannot even touch a bathroom door. Which one makes more sense?
You are saying well I want sex and I am willing to give it to any Tom, Dick, and Harry that comes along. I am going to give them something that is supposed to be precious because I feel that sex can be freely shared with anyone even people I am not commited, that don’t want to give anything to me, who cannot comfort me on a bad day, that cannot help me manage my day to day, that do not want to marry me, and I do not even know if there is a commitment on the horizen.
Then really you are just devaluing yourself to just some sex. And I want to believe that you are much more than that. And that the sex that you have should be more than with someone who sees you more than that. I do not want you to say to yourself and the world this is all I have to offer and the other moving parts that make up me have no value and are not worth getting to know or I am not worth a man putting forth any effort for. Because when you have sex with men without commitmment that is exactly what you are saying. Also check out my video on being a woman worth more than rubies down below.
5. Is Casual Sex Healthy Or Is Casual Sex Bad For You ~ Emotional Fulfillment Or Damaging
And really sex without a commitment is NOT liberating to the woman. You are not using him. He is using you. Because just like he is having sex with you, he is probably getting it from other women, just like you may be getting it from other men, so who is the real winner here? All this is, is a bunch of people swapping bodily fluids with other people trying to convince themselves that this is the life, when really you are probably searching for something deeper. Even if you do not realize it. You may be using sex without commitment as a way to fill a void that maybe you can’t even put your finger on.
If a man having sex with you is all it takes for you to be empowered then you really need to get some better goals. I love you, I don’t know you but I do love you because I am fully aware that I may sound harsh. But I don’t want your goals for your life to just be free sex. Surely you can try harder than that.
Empowerment is starting your own business, empowerment is finishing your degree, empowerment is becoming a millionaire, empowerment is leaving your mark on the world, empowerment is becoming of a woman of good character and standing out among a crowd of women who are doing the same thing and are about the same thing.
Empowerment is not getting banged out for an hour out of the day (if that) and going home only to do it again in two weeks with the same guy, maybe if you are lucky, IF and only IF he answers your text or phone calls. That is called being used. I would at least hope that you are worth a some dates and vacations, perhaps Valentine’s day and Christmas with the family. Not just a few bootycalls in the middle of the night.
Your body is your temple. It is the most precious thing that you can have. So why downgrade your value and what you are worth by just passing it around to everyone. If you feel that way, then why don’t you go to your bank account now, get all of your money, and just start giving it to random people on the street. All the way until you are broke. But you will not do that because money has value, right? And you don’t? Because when you have sex without the commitment that is exactly what you are doing.
Giving your body to everyone, making soul ties with people, giving them apart of yourself they do not deserve, and soon you will be emotionally broken so that when you do want a real relationship you may not have enough in you to really give to someone else who wants to really love you when that time comes. You will be so broke that when it comes time to give your body to someone who has earned it, you won’t even have the money for the investment. Because you have given all that you have a way to other people who do NOT deserve it.
Sex without commitment is not cute, it is not empowering, and it is not feminism. It is selling yourself short. And selling yourself short is real oppression.
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