In this post, I am going to be talking to you about soul ties and answering any and everything that you would possibly need to know about soul ties and why it is detrimental to you if you form a harmful one.
If the word soul tie is new to you or even if you have heard it before but you don’t really understand what it is, why in the world you should be concerned with it, and why you don’t want to create one at all cost; I want to ask you a few questions:
- How many times have you slept with a man and afterward you were completely and utterly drawn to him? Even if he was a jerk and treated you like crap afterward you will felt like you loved him?
- How many times after you slept with a man that you have just felt things going wrong in your life or that you have taken on the other personal issues (mentally and emotionally) after having sex with them?
- How many times after you have slept with a man that you find yourself doing things that you would not normally do or even behaving a way that you would not normally behave?
- How many times after you have slept with a man that you felt immediately connected to him?
- How many times after sleeping with a man have you developed behaviors such as lust (lusting after them long after the sex act is over) or becoming promiscuous with other men especially if you were not like that before?
If you can identify to any of the above statements, then you have been exposed to the negative consequences of a soul tie.
Soul Ties Meaning (in the spiritual sense)
I want to first define a soul tie as it pertains to spirituality. It is a spiritual and or emotional connection that you have with someone after you have had sex with them. Even though that sounds all wonderful it really isn’t. Because depending on who you have slept with and who you have soul ties with, this can actually be detrimental to your spiritual and emotional well being.
Even if you are not even into this whole spiritual stuff and you think that what I am saying is a bunch of hocus pocus and has no legitimate merit. Then I would tell you that you must not be a reader of my blog because I get into all this hocus pocus all the time AND I would tell you that the idea of soul ties can also be explained in an actual scientific manner.
Soul Ties meaning in the scientific sense.
To explain the idea of a soul tie for people who are more scientific in nature, it is normal to feel a sense of attachment after having sex with someone you weren’t really that interested in. And that is because Oxytocin is released into the body during intercourse, a hormone that is linked to “positive social functioning and is associated with bonding, trust, and loyalty.” Thus causing you to feel attached to someone (Source).
That whole scientific explanation sounds a lot like a soul tie doesn’t it? So many non-Christians and even Christians seem to think that the Bible is outdated, but apparently God knew what he was talking about in the sense of soul ties because this is a perfect example of where science and God mix and they both say the same thing but just in different ways. I also have a video on this that you can check out below and don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here.
Soul Ties In The Bible
There are many people who will fight you on if soul ties are Biblical, and I happen to think it is. If you read the Bible and you are looking for the word soul tie then, of course, you are not going to find it. But remember the definition of soul tie and the Bible specifically mentions something very similar.
Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” 1 Corinthians 6:16
Now of course for you to understand the context of this Bible verse and how it relates to soul ties I am going to break it down for you. You may be saying that you do are not a prostitute so that this Bible verse does not apply to you. And you would be wrong.
When you think of a prostitute then you are thinking of someone who sleeps with a lot of people for money. And the Bible verse was saying that when you sleep with someone you become one flesh with them and when you sleep with someone such as a prostitute (who sleep with other people) you also become one flesh with all those people.
Which is why soul ties are so detrimental. When that person has slept with someone else that has also slept with 3 other people not only have they created soul ties with that other person but also the three other people they have slept with because of those three people became one flesh when they slept with them and then you are sleeping with the same person. The result is that when you do, you become one flesh with that person along with the other three people they became one flesh with. Which leads me to the next topic.
Why creating an improper soul tie is so wrong.
I spoke about this in my video that you can see below on why having sex before marriage is so destructive (click here to subscribe to my channel).
BUT when you create a soul tie as a Christian with someone you have to realize that you are sharing your soul with God.
But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit. 1 Corinthians 6:17
As a Christian this should not be news to you but, the whole idea of Christianity when Jesus died that the Holy Spirit was allowed to come and dwell within us. That does not just happen to everyone but of course when you become saved. Which means
The body, however, is not meant for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.” 1 Corinthians 6:13
Yes, your body is meant to pursue the Lord’s purpose BUT NOT ALL sex is bad. God did create sex as that is how most of us got here, but notice he says sexual immorality and to explain what that is you can read my works of the flesh blog. But basically, when you go around having sex with random people you are not married to then in God’s eyes you are committing sexual immorality. And the danger is that is:
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. 1 Corinthians 6:18-19
BOOM and there it is. This means that when you accept the Holy Spirit you have already created a soul tie with God and when you invite soul ties through sexual sin, then you are inviting all their demons, issues, and whatever else into your body WITH the HOLY SPIRIT all of the sin and godliness mixing around. That is what God has a problem with.
Yes, he has it when you lie, steal, and all the other sins but when you sin against your own BODY the same BODY that God himself is in, that he died for this that really pisses him off.
When soul ties are dangerous and when they are not.
Not dangerous when you are married.
Soul ties are not dangerous when you are married to someone. Because sex in the context of marriage is not sin but sex outside of marriage is. And it’s not like God wants to ruin all of your fun:
Marriage is to be held in honor among all [that is, regarded as something of great value], and the marriage bed undefiled [by immorality or by any sexual sin]; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. Hebrews 13:4
Meaning that whatever sexual act you do within the marriage as long as you two are in agreement and no one is getting hurt, then God is like “Hey go for it, you are married, do whatever it is you want? “But it is the sex outside of marriage and adulterers that He will judge. Therefore you can almost bet that a soul tie will negatively affect you when you are using sex as a sin.
They are Dangerous when you are committing sex as a sin and who you have sex with
Remember that Bible verse when it talks about having sex with a prostitute and becoming one flesh with her. Having sex with a prostitute means you will take on her traits. Take, for example, Mary Magdalene a once prostitute was a woman that Jesus cast out seven demons:
And also some women who had been cured of evil spirits and diseases: Mary (called Magdalene) from whom seven demons had come out. Luke 8:2
I bet Mary had gotten those demons from the soul ties that she created from other men she had slept with. And imagine if you were to sleep with someone like Mary then you would also take on those demons. The same can be said for sleeping with someone who is emotionally abusive, who is a narcissist, someone else’s husband, manipulative, selfish, womanizer, and many of the other negative traits that people have. That can come into you when you have sex outside of marriage which is a sin and sin opens you and makes you vulnerable to taking on the harmful effects of soul ties.
Common Soul ties symptoms
Here are some of the common symptoms of soul ties they include but are not limited to:
- Thinking about or longing after for an ex long after you have broken up with them especially if the thoughts are about sex.
- Wanting and longing for a man that you really don’t like after you have had sex with them.
- You are in a physically, and/or emotionally, and/or spiritually abusive relationship, but you feel so attached to them that you cannot cut off the relationship.
- You take on the negative traits of the person that your soul is tied to and carry them with you, even if you did not have these traits before.
- You have simultaneous experiences and/or moods as the person your soul is tied to.
- The inability to stop sleeping with an ex or settling for a sex only relationship well after the relationship is over.
- These relationships become toxic and prevent controlling, manipulative, abusive cycles of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.
- Ungodly soul ties will influence you away from God and towards the feeling of anxiety, depression, heartache, and loneliness; especially when you are separated from the person you are having a soul tie with.
- You are less interested in spiritual matters or you have trouble hearing the voice of God.
Soul Ties Prayer & Spiritual Tips To Get Rid Of Soul Ties
I have a video on how to break soul ties that I highly suggest you check out for additional tips, that you can watch below.
Before I get into the soul tie prayers I would also encourage you to add on additional measures in conjunction with your prayer. In my How I got Over Lust blog I spoke about fasting, prayer, and reading the Bible helped me with this issue. That I, no doubt, got from a soul tie. In any case, say the prayer but also transform yourself spirituality to break a soul tie for good. Also, even though you may not want to you have to stop sinning in sex. If you don’t you are just inviting the soul ties to come back and they will get worse?
When an impure spirit comes out of a person, it goes through arid places seeking rest and does not find it. Then it says, I will return to the house I left. When it arrives, it finds the house unoccupied, swept clean and put in order. Then it goes and takes with it seven other spirits more wicked than itself, and they go in and live there. And the final condition of that person is worse than the first. That is how it will be with this wicked generation. Matthew 12: 43-45
First, you can check out some of my blog posts on learning how to be celibate. I have been celibate for years and so yes it is possible.
Fasting is a great way to get rid of any topic of energy you have in your life. You can click here to see my eBook on spiritual fasting if you want to the encouragement that into getting rid of your soul ties.
On top of changing your behavior here is a prayer to get rid of the ones you have.
I am truly repentant of the sexual act I did leading to the creation of this soul tie. Not only do I ask you to forgive me of my sin but I also ask for your divine intervention to help me in breaking the soul tie as well as releasing the consequences that I have experienced through this soul tie. I know your Holy Spirit dwells in me and I call upon the power of the Holy Spirit to work in my life and in my body. Destroying any soul tie and leftover effects that I have in my body. I also pray, that I am released from any and all individuals that I have a soul tie with (known and unknown) and that from this day forward I am able to go forth as a new being in Christ without anything, anyone, or any soul ties holding me back. And God please help me have the self-control from falling back into sexual immorality and creating additional soul times that can harm me.
In Jesus name, I pray,
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