If He Doesn’t Want You Then Why Do You Want Him?

If he doesn’t want you, if he is not worried about you, or if he doesn’t care about you, then why on earth are you giving him the time of day? I would love to end the post here because it seems like such an obvious answer to a question but as a female myself, I understand that we have ALL been there.

But today is the day you are going to tell yourself that this is the last day that you are going to get yourself out of this nonsense of being stuck on a man that doesn’t want you and that treats you like crap. But yet you are stuck chasing and giving all your love to someone trying to make him see your worth and getting disappointed when it doesn’t. I cannot tell you how many questions I get from females about how in “love” they are with a man that does not want them, has cheated on them, and all the woman can do is sit here and tell me is how heartbroken they are over a man that treats them less than a human being and my only question to them is why are you even giving him the time of day?

I think sometimes we can get our minds so stuck on who we think we want that we overlook the fact that he doesn’t want you back. And that no matter how you feel about someone you cannot MAKE them love you or treat you the way you want to be treated. So, again I ask you if he doesn’t want you, he doesn’t care about you, and he is not worried about you, then why are you worried about him. Why are you trying to MAKE him knowing you can’t and why are you stopping your own life and breaking your own heart for a man could care less or is not willing to do the same for you.

You are a Daughter Of A King & You Have Value

If you are reader of my blog then you should know that I always say that you are a daughter of a king meaning that you are a child of God and I HOPE that you should know that God is not sitting around wanting to send you a man that is doesn’t want you or is going to see your worth. As I said in my video below “A woman worth more than rubies” if God sees you as a woman worth more than rubies which is ones of the rarest gems in the world by the way, why would He want to give you to a man that does not see its worth? Do you really think that God is looking down on you, watching you being dogged out, and that is somehow God’s best for you?

As women, we just have to face the fact that some men are just not used to anything. You can take a man to a nice restaurant, a 5-star hotel, and take him traveling on private jet BUT you cannot make him enjoy it. If he is used to mediocrity or he does not want to enjoy the luxury that you are trying to introduce him to them you cannot MAKE him. Just let him go back to the roach motels and riding in coach if that what makes him happy.

Stop trying to force feed him your greatness or trying to make him appreciate it if he doesn’t want to. Some women think that if he doesn’t want you then you can just MAKE him want you by doing more, loving more, showing more, or being more, and when you show him that you can outshine all the other options that he is thinking about by twirling on your head and doing tricks to show him awesome you are then maybe he will see your worth.

And when he doesn’t you get down on yourself after you have shown him your BEST tricks and he still does not give you the attention that you deserve. When really, he does not deserve any of it. He has not shown you anything or done anything for him to get any of this first-class treatment that you are giving him. Therefore, why you are giving a peasant the royal treatment ALL for him not to even notice that it is the royal treatment. He is happy living out on the street. All of which is NOT your fault.

So, you see, what sense does it make to belittle your value and your worth to prove yourself to a man that is not worth proving yourself to. And no matter how much you try is never going to see your worth anyway?

Give Your Attention to Someone Who Does See Your Worth

In the Bible, Saul was anointed as King until he straight up acted a fool and God’s grace left him and God anointed a new King which was David. But Samuel just could not get over the fact that Saul was no longer going to be king and so God said this:

The LORD said to Samuel, “How long will you mourn for Saul since I have rejected him as king over Israel? Fill your horn with oil and be on your way; I am sending you to Jesse of Bethlehem. I have chosen one of his sons to be king.” 1 Samuel 16:1

I am not sure what happened in your relationship. Maybe it started out all good, maybe he started out giving you all the attention in the world and now all of a sudden he doesn’t want you and you are stuck wondering what in the world happened. Maybe he never wanted you, heck I don’t know. All that matters, is how he is acting in the moment and in the moment he doesn’t want you now, he doesn’t care about you now, he is not worried about you now, and he is not giving to you now, and therefore you need to stop mourning over him and get up because there is a possibility that God has someone else that is MUCH better who does want to treat you right and treat you better.

But you are too busy wanting someone who does not want you to see it. And so, God is looking at you like you are crazy like “HOW LONG ARE WE GOING TO DO THIS!” I have already prepared a new a better man for you that DOES want you but you are too stuck pouting over this ONE that doesn’t want you that you won’t have an opportunity to enjoy the new one who does because you want to sit here in the one spot focused on someone that you know God is pulling you away from. REALLY!

I get that love hurts but I also know that we must use what I like to call common sense. Do not give to someone who does not want to give to you, if he doesn’t want you then you don’t want him if he doesn’t care about you then guess what? You don’t care about him and if he is not worried about you then YOU ARE NOT worried about him. You are not stalking him, sulking over him, and trying to figure out his next move and crying over him when you see that he has moved on and you are mad because he does not want you. That is HIS LOST. Take that love that you had to offer to him and give him to someone who wants to give the same thing to you in return.

Got it. I really do hope so. If you know someone who needs to read this post, then go ahead and share it with her. And, don’t forget to buy my book specifically for single women by clicking here. And if you are not sure then click here and I will give you the first few chapters for free.

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2 Comments

  1. I really don’t get it why women pursue men who don’t envision themselves being with them. Studies have said it’s natural for women to be this way. I know that it’s complicated for good men such as myself finding a suitable mate whereas my friends who aren’t church or spiritual guys,are the ones that are attracting these women. I’m seeing women who are so called spiritual and or Conscious have Relationships with guys who aren’t on their level.
    As a man, I’ve had to do some deep soul searching about who and what I want in a woman and I can say that I know who I am and what I’m tired of. I won’t tolerate the broken woman who has soul ties. I’m ready when my Deborah/ Ruth cross paths with me.

    • I think because women tend to think more with emotion over logic and it is hard for them to let go. Men tend to think more with logic. But I do agree that women have to be more self-aware because as I always say, just like women want good men; men also want good women as well. And men are not always the issue, us women share some of that responsibility. Thanks for your comment.

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