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In this post, I am going to teach you how to create a prayer for a future husband. The first thing I want to tell you is that there is an art to praying for your future husband and as a single woman it is important to pray for your future spouse, but your prayers should not come from a place of desperation and loneliness. (Click here to read more on how to pray).
Here is an example of a prayer, but I also encourage you to come up with your own using their information from this post.
1. Prayer for a future husband the Don’ts way.
There is nothing wrong with praying for a future husband, as long as it does not sound something like this:
God, please bring me, my man, I do not know if I can last another day without him, I am so lonely! And if you do not bring me, my future husband, now, then I won’t believe in you!
This type of prayer God does not appreciate nor will it make God answer your prayers any sooner. As a matter of fact, this prayer is showing God how much you worship marriage.
And any form of idol worship is a work of the flesh (click to read my blog for more on that) as opposed to trusting God to bring you, future husband, you are literally giving him an ultimatum in your prayer telling God that he better do what you say OR ELSE.
If you feel that strongly about getting married to the point that you are willing to threaten God about it, then that is a problem. Anything can be made into an idol.
Even marriage. An idol is something that you worship more than God. And if when you do a prayer for your future husband and telling God that you won’t believe in Him if your husband does not come tomorrow; then who is more important to you? God or your future husband?
Some of the WRONG ways to pray for your husband that I see so many times are:
1. Praying for a man to stop ignoring you and to become your husband
Why this prayer will not be answered: God is not going to impose on someone’s free will and make him marry you if that is not what he wants to do.
2. Praying for someone to leave his wife or girlfriend
Why this prayer will not be answered: Do you really think that breaking up someone else’s relationships is something that God is going to honor? Once again people still have free will and you cannot just say a prayer and impede on what people want to do in their own lives. God may have ordained for them to be together and here you are in the mix trying to tear their situation apart.
3. Praying for your current boyfriend to be the one when it is so obvious that he is not and God has already told you to let Him go.
Why this prayer will not be answered: You can pray for someone but he has to want to change on his own. No amount of prayer is going to make a man who does not want to marry you, marry you if he does not want to. And no amount of prayer is going to MAKE someone the one after God has already told you he is NOT the one.
You want the prayers for your future husband to be effective and praying about the wrong things can take your focus off what you should be praying for.
Also, you should know what type of husband to pray for. This is why I suggest you watch my video on the traits of Boaz. You can create a prayer for your future husband and ask for some of the same traits. Also, don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube Channel by clicking here.
2. Prayer for a future husband DOs
God will honor prayers that are not selfish prayers and prayers that seek to uplift the other person.”
Below are some tips for praying for a future husband.
- I pray that he prospers as his soul prospers. (3 John 1:2)
- I pray that he knows God and grows in his spiritual walk.
- I pray for his career and that he would make a good provider.
- I pray that you (God) are guarding his path to me and preparing him to be a good husband that is appeasing to you (as in God).
Do you see how these prayers are not only different, but are also prayers that would make him a better person, a better man, and a better husband for you?
You can feel free to come up with your own type of prayers but they should really go along the lines of praying for his well-being, for God to watch over him, and for him to be a godly man, that he knows and honors God.
God will honor prayers that are not selfish prayers and prayers that seek to uplift the other person. Do you see how these prayers are not only different but also better than the desperate prayers for a husband?
3. Prayer For A Future Husband Why This Is The Right Way
Marriage is wonderful but marriage will not fix your problems. Marriage won’t make you happy if you are not a happy person. Marriage won’t heal your depression, marriage won’t make you feel whole, and marriage is not the end all be all to your life.
Marriage is not a catalyst for making you happy. You should already be happy and the marriage adds to your happiness.
Marriage is not just for you so if you think that you want to get married to see what YOU can get out of it and how it will make YOU feel more complete then you are going to be set up for a world of disappointment. Marriage is for you two. It is also to push you both toward God.
So if you cannot be unselfish and pray for others when you are single, then how are you going to convince God that you can do it when you are married? Because marriage requires a lot of being unselfish.
If you are praying for your future husband. I encourage you to examine the way you are praying. If they are all about you and your needs, reevaluate not only how you pray but also why you want to get married. Because some people are not ready for marriage (read my blog here).
A prayer for a future husband is not like going through a drive-through, ordering a husband like you would a burger. Telling God to hold the mayo and add more lettuce. And then once you are done ordering you pull up to the window to get your husband. If you want that then I suggest you go to a build a bear workshop.
You do not want a husband you want God to be your genie and pop out whatever man you can see in your head. Marriage is more than that and your husband should be more about that. It should be more so about a purpose and how you two can each other better people. Until you truly grasp this concept God is never going to bring you the husband you desire.
This is why I always suggest leveling up your own life as well so that you can attract someone that matches your awesomeness and that is the art of being equally yoked with I also have a video on that you can watch below.
Prayer For A Future Husband Gone Wrong ~ Case In Point
I want to tell you a story. I can recall I was dating a loser. He was SOOOOO attractive. And so I started praying to God for God to make him my husband. PLEASE GOD PLEASE.
Never mind the fact that he was mean to me and an utter jerk. He had a 6 pack for God’s sake, it was destiny in the making. That is when God spoke to me to look at what is on the inside of a person and do not just get blinded by the superficial stuff.
“Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7
His 6 pack was not going to make him the wonderful God-fearing husband that I needed. And before you get all bent out of shape thinking that God will send you someone you are not attracted to. That is NOT true. He just does not want that to be the only thing that drives you to a man.
What I am teaching you is the same thing I taught myself when praying for a future husband. Some prayers are coming from a selfish place some are not. Praying for a person’s well-being and some are praying for superficial things that you want in a husband. Sometimes I was praying for God to make a man a husband when he clearly wasn’t my man. And I just could not figure out what I was doing wrong BUT really I was praying the WRONG way.
When you consider your prayer for a future husband, then remember if you really want to pray to God about your husband then pray for him about not about him. There is a difference. Pray for him to be a better person, a better person, his life, and to find direction. Pray for God to prepare him to be a good husband when you two meet.
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