8 First Date Tips Absolutely What NOT To Do In A First Date

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In this post, I am going to talk about what not to do on a first date. The whole point of a first date is for it to go well, hopefully, get a second date, and then a third, fourth and you get the picture.

The bigger point of the first date is the set the tone of how you expect things to go. For example, if you go to a fast-food restaurant on the first date and then pay for the entire bill (including his $5 dollar meal) then you have just set a precedent that says that I am a cheap date that you can take anywhere and I will pay. So expect that from now on. 

With that being said, there are 8 other tips that I want to give you on what NOT to do on a first date so that you can have a positive and fulfilling dating experience.  And before we get into it, you may want to check out my video for a real case study on what NOT to do on a date. And subscribe to my channel by clicking here.

You ready? Let’s get into it. 

1. First Date Tips What NOT To Do In A First Date ~ Netflix & Chill

The first of the first dates tips is to not Netflix and Chill. This is not to say that you can NEVER go over to his house or have him come over to yours BUT that is when your relationship is more established. A house date is not a date. That is a come over a chill moment. It is a very lazy way to date and shows no real effort whatsoever. 

The standard that you are setting by having these “come over and chill moments” is that the man will never have to take you on a date.  As in out of the house and to an actual restaurant.  So if you go to your house or his house on the first date, then know that is where you will more than likely spend the rest of your dates. And that is not how you want to start a potential relationship. You will give the impression that you are not worth the effort that it takes to actually plan a date and that you will settle for anything.

2. First Date Tips What NOT To Do In A First Date ~ Don’t Pay for the First Date Or Going Dutch.

I believe in women’s equality I do. But I do not believe in paying for my meal on the first date, let alone paying for both of us on the first date.  Once I went on a date where a man “forget his wallet” and wanted me to pay.  I did pay because I did not want to get arrested.  But I also never saw him again. 

Do not set the tone that you will pay for everything or yourself on the first date, because if you pay for the first date, then you will pay for the second date, and before you know it you will be making his car and his rent payment as well.

If he does not have enough money to take you out on a date then perhaps he should not be dating. And if he does not have enough money to pay for your meal then he should not be asking women on dates or taking them to restaurants that he cannot afford.  Also, check out my video below where I talk more about this.

3. First Date Tips What NOT To Do In A First Date ~ What Not to Do on a First Date Having Too Many Drinks

I like to drink. I cannot tell you how many drinks is too many because it varies from person to person.  What I can say is that you do not need to get drunk.  Or do not even get to get tipsy.  When you have too much to drink you start having diarrhea at the mouth and telling more about yourself that he wants to know. 

Like how you cheated on your ex or how many sex partners you had.  Keep that information to yourself.  Also being drunk compromises your senses.  And you may end up at his house, in the bed, naked, having sex. And more than anything having sex too soon is something you want to avoid. This brings me to my next tip. 

4. First Date Tips What NOT To Do In A First Date ~ No Having Sex

Out of all the first date tips remember this one. I do not care if a man tells you that it does not matter and that he will not look at you differently. HE WILL.  Do not have sex on the first date.  Because even if you have never done it before, in his mind he is thinking that you have done it before. In his mind, he is thinking that if it was that easy to sleep with you then how many other men have you slept with on the first date. 

And just think of it like this. Anything worth having does not come easy. The things that we value the most are things that we worked hard for not things that were just handed to us. So if you just hand over your vagina on the first date it low key says that you are easy and that he does not have to work for you. In a way, you have just cheapened yourself in his mind.  Also, check out my video below on why you should not have casuals sex.

5. First Date Tips What NOT To Do In A First Date ~ Dressing Too Provocatively or Dressing Down

I am not saying that you have to dress like a nun. I encourage you to look sexy.  But in a classy way.  No one wants to see your butt cheeks on the imprint of your lady parts.  If you can see these things then you need to change.  It send the message that you are only a sex partner and not a life partner. On the reverse side do not dress to down. 

If a man comes to pick you up and he is in a tie and slacks and you are in jeans, a tee-shirt, and some Ugg boots.  That is not a good look.  He will think that you are not used to going anywhere because you cannot even dress properly for the date. Therefore, he would not want to take you anywhere because who wants to show up on a date with little miss rag a muffin. Men are visual creatures so you really need to put any effort into your appearance when you go out on a date and not just come out looking any kind of way. 

Also, check out my capsule wardrobe eBook, which you can click here to download for free. That will teach you how to dress appropriately for a date. Check out my video below on some of the outfits, I made from the items in my ebook.

6.  First Date Tips What NOT To Do In A First Date ~ Don’t Allow Yourself to be Disrespected.

I know that no one would knowingly allow themselves to be disrespected. On the first date, a man tried to get me to give him a lap dance and come back to his hotel room.  Of course, I did not go, but these are just examples of how a man will try to disrespect you. Test your limits and see how far they can push and how much you will let them get away with. 

 Do not allow that to happen.  Do not allow any man to force you to do to anything that you do not want to do or that you are not comfortable with. Do not allow a man to just talk to you any kind of way, critique your appearance, or give you a back handed compliment. If he does any of these things, don’t get mad or loud on the date. BUT do address his disrespectful behavior in a way that lets him know you are not about men treating you any type of way. 

7. First Date Tips What NOT To Do In A First Date ~ No Being On The Phone or Social Media 

The whole point of a date is to get to know each other.  You cannot do that if you are always texting someone else or updating your Facebook status.  Taking a picture of him, your food, and then yourself to post on Instagram. It is just plain tacky and rude. And that goes for him too. Neither of you should be so engaged on your phones that you forget that you are actually on a date with one another. 

8. First Date Tips What NOT To Do In A First Date ~ Not Knowing How To Act

So the man could be nice trying to show you a good time.  But if you do not know how to act that is a big turn off.  If you are loud in the movies or even in the restaurant a big turn off. If you talk to the waiter like he is your dog a big turn off.  If you act like you have no home training what so ever that is a big turn off. 

Have some manners.  Know how to say please and thank you.  Do not complain about a date or be loud for no reason.  No one wants to go on a date with someone that they are embarrassed to be seen in public. And no one wants to be on a date with someone that is just a Debbie downer and complains about every single thing.

Dates are supposed to be enjoyable and your presence on a date should make a man feel like he is enjoying himself not like he needs to see a therapist after being with you.  Also, check out my video below for other behaviors that turn men off.

So there you have it, all 8 tips on what NOT to do on a first date. If you know a dating woman that is having trouble in her dating life then please feel free to share this post with her. 

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  1. I think another mistake that can be made is talking too much! No one wants to only hear about you. It’s important to make sure the conversation is balanced.

  2. I think you shouldn’t even have your phone out on a date unless on of you is a doctor or has a child or sick relative you’re responsible for. I have done the two many drink thing before, years ago but looking back they weren’t the right guy for me any way. Great dating tips.

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