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I am going to teach you how not to care what people think. This is important because if you start caring too much about what people think then you still start making your decisions based on other people and not your own opinions. Before we continue I want you to answer a few questions.
- Are you the type of person that will NOT do something that you really want to do because of other people’s opinions?
- Are you the type of person that always asks other people what you should do and cannot make a decision on your own?
- Are you the type of person that will change your thoughts and opinions based on what other people think?
- Are you so worried about what other people think that you get depressed or even anxious?
If, so then congrats because you suffer from the I care too much what other people think syndrome and I have been sent here to heal you of that affliction. Also, check out my video that will also help you learn how not to care what people think, and don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel.
1. How not to care what people think, you have other things that need your attention
Whenever I feel compelled to think too much about what other people think I remember the following statement:
“I have more important things to worry about, which means I don’t have time to worry about you.”
When I say this statement, what I mean is that I have too many things going on in my life, and I cannot sit a worry about why you do not like me. Why you are jealous of me (see my blog here) I cannot sit and worry about your mental issues. I cannot sit and worry about your insecurities. I cannot sit and think about what you want me to do with my life because I am too busy living my own life. You have more important things to worry about.
What do you care about what other people think? You have other things you need to be doing. You have a purpose you need to be moving toward, you have a goal that you are trying to achieve, you have children that you need to raise, or you have a marriage that you need to focus on. Let the positive things in your life be your focus, not the negative.
2. When you don’t have time to worry about other people typically you:
- Need to be secure in yourself
- Need to be decisive in the direction that you are going.
- Have high self-esteem
- Trust yourself
- Busy leading a purpose-driven life.
How not to care what people think ~ Case in point: MYSELF
I have three degrees my highest being a Ph.D. When I started this blog and even started getting into the beauty community many people that I knew were like “umm why.” Why do you want to blog when you can do many other things with your Ph.D. Why do you want to talk about beauty and fashion? It makes NO sense. When I started blogging I had another blog and I started several years ago when blogging was not really a thing. People did not even know that this was something that you could make money from and they thought I was insane for an educated person to do.
But then I went back to this checklist that I just told you about. I trusted myself, my talents, what I wanted, and I begin to be busy doing me. SOOOO busy that I did not have time to listen to other people’s doubts about what I was doing in my life. And behold. Now I have a successful blog, books, and I literally reach people all over the world. This is what makes me happy. And had I took the time out from what I was doing to listen to other people then none of this would have been possible. The reason why it was possible is that I had too many other things of MY own to worry about and to do. I spent my time focused on these things and not what other people were saying about them.
3. How Not To Care What People Think ~ They Are Just People & Not God
As a Christian, I have learned how not to care what people think. I have learned that I have to live my own truth and not the truth of the world. When I became celibate everyone thought I was insane. Why do you want to stop having sex? They judged me for it and they made fun of me for it. That is why I want to take the following verse.
- “If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you. ” John 15:19
This means that we have to live in the world. We are people, we need oxygen, we need gravity, and we need plants and clean water, we need all the things of the Earth, and we have to live here. But just because we are here on planet Earth does not mean we have to be of the world and feed into other people’s nonsense.
It does not mean that we have to care about what other people think and how they judge us. It does not mean that we need to compromise ourselves and seek validation from other people and it does not mean that we have to live our lives based on what other people say and think of us.
When you remove yourself from worldly thinking, it means that you do not have to feed into every negative idea or thought that someone feeds into your heads. It means that we do not have to be influenced by the craziness around us (read my blog here on how to deal with jealous people). It is okay to be selfish (read my blog here).
If other people’s insanity is causing you to go insane then you need to choose not to deal with those people. There are a whole bunch of crazy things going on in the world with a lot of crazy people in it. With that being said you can choose to live in the world because you have to, but not be of it.
Meaning that you can remove yourself from situations and you can ignore people that are not conducive to your own personal growth. I mean think about it. No one in this world is perfect, so why waste your time listening to and caring about what a bunch of imperfect people thinks about you.
4. How not to care what people think ~ Don’t Get Mad But Be Glad
The way I see it is that if other people are talking about me, then I must be giving you something to talk about. The only people that are going to talk about you are people who are worried about what you are doing. I mean think about it, why on Earth would someone take time out of their busy schedule to think and/or talk about you SOOOO much.
You only get to live each moment once and these other people have spent their time thinking and or talking about you. That is what they chose to waste that moment on. So instead of being offended about it, get glad about it. That means that there is something about you that attracts so much of their attention that they are somehow worried about you. And if they are worried about what you are doing then you must be doing something right. Because those people have now made you the center of their world.
The way I see it, if other people want to give me power over them, talk about me, or worry THAT much about what I am doing then they can watch me run circles around them because I have more important things to worry about (remember the first tip). I have to step into my calling, my passion, and my goals.
I have to keep working and keep climbing, I cannot focus on if you are talking about me or not, what you think about me or not, or what you think I should be doing, where I am going, how I look, or if I should be married. When there are other people more worried about how I live my life than how they live their own that is something that gives me flattery. Also, check out my blog on how not to care about people not liking you
Remember this: If no one is thinking about you, then you must not be someone that is worth paying attention to. Instead be flattered that someone else is wasting so much time, effort, and energy worrying about what you are doing. And the more that they try to bring you down, the more it should make you want to go higher in what you are been doing.
“If someone wants to hate on you, then make sure you give them plenty of reason by living your life to the fullest and going above and beyond what they thought you were capable of.
Remember that you have more important things to worry about. And if you are too busy focusing on the important things in your life then you do not have time to worry about the unimportant things, unimportant people, or what those unimportant people think.
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