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In this post, I am going to give you some good old fashion Christian advice on dating. If you are a Christian woman looking to date then, of course, there are some Christian dating boundaries that you need to stick to. And furthermore, if you are a Christian woman then I am pretty sure that it is your goal to find a good Christian man (AKA an equally yoked partner) to share your life with.
So when I mention these tips I know for a fact that some of you are not going to be feeling it because it may make you sound like a prude. But either you want God to take over your relationships or you want to keep doing it getting the same exact tired behind results that you have been getting with the same tired men. Also, check out my video below to see more Christian dating tips.
If you are a single Christian woman asking God to send you a man then you need to go about this whole dating thing God’s way. I am going to be so real with you for a minute and possibly even piss a few of you off when I say this: so many Christian women want to be halfway in and halfway out. You say you want God and what God has to offer, but then when God requires that you do something even if it means not have sex, you act like you can’t do it. Now either you want God in your relationship status situation or you don’t. Pick and choose a side because you cannot have it both ways. I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! So, because you are lukewarm — neither hot nor cold — I am about to spit you out of my mouth. Revelation 3:15-16 (NIV)
So if you are ready for a change, some great Christian advice on dating, and you are tired of doing the same old same old then what do you have to lose? If you want to be a good Christian woman attracting a good Christian man then don’t be in and out regarding your dating practices. As I give you these tips don’t think that I am being a prude or that I want to just ruin all your fun. It is the opposite. I am trying to help you increase the likelihood of you attracting the type of man you want and repelling the ones you don’t. And don’t forget to check out my top tips for single Christian women and subscribe to my YouTube Channel for more content.
Now, let’s get into it, shall we?
Christian Advice On Dating 1. Get Someone who shares your beliefs.
The first Christan advice on dating, get someone who believes in God. I mean come on now, I think it should go without saying that you should be dating someone who is equally yoked with you. When we talk about being equally yoked, I am going to refer to the very basic definition as it states in the Bible:
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14
Granted each person may not worship the same or have the exact level of spirituality, but in Christian dating, you should at least be dating someone that is Christian. The whole point of having a godly relationship is that God will be in the center of your relationship. It is going to be hard to have a godly relationship with someone who does not believe in God. That is why it is important to have someone who is equally yoked with you (see my blog here).
As I also said in my book Fix It Jesus For Single Women Only (click to buy).
For myself and for many Christian women, God guides your steps always (Proverbs 16:9). If the man you are dating is not listening to God, then who is guiding his steps? And if no one is guiding his steps, then where are you two going? You should want to be with a man that pushes you closer to God and not away from God. He could be the finest man that you ever did see, but if he is not a believer like you, then let go and let God. Do not try to “save his soul” to make him a good fit and do not throw Jesus out of the window because you want to be with him. You cannot change people; only God can.Remember, I am giving you the first chapter for free. Just click here to get it. Also check out my video down below on the dangers of picking someone who is unequally yoked with you.
Christian Advice On Dating 2. No sex AKA Celibacy
The second Christian advice on dating, I am going to just say it, single Christian women, you are going to have to stop a few things. And sex outside of marriage in one of those things. We know it’s wrong, God says its wrong. So before you give me a bunch of its and or buts about the whole celibacy thing then understand that literally, the Bible says to not do it and certainly you are not trying to argue with the Bible.
But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity,or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. Ephesians 5:3
BUT more than anything, not engaging in sex outside of marriage is for your benefit (which I talk about in my video below). I mean just think about it. Have you ever had sex with a man that you regretted it? He ghosted you afterward or you had sex with a man that you are not with anymore? Just think if you were celibate you probably would not have to experience the pain of them leaving had you NOT had sex with them. Without sex, you rid yourself of lust and you can see the person for who they really are. Sex can confuse things and sex can make you think that you are in love with someone when really you are just in lust. There are also other benefits to celibacy which you can read here.
But the most important one, in my opinion, is that it keeps men who are really NOT that interested in you and only want to get in your pants, away. If they are not getting sex and they are only there for the sex then they are going to leave. I also know that your fear may be that you find a man you like, tell him you are not going to have sex with him, and then he leaves.
Well first, I am celibate and have been for many years (click here to find out why) and I can say that no man that was REALLY feeling me and liked me left because I did not want to have sex with him. The ones who did leave, left because they only wanted sex anyway and the ones that kept dating me wanted me for me. And when it did not work out with these men because I did not have sex with them it was really no harm no foul. I want to take another excerpt from my book “Fix it Jesus For Single Women Only (click to buy).”
Many men may try to tell you that because you have already had sex that you do not have the right to be celibate. Then you will give in to having sex because you do not want to lose him. You do what he tells you to do even though your celibacy is important to you. Remember this: no one has the right to tell you what you should and should not be doing with your body. Or better yet, tell him to empty out his bank account and give the money to you. He will probably tell you that you do not have the right to his money because you are not his wife and he has no obligation to you. This will prove your point. You have no right to tell him what to do with his money, just like he does not have the right to tell you what to do with your body because you have no obligation to him.
And the main point here is just like you do not own his money he does not own your body and access to your body is what he will get if or when he becomes your husband. So if your ultimate goal is that you are dating to get married then why would he buy the cow if he is getting it for free.
Christian Advice On Dating 3. Do not put yourself in a compromising position
The third Christian advice on dating is something I spoke about this before in past blog (click here). The best Christian dating advice that I can give you is that you need to be intentional about the no sex rule. There is no verbally saying that you do not want to have sex and in the same breath you go to his house at 11 p.m, with a bottle of vodka in your hand, your bikini line shaved, and you wearing a thong.
You already know where situations like that will lead. And when it leads to sex, the “oops it just happened” is not an excuse, when you put yourself in that position in the first place. I cannot tell you what you can and cannot do exactly because each person’s temperament is different.
Some people can hang out one on one and not have sex and someone people that once they are alone they cannot help themselves. However, you should know your triggers and you should just use common sense. If you know you will be tempted to have sex when going on a vacation with a man even if you book separate rooms, then don’t go. And common sense is not laying in a man’s bed half naked to watch television at 2 am in the morning. So just be intentional about the situations you put yourself in. Realize that if you want to be seen as a Christian then you need to act as such. Which brings me To my next point.
Christian Advice On Dating 4. Practice What You Preach
The next Christian advice on dating is that one of the worst things a Christian woman can do is not be who she says she is (see my blog here). If you say, you want to abstain from sex and then at every chance you get you “accidentally” sleep with a man, the man may sleep with you but really he is losing respect for you. If you say you are a good Christian woman but every chance you get you to curse like a sailor, gossip, and are rude then that is going to change his perception of you.
All this means is that if you are a godly woman then be a godly woman if you are an unbeliever then be that, but do not be both. Choose a side. There is nothing worse than a woman saying that she is godly, but deep down she is a Jezebel (which I have a video on down below by the way). It will make you look fake and it will be hard for any man to trust you if are not who you portray yourself to be.
To further prove my point I want to give an account of Esther which I also wrote a blog about her here, it is showing the importance of having a GOOD reputation when it comes to relationship.
Now Esther was winning favor in the eyes of all who saw her. Esther 2:15
Queen Esther was not fake, backstabbing, conniving, rude, or cold-hearted. She was a woman who people loved to be around and for that the king chose her. So if you are a Christian woman then don’t be one of those fake ones that say one thing on Sunday and every other day of the week you are the devil. Just like you are looking for a godly man the man you are dating is looking for a godly woman and if that is you, you need to be that and not be wishy-washy with your faith or who you are as a Christian.
Christian Advice On Dating 5. Put Some Clothes On.
The next Christian advice on dating is to be mindful of your clothes. I am so passionate about this that I am actually going to to start with a Bible verse that backs up what I am saying. Because even if you don’t like hearing these things from me then surely as a Christian you can accept that it came from the Bible.
I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. 1 Timothy 2:9
I believe in being cute and I also believe in being classy, but let me be real with you. This whole “I can wear my breast out, my butt out, and have my camel toe out and no man better say anything to me and yes I am still a Christian woman” attitude has to stop so stop slut-shaming me. Girl stop playing! Of course, men are going to look at you as just sex because you look like a big ball of sex. The same effort it took you to walk around half naked is the same effort it could have taken you to put some clothes on. I am not telling you to dress like a nun because I don’t dress like a nun. What I am telling you is to respect yourself and that is reflected in the way that you present yourself. If you would not wear it in front of God, do not wear it in front of the man you are dating. A godly man will understand and respect a woman who is not letting everything that the good Lord gave her hang out. A godly man will also respect a woman that is not out here trying to look overly sexy for attention.
And this really goes with the last two tips that I previously gave you. How can you present yourself as a good Christian woman with everything hanging out. AND when you dress provocatively around someone you are dating and are attracted to you are putting you both in a bad position to slip up. If you look like sex then it is possible that you two will end up having sex. If you are at lost on what to wear then you may want to get my year long capsule wardrobe ebook that is 100% free. It will give you fashionable and appropriate outfits suggestion for what to wear on all occations even a date. Click here to download 100% FREE.
Christian Advice On Dating 6. Pray About It
The last Christian advice on dating is to pray. The wonderful thing about being a Christian is that you are trying to do things God way and as a Christian, you have the ability to pray and talk to God about any situation.
Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. Philippians 4:6
In other words, you can pray about anything and God can give you the answer to anything. When you are dating someone pray for God to give you the strength to not have sex, pray about if you should even be wasting your time with this guy, and pray about a man’s intentions for you. I am a firm believer in not wasting time on men who are not really meant to be in your life anyway and will end up causing you more harm then good. So praying about it and really opening your eyes to a man’s true intentions and who he really is instead of him showing you what he wants you to see about himself is important and requires discernment from God.
There you have it, here are 6 amazing pieces of Christian advice on dating that I feel you just NEED to follow as a Christian woman. It protects you by keeping you from sleeping around, keeping you from being unequally yoked with men, and really helps you date Christian men that have a similar belief system and are looking for what you are looking for in a relationship.
If you know a Christian woman who is dating then be sure to share these Christian advice on dating tips with her. AND I know that I have given many experts of my book “Fix It Jesus, For Single Women Only” that I actually want to give you the first chapter for free. Just click here or the picture below.