6 Tips For How NOT To Feel Lonely And Single

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Are you a single Christian woman and you want to know what does the Bible says about being lonely and single? I am glad that you came to this post to get the answer to your questions. Because the first step is admitting you have a problem.

If you know that you are lonely and single and you know that you need God’s help to help you figure some things out then you are admitting that the current state that your mind is in, is not okay.

Not only am I going to tell you what the Bible says about being lonely and single, but I am also going to encourage you to cultivate that relationship with God for Him to get you through your single and lonely state. Anyone can read the Bible and quote a few verses, BUT it is not really going to sink in until you allow God to help you determine how the Bible verses apply to your life.

According to 2 Timothy 2:7 it states “Consider what I say, for the Lord will give you understanding in everything.”

Meaning that read the Bible because that is what the Lord says, but also go to the Lord so that He will give you an understanding of what you just read. Oh yes, but first watch my video on my top tips for single Christian women, and don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here.

1. Lonely And Single What Does The Bible Say?

” Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9

“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10 

Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”  Deuteronomy 31:6 

“For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39

These verses are a reminder that you are never alone if God is with you. He says it so many times. So many people do not understand that their relationship with God is the best relationship that you can ever have.  And even if you feel lonely and single, you have to understand that you are never really alone as long as you have God.

I know it can be hard because God seems like some guy in the sky that seems so far away, but that is so far from the truth (Click my blog here on how to talk to God). This just means you need to work on your relationship with God so that he does not seem far away.

Many people get upset because they feel like they do not have a boyfriend, girlfriend, or regular friends they can turn to with all of their problems. But why can’t God be that person for you?

So instead of saying that you are single and lonely, why don’t you say that you feel distant from God and you do not feel His presence? Because He is there, and if you do not feel Him then you need to work on the relationship with Him so that you can always feel Him around you.

Because while you are at home on a Friday night complaining how lonely and single you are and how no one loves you, God is just sitting there waiting for you to realize that He is there.

When you feel that people are letting you down and no one can be what you want them to be, God is screaming to your spirit telling you that He is that person.  Also, check out my video on how to become the woman God wants you to be.

So  Cheer Up

“A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit.” Proverbs 15:13

Some of us continually walk around in ignorance and self-pity asking God why He is allowing other people to hurt us. Why did this man dump us and instead of getting over it you sit and feel all lonely and depressed about it?

As I have mentioned in my getting over a breakup blog, it is okay to feel sad but eventually, you need to build a bridge and get over it. Instead, change your heart and be cheerful instead of wallowing in the spirit of brokenness.

2. Feeling Lonely And Single? Remember God First

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” Matthew 6:33 

I wrote about this in my Bible verses for a single women blog. Even when you feel that you are single and lonely instead of festering in that mindset why don’t you focus on God, what God wants you to do, improving yourself, and just seeking His kingdom?  God has already told us that when we do that, ALL things will be added on to us. And that includes relationships BUT GOD needs to be first.

This was one of the main things that I said in my video ” Why isn’t God giving me what I want.” Well, it could be because you want something else more than him and that should not be.  Watch my video below.

3. Lonely And Single Why Not Celebrate Your Single

 “I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided.

An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:32-35

And don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life. 1 Corinthians 7:17. 

Instead of sitting around feeling sorry for yourself for being single, however about you realize that there are things that you can do while you are single that you may not be able to do while you are married.

Enjoy this season in your life. So many people want the greener grass of a married woman without knowing how much work she puts in to get her grass that green.

How much she has to work on her marriage or what is going on beyond closed doors that you do not even know about. So while you are all single, lonely, and depressed.  There is a married woman there that rushed into marriage, wanting to trade places with you, wishing that they were still single.

Instead, choose to chase your purpose and not the man. I have a video below that you can watch.

4. When You Are Lonely And Single Why Not Pray?

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Philippians 4:6

Instead of wasting your time feeling anxious and depressed about your relationship status go to God and pray. When I say to pray to understand that prayer does not have to be some formal ritual that is only said before meals and bed.

It is a simple conversation with God (see my blog here). He loves when you tell Him your frustrations, your shortcomings, your expectations, and how you feel you have failed, how you are lonely, depressed, and how you are upset about being single.

He loves to hear all the things that you cannot tell other people. After all, He knows everything that is in your heart. He is so tired of you trying to hide it from him and claiming that you are alone when in fact He has and never will leave you or forsake you.

So many of us have such a detached perspective of God, that we just get in our feelings and shut God out. We forget to pray, talk to him, and go to Him in our time of need.

So instead of getting all bent up and out of shape about being single and lonely, go to God with everything with prayer and petition Him to help you get over the hurdle that you are in.

Above all remember, you are never alone. God is always with you, He can be a boyfriend, father, mother, husband, provider, lover, friend, all that you ever wanted. Soon you will find that nothing in this world can disappoint you, because you know who you belong to.

God is the king of kings and therefore as His child, you are a rightful heir to his throne. Once you grasp this concept, you will not feel lonely. You will feel loved and complete through the one who knows you and ordained your existence.

If you know a fellow single woman that is feeling lonely and depressed, then share this post with her.

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  1. Great read! Love this blog! I think that even with strong spirituality and faith, humans naturally require companionship. One of the reason why God created Eve was because Adam was lonely and craved companionship. One of the reason the bible encourages us to go to church is to fellowship with other believers (socialize). I think its great to stress not to rely on companionship for your source of happiness, however it is definitely essential.

    • Yes I agree. But I think it is bad when people get too needy and rely on other people as their only source of happiness. People are not perfect and if you rely on people for you to be happy and they let you down, then you will fall apart. That is why I feel one must learn to be content in all things. This way you know how to look for healthy relationships and not toxic abusive one.

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