What is lust? Well we know what lust is but I should say I am going to explain what lust is from a Bible standpoint. As someone who once suffered from lust (click here to read that post) and was healed from it I can tell you first hand that it comes in many forms and it is something that you do not want to be slave to.
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What is Lust the straight forward answer directly from the Bible.
The straight forward answer is that lust falls into the works of the flesh. You can also read my blog here on works of the flesh. But also read the following Bible verse:
The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity, and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. Galatians 5:19-21
The first exaplanation of lust is probably the MOST understanding in the sense that acting out lust in a physcial way. As in being sexual immoral or having orgies. In normal people terms that is just spreading your sex around like a tray of food to any and everybody, with no sense of self control or emotions attached.
If you have ever been in a sitaution where you have seen a man on site and you have just wanted to screw his brains out then guess what that is lust. You don’t know him but the only thing that you want to do is to sleep with him and really you don’t even know who this person. The only attraction that you have to this person is the fact that you looked at them, was attracted to them, had sexual thoughts about them, and now you want to sleep with them. That is lust. There is literally no love attached to anything of that just the thought or the need to act out sexually. That is the desire to want to sexually act out on someone soley in a physical way. BUT notice, what comes before the act of sex. It is the thought of sex. Take the following Bible verse:
You have heard that it was said, You shall not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:27-28
Remember the example I gave above. It is rare that you just jump in the bed with someone NORMALLY you first think about jumping in bed with them first and that too is lust. Most people underestimate lust thinking that as long as they do not act on someone in a physical sense then it is not lust. That is not true. Simply thinking about it is also lust. The reason being is because the physical act starts first with the thought. And then the thought is acted upon.
And although it sounds extreme, the Bible tells us that if you lust after someone then you are pretty much already having sex with them. I know the Bible can be so harsh when it comes to these things. You may be thinking, okay well is it not better to just think about someone in a sexual way and NOT have sex with them. In your mind, lusting after someone may be keeping you from having sex with them, but there is still a danger to it.
Which brings me to my next point.
What is Lust and Why is It a Sin
One thing that the Bible teaches us, is what a man think in his heart so is he (Proverbs 23:7). Meaning that whatever you think is what you become. Which is why thinking about lust is so bad because once you think about it so much then you are going to act on it. And once you continue to act on it then your lust will become normal to you and you will think that nothing is wrong with it. I know that this was my issue. So what I had a thought here, or there, about this guy. But then it continued and got worse, and there lies the issue. This is because it happened overtime and got worse over time I failed to see “the issue” in it. Until I rid myself of lust that is when I looked back and saw it was an issue.
Matthew 5: 29 it states
“If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.”
What this verse says is that if your eye causes you to lust then it is best to remove it from your head and walk around and be without one eye, then to have it and it causes you to sin.
In this case I did not need to chop off my body parts BUT I did choose to become celibate in order to gain control of the lust issue I had and then I saw that I did have a problem, once the “eye” for lack of a better word was taken away. For more on that watch my video below on celibacy.
The Danger of Keeping Lust In Your Mind
This may get a little extreme here but I want you to rock with me a second on what I am about to say. When you think about the some of the serial killers or even pedophiles, more often than not they start off with fantasies about killing people or molesting children, then they start to plan it out in their head on how they are going to do it, and then they do it.
That is because your mind as a lot of power and allowing thoughts to fester in your brain, including lust, gives it the power to grow and grow and grow. And sooner or later you act on it, then you act on it again, and your lust grows stronger and stronger and soon you are just sleeping with everyone. You quickly become what you thought, and it manifested itself into something bigger. So big, that you then have a hard time controlling it and soon it is controlling you.
That is when we you get things like sexual addiction, married men who say they love their wives but they cannot help but to have sex with every woman they see, porn addictions, or all these weird sexual desires that continue to get more and more outrageous because it started with a small lust and now the lust has an appetite that cannot be fulfilled. As a result, you are now having orgies and going to swing clubs, passing yourself around and sharing your body with everyone. As someone in the mental health field and I have actually counseled people with some of these issues, I never underestimate how these issues started and how BIG they can become if lust is not controlled to the point that it can ruin a relationship.
I have had married men unable to connect on a more intimate level with their wives because they were so used to having sex with so many people that they just viewed them as sexual objects. Now making sex an act that they do to “get off” rather than an act that they do to emotionally connect with another person. And that is a problem. A problem that started from lust.
Now That You Know What Lust Is, How Do You Deal With It
Lust is something that you can cure so to speak. I know this because I use to suffer from it and now I don’ (read my post here). I will tell you how I personally dealt with it.
Fasting. I have an entire blog on spiritual fasting, and for me, this is the best way to get rid of lust. For myself, I went on a water fast for three days. And it was hard. Not just the fast but a fast from lustful thoughts. On top of fasting, I listened to so spiritual music, and I pushed out any lustful thoughts that came into my head. Also, I have a fasting ebook that will teach you how to go through that process. Click here to buy.
When you fast you are telling your flesh that you have control over your body. Over what it wants and over what it does. That is why spiritual fasting has been used so many times in the Bible (click here to read my blog). It is like saying I do not care if I am hungry or what my body is saying I control my body, not the other way around. And it is the same way for with lust. When you are consumed with lust, your body will start to think that you NEED it and you don’t. So when you gain control over your flesh and teach your body that it does NOT need sex, to day dream about sex, or to just have sex with people on site to the point that you cannot control it; that is when you can control your lust.
Remove the Temptation. I am celibate (read my blog here on why). There are spiritual benefits to celibacy which I spoke about in my blog here. BUT when it comes to lust there is a reason why you must remove the temptation, meaning that you stop having sex all together unless you are married.
Matthew 12:43-45 States
When an impure spirit comes out of a person, it goes through arid places seeking rest and does not find it. Then it says, I will return to the house I left. When it arrives, it finds the house unoccupied, swept clean and put in order. Then it goes and takes with it seven other spirits more wicked than itself, and they go in and live there. And the final condition of that person is worse than the first.
When it comes to driving out something such as lust, you must always keep it under control. It is like alcoholism. Once a person is an alcoholic, most of the time they cannot drink again because even a small drink is like poison to them and will turn them back into an alcoholic.
It is the same thing with lust, once it is removed, it will try to come back. And if you are allowing yourself to still be tempted by the flesh, it will come back 10 times worse than before. Because like the parable the lust will try to return, and it won’t be by itself but with a whole lot of other issues that will make you worse than before. Therefore once you have your lust under control it is important to keep it under control.
Once you get rid of the temptation then you will not give in to the lust. You would never take a recovering heroin addict to a place where they sell drugs. Because once that addiction has happened, even though the person is recovered they still are highly susceptible to slipping. Especially when put in the wrong situation. If there is somewhere you go and you see certain people that are causing you to lust, then do not go there. So don’t tell yourself that you can just up and watch porn and that you can fight lust when really you won’t. Watching porn after you have been cured from lust will leave the door open to lust again.
Now that you know what lust is, you know how you can control, and you know that it should not be your way of life. It is like a drug that will have control over you if you do not conquer it. Trust me, I know. I am not telling you that sex is bad, because sex is how most of us got here. BUT lust is not just sex, it is a sexual afflication that had control of your actions and your thoughts and cannot be controlled. That is a difference.