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I had the chance to give an interview for a podcast in which I spoke about Christian single moms and dating. And all of the tips came from my daily devotional for single mother book “Fix It, Jesus! For Single Moms Only: The Straightforward No-Nonsense Guide To Passion, Purpose, & Prayer” which you can click here to buy.
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1. Christian Single Moms Remember Tip ~ You can be complete on your own.
This first tip for Christian single moms came from day 8 of my daily devotional for single mothers and it is called you are complete on your own. The following tip is an excerpt from my book:
As a single mother, I think the most natural thing that so many women want to do is to hurry back into a relationship or hurry up and get a man. They miss being married, coming home to someone, or having that father figure for their children.
So they rush into their next relationship or going out every night to find a man, thinking that is the key to being happy. This behavior is a sign of the emptiness that you have in yourself and in your heart. And the only thing it is going to make you do is jump in a relationship with someone else who is probably not right for you, causing you even more emptiness.
In order to be happy as a single, you have to realize that you are enough. You should already feel happy on your own and just realize that the person you end up with will add on to your own happiness, not define it.
“How you present yourself to the world is the way in which other people perceive you. “
If you come across like a desperate or self-conscious woman, that is what other people will think about you. If you come across like a confident woman and a child of God, that is how people will treat you.
Let me tell you the story of the prodigal son.
“There was a man who had two sons. So he divided his property between them. The younger son set off for a distant country and there squandered his wealth in wild living. After he had spent everything, there was a severe famine, and he began to be in need. He longed to fill his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating, but no one gave him anything.” Luke 15: 11
“When he came to his senses, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired servants have food to spare, and here I am starving to death!’” Luke 15:17
In the story, the son finally came to his senses. He remembered who he was. He remembered that he did not have to starve, eating, and picking up behind pigs. He remembered his position, and he remembered that he could go back home to a place in which he did not have to suffer like he was. He remembered that he did not have to depend on other people for food or allow other people to treat him badly. And so he decided to go back to his RICH father, and his father welcomed him with open arms.
In case you are not getting it, the prodigal son is you. Many women go out into the world searching for love in all the wrong places, looking for things to make them feel fulfilled, and allowing men to treat them badly and walk all over them. Really, all you had to do is come home to the Father to feel fulfilled. You do not need anyone else to do that for you.
” How many of us daughters of the King have gone and wasted all of our wealth and are out here living like peasants, forgetting that we are princesses?”
Forgetting that we have a wealthy father at home who can save us AND welcome us with open arms no matter what we have done? It is time that you start behaving like a daughter of the highest God. Never think that a man or any other person should define you.
You are complete on your own and the daughter of a king. Never forget that. Also, feel free to check out my video below for more on being a daughter of a king. And don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here and check out my separate blog post as well.
2. Christian Single Moms Remember You Can Still Have Your King.
This second tip fpr Christian single moms came from day 23 of my daily devotional for single mothers and it is called You Can Still Have Your King. The following tip is an excerpt from my book:
You may be a widow, a divorced mom, or a single mom who has never been married. No matter what your situation is, you can still have your king. God never said that because you are a widow because you have never been married before, or because you are divorced you can never be married to a good man ever again. To prove my point, I want us to take the case of Ruth. I encourage you to read the entire Book of Ruth if you are not familiar with it.
Ruth was a Moabite and a widow. So was her mother-in-law, Naomi. Here were these two widows, Ruth never having a child and Naomi having two boys (both dead), both feeling like their lives were over. To make a long story short, Ruth did find her Boaz. In her older age, she found a man that was good for her and she had children.
- Did the fact that Ruth found Boaz means that she did not love her deceased husband? No, it did not.
- Did the fact that Ruth was once a married woman diminish her worth in the eyes of Boaz? No, it did not.
Never think that your situation as a single mom is not fixable and that you cannot have a happy ending. You can. I also encourage you to check out my blog on how to recognize your Boaz by clicking here.
3. Christian Single Moms ~ Relationship Advice from Queen Esther.
You can also see my video for more lessons from Esther on how how to be a queen that gets your king.
This third tip for Christian single moms came from day 23 of my daily devotional for single mothers and it is Relationship Advice from Queen Esther. I also encourage you to check out my other blog think like a queen to get your king for more relationship advice from queen Esther. The following tip is an excerpt from my book:
One of my favorite books in the Bible is Esther. She is literally an orphan who becomes a queen. So if you are a single mom and you think that you being a single mom is going to keep you from a good man, then you are wrong. When you read the Book of Esther, you can clearly see that God had a plan for her. God can work His magic in any way possible to ensure that you end up with the man that He wants you to end up with, as well as the life He wants you to end up with. Esther went from being an orphan to being a queen. Consider these things when it comes to Esther:
“Now the king was attracted to Esther more than to any of the other women, and she won his favor and approval more than any of the other virgins. So he set a royal crown on her head.” Esther 2:17
I know oftentimes, as a single mom, you may want to get married and you may even wonder if it is going to happen. Do not get into the habit of chasing men or doing something desperate for the attention of a man. If you desire to get married, there is a man out there for you. You will not have to worry about a man not wanting you, not being seen, or being judged by your past. You will not have to worry about trying to do tricks or playing games to catch the man you want, he will just want you for you.
Remember, in the Book of Esther, when she was afraid to tell the king that she was Jewish? And when she finally did, that it really did not make one bit of a difference?
It did not make the king love her less and it did not make him want to banish her as queen. A real man who loves you and is destined to be with you is not going to judge you because you are a single mom. If anything, he will embrace you AND your children, because your children came from you.
It is sad to say that so many single mothers, in the effort to get married or to end their relationship status, jump into wrong relationships. But because they want to feel loved or wanted, they take attention from anyone. I also need you to believe that the time will come when the time.
4. Christian Single Moms: Case in point: Preparation is Required
The last tip for Christian single moms is that preperation is required.
“Before a young woman’s turn came to go in to King Xerxes, she had to complete twelve months of beauty treatments prescribed for the women, six months with oil of myrrh and six with perfumes and cosmetics.” Esther 2:12
Before Esther became queen, she did not just walk in there and automatically become queen. It took a lot of training and it took a lot of preparation. She knew that she had to wait 12 months before going before the king.
So there was no use after month one going before the king, knowing that she was not ready and knowing that she did not finish the right preparation for the king. So, instead of focusing on the relationship and focusing on the king, focus on the preparation. Do what you need to do to be fit for a king.
These are the top single mom dating tips that I have for single moms. Coming directly from my single mom’s devotional (click here to buy). If you know another single mom that can benefit from these tips then feel free to share it with her.
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These are wonderful themes here for believers and non-believers alike. I think any single woman would benefit from reading this.
Thank you for your advice and tips! I agree with Stacie, I think all single women could really benefit from this post. I like your thoughts!
I like the sound of the book of Esther. It sounds like there is some sound advice in there.
This is great advice for single women; your posts are always so interesting to read!
These are some great tips for single women – I love how you give such good advice and mention how this has been done in the bible too. Really interesting.
im out of the dating world but these are all great tips I love them!
not a single mom, so i cant relate. but these tips do sound perfect
I can imagine it’s hard to date as an adult. You share some good thoughts and ideas for dating cautiously and wisely.
I think it’s best for the woman to not to rush into a relationship to fill a void, but to find a partner that will truly love and care for both you and the children.
After a big breakup or relationship change, people always rush right back into something else. That is always wrong. It’s best to just take time for yourself rather than be with someone because you don’t want to be alone.
These are great tips for single ladies looking for a committed partner!
Being true to yourself and honest/upfront with loved ones (and love interests) is so important
Such sound advice here!!