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In this post, I am going to tell you how to be more attractive and each of these 10 tips are things that you can start doing today, right now, at this very instant AND will instantly raise your attraction level. But before I get into I do want to put a disclaimer out there. I know there may be some of you reading this post now saying to yourself some of the following statements:
- If a man does not want me for me then I don’t want him.
- Looks are not important and they don’t matter.
- I should not have to change myself for a man.
And that is why I am here to be VERY real with you. I personally believe that looks DO matter but not in the way that you think. I do not think that it is vanity to want to look nice or want to take care of yourself. I think that is what you should be doing. Why wouldn’t you want to look your absolute best? In fact, in my book for single moms, I specifically said the following regarding this topic.
When I used to live in Europe, I saw many religious temples and cathedrals that were hundreds of years old. And they were all kept in amazing shape. I could tell they VALUED that temple based on how they kept it. Imagine if I would have walked in a temple and it was cracking, falling apart, and stones and rocks were coming down on my head as I walked through the temple. I would have wanted to run out of there for fear that something may collapse on my head. I would wonder why on Earth they kept this place of worship in such terrible condition.
What I am trying to say is that there is a difference between a well-kept, beautiful temple and one that is falling to the ground. The one that is beautiful says I am valued, I am treasured, I want to look good for a long time, and I am aware of how I come across to the world. While the other does not.
What I am getting at is, yes, a man should want you for you but why not present the best version of yourself. And even though you are trying to look more attractive overall you should want to do it for you and not just a man. I promise you that once you start trying to look and feel your best at ALL times, this will elevate how you feel about yourself, how people treat you, and how people are attracted to you. Which is why my list on how to make yourself attractive will be separated into two parts. The first is the mental and the second is the physical.
The fact of the matter is that you can look like a model on the outside but if you think that you are ugly, have a nasty attitude, or you feel like crap that is what will be portrayed on the outside.
Attractiveness is a collaborative process through both the physical and the mental. Because you can have your mind right mentally but if you look busted on the outside, your hair matted, and you are walking around looking like a hot mess then it is hardly going to matter what you believe because no one else is going to believe it based on the presentation that you are giving. Also, check out my video on where I speak about appearance and being a Christian woman. Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here.
1. Make Yourself More Desirable with your Confidence
If you walk around looking depressed, nervous, or like you are unsure of yourself that is the opposite of attractive. Being confident, behaving confidently, and speaking confidently can add to your attraction level. Remember there is a fine line between being cocky and arrogant over being confident. You want to be sure of yourself not conceited. You can show confidence in how you talk, being comfortable with who you are, your body language, how you stand, and looking and feeling comfortable when you are speaking to men or even other people.
I think we can all admit that there is something attractive about a woman who comes into the room and she demands attention just with her confidence level. Be that woman. To help you out you can check out my blog on how to be more confidence by clicking here. And also check out my video below on how to be more confidence and attractive.
2. How To Make Yourself Attractive With Your Body Language
One thing that people notice about me is that I have a confident body language. It is not even something that I have to tell people it is just something that people observe about me which goes to show you how important body language is in regards to attractiveness. This includes looking people in their eyes when talking, don’t look down and avoid eye contact.
When you walk you want to walk with your head and shoulders back and walk with femininity. Body language is everything and says a lot about who you are as a woman. Have good posture, sit with your shoulders back, and keep your arms unfolded. Having an open, confident, and even feminine body language can make you more attractive to men and they are more likely to approach you.
3. Become More Attractive By Believing You Are More Attractive
If you are someone who suffers from low self-esteem and doesn’t believe you are attractive then these steps won’t matter. How you feel about yourself is what comes across to the outside world. Before you leave the house give yourself a pep talk, say some affirmations, tell yourself how amazingly gorgeous and hot you look today. Get in the mirror and strike a pose, take some amazing selfies, and KNOW that you are the best thing since sliced bread. The thing about being attractive is that if you believe it then other people will believe it too because that is the energy you are sending out into the world about yourself and therefore this is how people will perceive you.
4. How to make yourself more desirable by fixing your face
I have a habit of having a resting (B) face. That means that when you are just sitting there, nothing is wrong, and you may be so deep in thought that your face looks like it is angry. If you want to be more attractive then you need to be aware of your face. You do not have to walk around looking goofy or silly randomly laughing and joking with yourself as you walk down the street.
But try to put a small smirk on your face when walking, a smile, or just posture your face to look more approachable. If you see a man that you find attractive just shoot him a smile and he will probably approach you. You would be surprised at how far a smile can get you and how much attention you can get from other people by having a friendly approaching face over one that looks like you are going to stab them.
5. How to Be Attractive By Getting rid of the attitude
There is nothing worse than a female with a nasty behind attitude. Unfortunately, this is something that females are SOOOOO guilty of. If someone keeps telling you that you have a bad attitude this is usually an indicator that you do. Learn how to talk to people, be polite, say please and thank you, and speak with a softer tone over a harsher and more aggressive tone. Aggressive tones equal anger over a softer tone that project femininity which makes you more attractive. I actually talked about this in how you may come across as angry and bitter which you can click here to read. And also, in my why you are not getting approached by men that you can watch below.
6. How to be more attractive with Your hair
I used to be so guilty of this. Just throwing my hair up any and every kind of way not really caring or paying attention to how it looked. And I did not care what anyone had to say about it. It was not until I got my hair done that I got SO much attention that day. Like literally men (that I worked with for years) were coming up to me asking me if I was new here. And compliments from women.
That just goes to show how much they did not even pay attention to me being there and how much a simple hairdo, haircut, hair color, or hairstyle can elevate your attractiveness. In the morning when you get dressed, just do your hair. It does not have to be extravagant and you do not even need to go to the salon. I do my hair myself all the time and I get compliments all the time. Just take extra time before you leave the house to make sure your hair is tamed, groomed, moisturized, untangled, and you can even pull it back to show off your facial features more.
7. How to be more attractive with Makeup
I am not saying that you HAVE to wear makeup in order to look more attractive. But if you want to you can. But as a person who wears makeup every day, I can say that makeup does elevate my look. Because makeup can hide imperfect skin, hyper pigmentation, bring life back to dull skin, those bags under your eyes, and my favorite it can add shimmer to your face. At least that is how it is for me. You can watch my makeup video OR I saw this great video from My Life As Eva where she talks about how to master the natural glow up.
The amount of makeup that you want to use is completely up to you. You can also watch my video below on how to get a soft glam look at well. Just find a good and balanced makeup look that you like and with your skill level and go for it.
8. How to be more attractive dress like you got some sense
I am not telling you that you need to step out of the house in a ball gown or anything that like that. There has been plenty of time where I have been dressed very casually but my casual was still presentable and better than most people’s casual. Casual style does not mean lose your senses and walk outside looking any kind of way.
If you are single then when you leave your house ask yourself would the man of your dreams approach you looking like this? If your goal is to like a fashionable professional woman then when you leave your house and look at your outfit ask yourself is your outfit projecting the image that you want to put out. You can find your own personal style and dress how you want to. But it only takes a little bit of effort to actually coordinate your clothes so that they match, make sure they are not wrinkled or have holes in them, and to make sure that they fit you well.
9. How to make yourself more desirable learn to Dress For Your Body type
You can be skinny, curvy, short, tall, top heavy, or bottom heavy; whatever your body type is you need to dress for it. There is no need in wearing clothes or fabrics that show your fat rolls underneath (no judgment I have some rolls myself). It is also not a good idea to wear pants that make you have a muffin top, too tight clothes, too loose clothes, or clothes that don’t go with your figure.
I know we have ALL seen that woman wearing something she had no business wearing. Instead, choose something that goes with your body types and accentuates the feature that you love the most. And for the areas that are not your best asset don’t highlight them, find a way to hide them, or dress in a way that makes them look flattering.
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10. How to be more attractive Smell Good
Have you ever walked passed a man and he just smelled good? You may have not seen his face but his scent grabs your attention. Having a pleasant smell is something that entices our senses. And want to know something else? In the Bible, Esther got beauty treatment that helped her SMELL GOOD. Before she was ready to meet the king.
Before a girl’s turn came to go in to King Xerxes, she had to complete twelve months of beauty treatments prescribed for the women, six months with oil of myrrh and six with perfumes and cosmetics. (Esther 2:10)
Smelling nice is one of those things that boost your attractive level. And if you really want to make sure that this works, you can get a perfume with pheromones in it. These are special chemicals that we tend to produce naturally as a way to attract men. So adding pheromone perfume will scientifically make you more attractive based on how to smell. See some of my suggestions below.
There you have it, these are my ten ways to make yourself more attractive and how to make yourself more desirable. If you know someone who would love to read this post then go ahead and share it with them.