If you are 30 and single and wondering should I be worried my answer to you is a big fat no. Why would you be worried? I know some of the concerns that you may have, some of the hate comments that you may get from your family, some of the hate comments that you may get from even outside the family, but the fact of the matter is that this is not reality.
Whenever I post videos about being single over 30, I get hate comments from men all the time trying (and yes, I said trying) to tap into my insecurities. Because if no one was really worried about women over 30 then why on Earth would these men seek out a video geared to women over 30 just to tell us how unwanted we are. I think that says that we are wanted more than anything if they are willing to watch a whole video on it and leave a comment to take jabs at us. Why put forth the effort if you are not checking for us?
The fact of the matter is, women are not the only ones aging. And some men prefer younger women but overall not all 30 something or even 40 something-year-old men want to go with 20 something-year-old women. In my experience, a man wants a woman who can bring something to the table which is what 30 something plus year old woman can do, plus they are mature in their behavior, and intellectually. Don’t believe me? Think of yourself as a twenty-something-year-old woman, were you thinking about settling down with a 30 plus or 40 something-year-old man? Some women maybe, but the bulk no. These men must be with someone.
One of the women that I mentioned in my book for single women (which you can click here to buy) was Ruth. A widow, a Moabite woman that historians agree had to be at least over 40 years of age. As she was going to Bethlehem with her mother and law her mother and law said this.
Return home, my daughters. Why would you come with me? Am I going to have any more sons, who could become your husbands? Return home, my daughters; I am too old to have another husband. Even if I thought there was still hope for me—even if I had a husband tonight and then gave birth to sons would you wait until they grew up? Would you remain unmarried for them? Ruth 1:11-13
Meaning that as Ruth was going to Bethlehem, she was going to be the least likely candidate to get a husband, she was older, she was a foreigner, and she probably was destined to live her life alone or so the world thought. But that simply was not true. She stumbled n the field of Boaz, a mature man, wanting to treat her right (as you can see here). Due to his maturity, he was not looking for some young tenderloin and even he was shocked that Ruth did not go for a younger man.
The LORD bless you, my daughter, he replied. This kindness is greater than that which you showed earlier: You have not run after the younger men, whether rich or poor. Ruth 3:10
Despite her being in her 40’s he did not see her as old and washed up. In fact, he thought that she was the one that had options. And to top it all, after they got married, Ruth also had a child thus making her family complete even after 30 which is what I talked about in my YouTube video which you can watch below. And don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here for more content.
NOW Let’s get into more real-life examples
George and Amal Clooney.
George Clooney was always known for saying that he was not going to get married and even dating younger models. Fun right? But these were not the women that he ended up settling with. Instead, he married 36-year-old Amal Clooney. Now was Amal sitting around asking herself that she was 30 and single should I be worried, maybe, but even so she was still out living her best life making her mark in the work as a lawyer? And I am convinced that it was her reputation and what she offered aside from her beauty that made her good catch for George Clooney.
Maturity brings stability and maturity bring common ground. So instead of being worried about the bad of you being 30 and single perhaps you should be focused on the good. And like Amal chase the purpose (YOUR PURPOSE) and not the man. According to Amal “I was 35 when I met him. It wasn’t obvious that it was going to happen for me. And I wasn’t willing or excited about the idea of getting married or having a family in the absence of that,” George, who famously said he would never marry again after his four-year marriage to Talia Balsam ended in 1993, is full of nothing but praise for his wife and often speaks at his pride and awe at her accomplishments, in particular how she mothers their 10-month-old twins Ella and Alexander. (source)
I also have a video on that which you can watch above on the importance of chasing your purpose over the man. When you chase your purpose, you put yourself in a better circle of men that you can mix mingle with. The more time that you have to live, the more goals you have to achieve, the more opportunity you have to network and level up your life, and get into a group of people, friends, men, and friends that you would not have been able to meet had you been younger.
And that is a pro of being in your 30’s and not a con. Oh yes and like Ruth, Amal also had children, so it is not too late. Stop this child 30 and single should I be worried crap. NO. Take that energy and focus on doing you. And if you want to know how to do it, then join my Patreon where I talk about all things leveling up. Just click here.
Megan Markle and Prince Harry
This is a miracle if I ever saw one. But mind you prince Harry is a Prince and most women would fall all over themselves to be with and marry him, but he chose Megan (who is biracial) and older than him AND in her late 30. Did she say to herself that she is 30 and single and should I be worried NO. I think that if you could yourself unworthy then you will be unworthy, if you tell yourself what you don’t deserve, then that is what you will get; nothing.
I mean look at Meagan, she looks great. As someone who believes in taking care of yourself both in and out, I will say that just because you are over 30 does not mean that you need to look like you are over 100. Do not just let yourself go. Take care of yourself, your body, and step out of the house looking presentable. If a man sees you and he is attracted to you, do you think that he is going to say “oh but she is over 30 but everything else about her is perfect for me but I cannot get with her” NO probably not? So just make sure you keep yourself looking happy, vibrant, and beautiful, and not to attract a man but do it for you because that is how much YOU value yourself and by doing so you are subconsciously letting people know your value by how you feel about yourself.
I do hope that this gives you hope, and this is full disclosure that for myself at the time of writing this post I am 35 and I feel no type of way about it. And in a few months, I am going to be 36 and I still don’t feel any sort of way about it and mind you men younger than me (knowing my full age) have still come on to me. Am I single sure but ask me am I worried NOPE? So, if you are 30 and single and asking yourself should you be worried, I say no. Why? There are too many options. And there are too many fish in the sea, too many men and those men too are 30 plus and they too are not married so no you should not be worried. If you know a single woman who is over 30 then don’t forget to share this post with her and give homegirl some hope. And don’t forget to buy my book for single women by clicking here OR get the first few chapters free by clicking here.