I am about to give you the real on how to be prettier and how to look prettier to other people. Now before we get into it, I am not going to give you some superficial tips like put on some lip gloss, poke out your butt out, and then post some provocative picture on social media. Because one thing that I know about the real on how to be pretty is, it is about defining your own pretty and that is when people will be drawn to you because what you are doing is different not the same.
I want to explain exactly what I mean by telling you a little story about how I learn what it really meant to be pretty. When I was in high school (a long time ago by the way), I was not the one that boys would flock to. Because I was a dark skin woman, I had butt, and hips (and back in the day that was in), and no one paid me attention. BUT what I started to do was to find myself attractive, implement the tips I am about to tell you; and then I noticed a big shift. On Valentine’s Day that year, my senior year, 5 boys (none of them black) that I had no idea even were attracted to me bought me flowers, chocolates, and got me gifts. I was shocked. The thing was that I was still not considered the standard of beauty BUT I did learn these things about being pretty:
- Being pretty is subjective. There is no standard, it is literally in the eye of the beholder. The idea of pretty is what someone says it is, so why can’t that someone be you.
- The man key on how to being prettier is how you feel about yourself, how you treat yourself, and how you present yourself to the outside world. You can literally convince people of how pretty you are based on what you show them.
What I did, was I allowed other people to conform to MY standard of beauty based on me stepping into my own and not giving a crap about who felt any type of way about it. And in some way, that makes you irresistibly attractive. And that is why I feel that anyone YES anyone can learn how to be pretty and how to look pretty to others. By embodying something that most women tend to reject.
Let me explain,
#1 Learn How to Be Prettier By Accepting Yourself As Pretty
As corny as it may sound it works. When I told you the story above, I accepted myself as pretty because I literally told myself that I was some celebrity in my own brain and that is the way I started to behave. DON’T LAUGH but listen.
At that time, I became very obsessed with magazines. Hip hop magazine, hair magazines, women’s magazines. I looked at the pictures and analyzed “what made them pretty.” Instead of developing some envy that I did not look like the pictures in the magazines, I just imagined to myself that I was them. In turn, this changed the way I dressed, I became more fashionable, I changed the way I did my hair, I started to walk with confidence, I had confidence body language and literally when I stepped out of the house I imagined that I was like those girls in the magazine. I did not become exactly like them but my whole philosophy became ” I am pretty too,” I can be a model if I wanted to. Now mind you, I am 5’2 and that was probably not going to happen. But because I felt that way about myself, I started to convince the world to see that about me. For the Bible states.
For whatever a man thinks in his heart so is he. Proverbs 23:7
I thought I became, and I started to convince other people that I was. And even now to this day in my mid 30’s other women always say that they admire my confidence. But that is the key in knowing how to be prettier, and that is what so many women lack. Always thinking about what they can change, how they can fit in, how they can adapt to be something else instead of seeing themselves as beautiful how they are AND behaving in a way that exudes that.
#2 Putting Your Best Self Out to The World
I am not about vanity, but I would be lying to you to say that you can go outside and look your absolute worst and that this is going to make you feel pretty. That is NOT true. You can check out my blog about how to glow up but the fact of the matter is that I had to put out the best version of myself that made me happy and present that version to the world when I left the house. Every day when I leave the house. That meant losing 70 pounds because I did not feel my best self when I was heavier (check out my video below). And yes, I still have curves BUT I like curves and embrace them in a way that shows that.
Improve your skin, yes I was self-conscious about my acne skin even as an adult and when I cleared my skin I noticed that I looked better, felt better, and it made me look a lot prettier. Simply having a great skincare routine, drinking water, and doing things keep your skin and body healthy is key.
So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. 1 Corinthians 10:31
Having a personality. Nothing is good about being pretty on the outside but being boring on the inside. Choose to be yourself and let your personality show. Don’t try to be like someone else and imitate someone else’s personality. Just be you and you will see that people are drawn to you simply because you are comfortable with being yourself. Don’t feel the need to agree with everyone else because you want to fit in, verbalize your opinion, have an opinion, be okay with showcasing your own unique personality and don’t feel you have to change that for anyone.
How To Be Prettier Have something going for yourself. There is something attractive about a woman that is out here living her best life doing her thing no matter what. She is not sitting there waiting for a man to call her, putting her life on hold for anyone, when you talk to her she is interesting because she is out doing things with her life. She does not tolerate disrespect, she is not chasing a man, and if a man disrespects her, she cuts it off with a quickness. That is setting boundaries and showing people your worth. Remember if you feel you are worth it, other people will too. Also check out my video below on becoming a high-value woman and don’t forget to click here to subscribe to my YouTube channel.
#3 NOT Letting It All Hang Out
Never equate being pretty for showing a bunch of skin. Yes, people may be attracted to you and yes you may even get attention, but it is not the type of attention that you want. People and mostly men will put you in a box by saying to themselves “she has a nice body and I want to have sex with her.” The fact of the matter is that many women can be half-naked, that does not make you special, it does not make you stand out, it makes you be exactly like everyone else.
The art to knowing how to be prettier is knowing that a real pretty woman can step into a room, dressed to the nine, looking attractive, and being respectful covered AND she is still able to draw in the attraction in the room. That is because she is different, she sees herself as being more than just tits and boobs, and she is telling other people that my value is so high that not everyone gets to see my goods. Letting it all hangout is being thirsty and real pretty women are not thirsty for attention. They understand that attention naturally comes to them simply because they are them. And it does not require being half-naked.
I tell anyone and everyone that I will shop at the thrift store and literally I get compliments almost every day on my outfits and how I look. One of the keys to being prettier is not going with the grain but against it. What shopping at the thrift store has taught me is to find my style and dressing in a way that is uniquely me and that is unlike anyone else.
Imagine a sea of women and everyone is dressed the same in the same type of trends, shopping in the same type of places, and wearing the same type of thing. But here you come doing something different having a great style that is unlike anyone else and all of a sudden you became the unique gem that is unlike any other. Pretty is not about looking and being like everyone else. Spending a bunch of money on going out and buying and dressing in the latest trends. That makes you a duck, a follower, and pretty women are eagles they fly high and they do not follow what everyone else is doing.
Once as I was counseling a young woman, she told me that she started dressing differently simply because it was in style but if she had a preference she would dress differently but she was scared that other people wouldn’t get it. And my response was who cares if they get it. Why belittle yourself to fitting into a sea of people simply because it is in style.
Do your own style and know that when you do so, it allows you to feel your best when you look your best according to what you like. Another crazy story is I used to have this specific way of painting my toenails and I had rotating colors. No one was doing it at the time and then I noticed the more I did it, other people at work started to do it too. Then I had to change it up because I didn’t want people looking like me. BUT the point is, that you KNOW you are on your pretty girl swag when other people are trying to steal your swag, that is just an example of how pretty is subjective and you can make other people bend to your ideas of pretty.
#5 Learn How To Be Confident
Pretty is just more than skin deep. Have you ever seen a woman that was really pretty and then she was insecure? You can see it in her body language, you can see it in the way she spoke, the way she walked, and then all of a sudden her pretty did not seem so pretty anymore because of the insecurity.
There used to be an old saying that a woman could put on a potato sack and if she had the confidence then she could draw the attention in the room. Because confidence counts for a lot. There have been so many times that I am NOWHERE NEAR the prettiest woman in the room but I attract people as if I was. Simply because I am comfortable with who I am. I am not trying to impress anyone, I am not doing anything to bring more attention to myself, I just choose to be. And being is attractive.
And the fact of the matter is that most people care what other people think way too much, but when you choose to do so you are devaluing yourself because now you are putting what they think about you over your own thoughts about yourself. When you are confident you adapt this love me or hate me mentality, but I love myself so either you can get with it or not. And when you have this attitude most people want to get with it.
In closing, I put the following quote on my Instagram (don’t forget to follow me by clicking here):
There are a whole bunch of women who are pretty, have a nice body, but lack, because they rely on being superficial and being superficial, is basic. There is no sense of being a pretty shell but lacking in every other area. Yeah people may like to look at you, want to take you home, they may show you off to their friends, and like that shell they may even put you on the shelf as a decoration until you get old and they want to throw you out, ready for another pretty shell. Don’t rely on basic and don’t strive to be a pretty shell. The difference between basic and true beauty is that true beauty radiates from the inside out and is not afraid to just exists the way that it is and being comfortable with that. Even if it means that no one else understands it or likes it. That takes you from someone who is like everyone else, to having something that can’t be found in anyone else.
These are all of the TRUE tips on how to be prettier. I mean real pretty and I can promise you that if you start to implement these steps you will be shocked by how people respond to you and how you can draw people in with this true version of yourself.
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