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I believe in the sanctity of marriage I really do and so, therefore, please do not take this post as me encouraging you to run off and marry someone for superficial or crazy reasons.
The last thing I want you to do is to marry someone that you don’t like or don’t love because you read my post and felt like I am telling you to get married because it is practical.
I am not. I am telling you that they are practical benefits to getting married. Because in this day and age people who just want to live together NOT get married and say that it is the same thing. It is not.
You are not a wife unless you are married. AND there are benefits to being married. Do not let people tell you marriage is a piece of paper. I hold the belief that people should get married. Provided that they are mentally ready to do so. So why don’t we discuss shall we. Oh, but before we do, check out my video where I talk about more on this. And don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here.
Reasons To Get Married #1 SEX
Yes, I’m starting with this one. One of the best reasons to get married is sex. Although as a single person you can have sex with as many people as you want. But you are also putting yourself at risk. With all these STDs going around. It would behoove you to want to be with one person. A person that you love and is STD-free. Having sex with everyone is not the art of making love.
Being with everyone you miss out on what true intimacy is. Being married, you have regular sex, with a person you love, that is clean. Being single means trying to go out and find sex, sometimes having dry spells, and putting yourself at risk for STDs.
There are some diseases that not even condoms can protect you from. This is one of the main reasons I became celibate, sharing your body with too many people is just too risky in this day and age. I much rather take comfort in sleeping with my husband and knowing that I am safe overtaking my chances with random strangers.
According to Very Well mind, some of the benefits of having sex are below. Imagine having all these benefits with ONE person over having ALL these benefits with several men. I feel like sex within the confines of marriage helps your emotional connection. And while a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship can do that, imagine what else it can do if you break up.
I personally believe in the idea of soul ties which I talk about in my blog post here. And I have a video below to see what I mean.
Reasons to get married: Emotional Benefits of Having Sex
- Increases level of commitment
- Boosts self-esteem
- Makes a person feel younger
- Lowers the level of cortisol, a hormone that can trigger fatigue and cravings
- Lowers feelings of insecurity
- Keeps spouses connected emotionally
- Helps to give people a more positive attitude
- Makes a person calmer
- Makes a person less irritable
- Reduces depression
- Relieves stress
Reasons To Get Married #2 Financial Stability.
Reasons to get married number two. It does not take a rocket scientist to realize that two incomes are better than one. And with two incomes you can have more. A bigger house, a nicer car, and go on vacations more. Being married is not all about money. But it sure does help with the paying of all the bills and knowing that someone has your back financially if need be.
I am a single mother and I know what it is like to buy a home on my home, financially struggle on my own, have to pay all the bills on my own, and sometimes it was a STRUGGLE indeed.
And it was always left on me to figure something out. You cannot imagine how comforting it would be to really be able to lean on someone and not always have to financial struggle.
In fact, if you want to know how bad it was you can’t watch my video below and I cannot tell you how helpful it would have been to have someone to help me out instead of just depending on myself.
I am not giving you permission to marry for money. I am giving you permission to understand that if two people with income come together then both of your income double. According to Credit.com. Research shows that women have greater security when they combine finances with their spouses. That might seem counter-intuitive, but remember, women are typically more prone to income interruptions, as they may take time off to start families.
Practical Reasons To Get Married #3 Social Support.
Being married means that you know and make a dedication to this person. We all have bad days and there are times that we just want to come home and talk or just be held. Or sometimes we just want to come home to a hot plate of food and not want to cook.
Being single does not afford you that. Sleeping with a lot of people may afford you that, but you will not be getting a deep quality connection that you could be getting when you are married.
You may think that you have that in a boyfriend but trust me it is not the same. A marriage is a legally binding document and a husband cannot separate from you as easily. Typically when you get married it shows that your husband is more committed to you.
You can even have awesome in-laws that add to your support system. It really does give you the feeling that you can come home to someone and there are going to be there. Or you can text him and since he is your husband he is going to text you back. Unlike a random boyfriend, he may see your text ignore it, and until he gets around to you when he feels like it.
Check out these real-life stories of a wife battling depression and her husband supported her in such a big way of reminding her of how valuable she is. I am NOT saying that a husband is a cure for depression, but it can be amazing to have that type of support when we really need it. He titled the list, Reasons Why I Love You. Click Here to See The Full Story.
1. She is my best friend
2. She never quits on herself or me
3. She gives me time to work on my crazy projects
4. She makes me laugh, every day
5. She is gorgeous
6. She accepts the crazy person I am
7. She’s the kindest person I know
8. She’s got a beautiful singing voice
9. She’s gone to a strip club with me
10. She has experienced severe tragedy yet is the most optimistic person about humanity that I know
11. She has been fully supportive of my career choices and followed me each time
12. Without realizing it, she makes me want to do more for her than I have ever wanted to do for anyone
13. She’s done an amazing job at advancing her career path
14. Small animals make her cry
15. She snorts when she laughs
Practical Reasons To Get Married #4 Build a Legacy.
“As Christians, we are all working to create a legacy that matters, and that glorifies God. We want our children to also glorify God and have an impact for the Kingdom.”
And I certainly believe this is true. Some of the best couples that I adore are married and are building beautiful legacies for the world to see and admire. Some of my favorite couples are:
Ciara and Russell Wilson
You can also check out my video below on some of the biggest takeaways that you can learn from their relationships.
Michelle and Barack Obama
I mean really look at these three couples can we really say that we would see them the same if they had not been with their significant others. It is just that them being married they were able to build something that perhaps they would not have been able to build while single.
Practical Reasons To Get Married #5 Benefits
Yes, there are actual benefits to getting married. If your husband has a job you can be placed on his health insurance, life insurance, and God forbid if something happens to him and he ends up in the hospital you can be the next of kin and make decisions on his behalf.
You see, a girlfriend cannot do that. I have heard so many stories of girlfriends who were with a man, they lived together and the whole nine. They broke up and she got kicked out. His name was the only one in the house and as a girlfriend, she had no rights. I hope you see what I am getting at.
Marriage does give you a whole lot more rights if the relationship was to go south OR if something was to happen to him. It is easier for a wife to make legal or medical decisions in case of an emergency over a girlfriend. According to Finding Legal Law, they list some of the benefits as the following:
- Divorcing spouses have the obligation to divide their property by legally prescribed methods.
- A higher-wage-earning spouse may have the obligation to provide financial support for the other spouse upon separation or divorce. (which may come in handy if you were like my friend. Worked for the first few years of her marriage to put her husband through law school. He became a lawyer and she became a homemaker for 10 years. Until he divorced her. He did pay her alimony until she got a degree herself and became a paralegal).
- If one spouse becomes ill or incompetent, the other spouse generally has the right to make decisions on the ill spouse’s behalf, on issues including health care and finances.
- When one spouse dies, the other spouse has the legal right to inherit a portion of the deceased spouse’s estate.
These are all 5 practical reasons to get married and I do say that they are VERY legit and something to ponder over. If you are in a relationship in which your boyfriend is telling you that living together for the next 10 years is cool. Really think about if that is what YOU Want.
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Last, did you know that you can get my book for single women in case you are living together and you do want to get married by clicking here, and if you are not sure click here to get the first few chapters for free?