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In this post, I am going to go over signs of a desperate woman because it is highly likely that many of you reading this post may be her. And if you are that woman then understand that you will receive no judgment from me.
Are you thirsty? If so, I want to help you fix it because I used to be that desperate woman. In fact, I have an entire get ready with me video on how I stopped being desperate that you can watch below. Also, don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube Channel by clicking the link below.
A woman that I like to call the “what if” girl. The what-if a girl is a girl who is so desperate for a relationship and forces a situation with a man by any means necessary. The what-if girl is so desperate that every time she meets a man she thinks the following.
- What if he is the one?
- What if I ruined the relationship?
- What if he does not call me back?
- What if I said the wrong thing?
- What if he breaks up with me?
And because all of these “what ifs” go through her brain she drives herself crazy based on a bunch of situations that may or may not be true. You do not want to be a what-if girl. The what-if girl lives in a land of imagined scenarios which causes her to act out in desperation to fix all of these “what if” situations. On the other half of the spectrum, we have the oh well girl. She is the opposite of the what-if girl.
The “oh well” girl accepts the situation for what it is. She does not try to make things happen in a relationship. She understands that if it was meant to happen then it would. She realizes that in any and every situation she does not have to change herself or the way that she does things so that she can get a man. She realizes that “she” is simply enough. The “oh well” girl knows that if a man does not feel about her the way she feels about herself, then “oh well.”
That is why in this post I am going to give you three situations in which women act desperate and cover the following. So that if you are a desperate woman you can realize and change it. Be prepared to learn:
- The signs of a desperate woman
- What makes a woman look desperate
- And how not to be a desperate woman (otherwise known as the oh well girl).
You ready let’s get into it. Let’s find out are you thirsty?
First, Are You Thirsty? How NOT To Be A Desperate Woman ~ Don’t Be A Stalker
Signs of a desperate woman: She becomes his Stalker
The “what if” girl would make herself self-known to him because “what if” he is the one she would not want to let him get away would she? She will follow him down the aisle, bend over if need be to pick up something she dropped on the floor, (really she is just trying to show him her butt), she bumps into his cart, gets in the same line he does, and does any and everything in the store in make the man notice her.
Are You Thirsty? How to not be a desperate woman in the same situation.
The “oh well” and “who cares” girl knows that if it was meant to be then it would be. If she sees a man walking past her then she may flash a friendly smile just to be inviting. If he approaches her then great if he walks past her then “OH WELL.” She would go about her business, pay for her things, and leave.
Notice that what makes a woman look desperate in this situation. What if the girl is doing way too much and it just comes across as being thirsty. The oh well girl knows that it is her job to be approachable and welcoming and she knows how to let go and not follow a man around if he does not approach her.
The oh well girl knows that there are too many men in the sea to chase down one in a public place to try to MAKE him notice her. The lesson to be learned is if you see a guy that you are attracted to in any public place smile be welcoming and if he does not notice you then guess what? OH WELL.
Secondly, Are You Thirsty? How NOT To Be A Desperate Woman ~ We Don’t Wait Around
Signs of a desperate woman: She Goes Back To What Is Wrong
The “what if” girl wonders what could have been. Goes down memory lane and reminisces about the past. The “what if” girl gets so caught up in what could have been and forgets what actually was. She forgets that he was a jerk and that is why they broke up. Instead, she thinks about “what if” they were still together. She then goes back into a bad relationship with her ex or worse just a sex-only relationship (see my blog here on casually hooking up) goes down the same path again and again with her ex in the hope of may one day he may want to marry her.
Are You Thirsty ~ How to not be a desperate woman in the same situation?
The “oh well” and “who cares” girl does not care that her ex has contacted her. She may contact him back, two weeks later after he sends the text. Just to make sure he is not dead or something. The “oh well, who cares” girl keeps the conversation brief, make sure he knows that he does not have a chance.
And if by chance he is REALLY sorry and wants her back she is not going to give in easily. She is not going to jump back in bed with him and make sure that he knows that he needs to come correct this time or he need not come to her at all. The oh well girl is never in the same place that she was when her ex left. She is always better, she looks better, has a better job, and at this point, she may even have a better man.
Notice that what makes a woman look desperate in this situation is that an ex should not be able to just call you out of the blue and pick back up where you two left off. You are not a toy that can be put down and picked up whenever he feels like it. And should never just be sitting around waiting for your ex to come back to you. You should always be moving forward and doing better.
If and when your ex does come back you want him to wonder what in the world he was thinking when he let you go. AND you want him to jump through hoops to show you that he is a changed man and wants you back. And then and only then will you even consider giving him a chance.
Do not be anyone’s fool and just settle for being your ex’s lapdog that he only gets to when he has nothing else to do. Be willing to let him go about his business if need be. Learn the art of not giving a crap and you can watch my video to learn how to do it.
Last, Are You Thirsty? How NOT To Be A Desperate Woman ~ We Don’t Wait Around For Text
Signs of a desperate woman: She Drives herself Crazy
The “what if” girl wonders what she did wrong. Did she text something wrong? She blames herself for the man not contacting her. She then sends a text apologizing about anything she may have done to turn him off. Then when he does not responds she continues to text, call, and possibly even email until he contacts her back. When and if he does contact her back she is willing to do any and everything to “prove” to him that she is the one.
Are You Thirsty? How to not be a desperate woman in the same situation.
The oh well, “who cares” girl. Does not care. She is so busy doing her thing that she does not even notice that it has been two weeks since he has contacted her back. And when he does contact her back, she does not even know who he is because she did not bother to save his number in her phone anyway.
In fact, after two weeks of no communication, she does not even bother texting him back. She knows that if a man had a genuine interest in her that he would take an active part in reaching out to her and setting up a date with her. Not reaching out after two weeks when he has nothing to do and all his other women have fallen through. In fact, when he does text her the “oh well” girl is out somewhere enjoying her life or possibly even on another date.
Notice that what makes a woman look desperate in this situation is that she is somehow sitting around waiting for a man that may or may not be into her to text her back. And if he is not contacting her fast enough then she somehow feels that it is her fault and is willing to do any and everything to change a man’s mind about her.
The oh well girls knows that if a man is into her then he is going to show it and she is not going to get caught up over a man that is not showing the proper interest. Instead, she moves on with her life and does not even notice or care that he did not text her back.
I feel like you get the signs of a desperate woman and how not to be a desperate woman. But more than anything be confident enough and know that you do not have to chase and convince a man to feel any way about you. That is called being desperate. The basic principle of NOT being desperate is to give off the persona that men should chase you and you are confident enough in yourself that if they don’t chase you then you do not care. Also, click here to see my blog on how to be more confident and check out my video on confidence below.
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