Above All Else Guard Your Heart ~ 3 Ways To Protect Your Energy

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“Above all else guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)

The reason why I wanted to start off with this verse is that I need you to understand how important it is to guard your heart. EVERYTHING flows from it. If you do not guard your heart and you just let anyone and everyone into it, allowing them to leave little deposits in it then you can develop some serious issues.

You can read my blog post on how other people’s issues can make you develop your own issues to get a better idea of what I mean. But in short not guarding your heart can lead to low self-esteem, going after the wrong men, and issues with self-confidence, and that is just among other things.  In this post I am going to tell you:

  • Exactly why you should guard your heart.
  • How you should guard your heart.
  • And what will happen if you don’t guard your heart.  

So that you can get a full understanding of what it means to guard your heart and why it is so important.

1. Above All Else Guard Your Heart ~ Exactly why should guard your heart?

The main reason why you should guard your heart is that not everyone has your best interest in mind.  People will take your trust, your vulnerabilities, your tears, everything that you hold dear, and step on it.  I know it is a cold hard reality to tell you that there are people in this world that will use and abuse you.

I know it sounds depressing but being ignorant of the fact that people some people will hurt you when given the opportunity, is not going to do you any favors.  In fact, being naive will allow you just to give your heart to anyone and everyone thinking that they deserve it. And that would be a big mistake. Also, check out my video on guarding your heart below, and don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here. 

Above All Else Guard Your Heart  ~ Case in point

I was a little naive.  I am not the type of person that just wants to go around hurting people and so I once assumed those other people were the same. I have trusted people with my heart that I had no business trusting with my heart, and as a result, they abused it.

Some of the lasting effects still linger to this day, because I put so much trust in the wrong people. Which is why you cannot go into the world thinking that everyone is your friend, thinking that everyone wants to love you, or thinking that everyone means you well.  I am not telling you to be a distrustful psychopath BUT you have to test each person and test each spirit to determine if they mean you well before freely letting them into your heart.

2. Above All Else Guard Your Heart ~ How should you guard your heart?

When talking about how you should guard your heart I want to take a few excerpts from my book Fix It, Jesus! For Single Women Only. The Straightforward No-Nonsense Guide To Dating, Relationships, and Self Improvement (click here to buy)that is below. Where I talk specifically about this topic. If you want the entire first chapter for free, then you can click here or the picture below.

Anyway, back to why above all else guard your heart (excerpt from my book below)

First, Watch the Company You Keep. This can go for friendships, relationships, or anyone. You do not have to be friends or hang out with everyone especially if they are negative and toxic to your heart. Always determine if you should hang out with someone based on the type of fruit he or she produces. 

By their fruit, you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? Likewise, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus, by their fruit, you will recognize them.  Matthew 7:16-20 (NIV)

That means to look at his or her behavior. Someone can say she is Christian all day every day, but if she likes to have threesomes and orgies and the next time she goes out, she wants you to join in, she is not producing good fruit. Someone saying she is a Christian does not automatically qualify them “as people you should hang out with.”

Second, Remember, you were called to be in the world but not of it. (John 15:19). This means that you are going to have to deal with some worldly people that you may not agree with. But just because you are in the world does not mean that you cannot protect yourself from the world.  Here is a true story. I was out with a friend who was Christian by the way. And she told me that being celibate was dumb and that I needed to go out, have fun, and sleep with men. 

The sad thing about this situation is that I do not think she meant any harm by it. I think she actually felt that in some way she was helping me. After hearing wordly words like this time and time again, if you are weak-minded then you will easily fall into the trap thinking that what she said is true.  As you get stronger in guarding your heart you will not let the words of the world drown out the voice of God.

Third, stop getting so infatuated.  When you date men do not just be open and willing to give them your heart right away. You need to be strong-minded once again. Have discernment about people and do not invite people into your world until you find out what they are about. Do not just openly trust everyone and then when they do you wrong, you are stuck wondering what happened and why. 

3. Above All Else Guard Your Heart  ~ What will happen if you don’t guard your heart?

When people taint your heart, they’re tainting your wisdom, your thoughts, and how you feel about yourself. They can manipulate you and throw their own jaded and crazy ideas into your head and into your heart, changing you as a person.

Above All Else Guard Your Heart  ~ Case in point

Above all else guard your heart because not everyone needs to be in your energy place. For example, someone may tell you that you need to lose weight. Then someone else may say it, then a so-called friend may say it. They may say it over and over again and then you start to see yourself as fat even when you did not see yourself as fat before.

When it starts to get abnormal is when you start throwing up and starving yourself to get skinny and then every time you look in the mirror you see a fat person.  Even if you weigh 100 pounds you will still see fat.  And guess what?

That started somewhere. It started when that person called you fat. It started when you started to believe what they said about you and now you have a very serious issue, body dysmorphic disorder, bulimia, and maybe even anorexia.

That is why it is so important to not let anyone into your head and anyone into your heart because other people’s words have the ability to speak life and death and so you have to be careful by not allowing other people to just speak death over you and death into your heart.

Above all else guard your heart and your body.  Keep people from taking advantage of it, even if they say they are your friends sometimes they mean you harm (Click here to read my blog on frenemies).  Once they use you, they are gone, and you are left with a damaged heart ready to inflict the same type of pain on other people.

That is why you must guard your heart.  It is who you are, and if it gets corrupted then that is the type of person you will become. Remember, everything flows from your heart and therefore you need to be careful who you let into it.

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  1. So many important lessons here, Sophia. We really do all have issues and many stem from broken hearts of the past. Guarding our hearts is a true necessity in life. Thank you for that reminder!

  2. This is very deep but so true. “Guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life” is a bible verse that I hold very dear.

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