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Are you a bitter woman? If you are it is okay, well its not okay but I want you to know that it can be fixed. In the end being a bitter woman is quite common. Bitter women come into existence for many reasons. A bitter woman can be born because they are tired of being disappointed in life, disappointed by friendships, disappointed by people, disappointed by men, and a host of many things that you have had to deal with in life and therefore you have had to throw up a defense mechanism as a way to protect yourself thus the bitter woman being born within you.
So let’s go ahead and talk about it. Let’s talk about why you are so angry and bitter, let’s talk about some of the signs of a bitter woman, and let’s talk about how you can stop being angry and bitter. Because the more you sit into this energy of negativity the only real person is going to be affected is you. And sad to say that so many women are angry and bitter and honestly, they do not even realize it which is why I want to start of with an example.
Bitter Women In The Bible
When we talk about a bitter woman I wanted to get into the story of Naomi. In case you do not know who, Naomi is she was the mother and law of Ruth. And Naomi’s husband died, and her two son’s had died and needless to say that Naomi was very bitter. In fact, she even changed her name to bitter saying the following:
“Do not call me Naomi (sweetness); call me Mara (bitter), for the Almighty has caused me great grief and bitterness. I left full [with a husband and two sons], but the Lord has brought me back empty. Why call me Naomi, since the Lord has testified against me and the Almighty has afflicted me?” Ruth 1: 20-21
Why Am I So Angry And Bitter
The same reason why Naomi was angry and bitter are probably very closely related to why you are angry and bitter yourself. It may not be the same exact reasons as everyone in your family has died but there are some key themes about Naomi that we can take away from her situation that typically turns any woman into a bitter woman.
Bitter woman in the Bible Why Naomi was bitter:
- Because she lost what was important to her and she had no hope.
- Because she lost her man.
- Because life did not turn out the way that she wanted to.
- Because she felt that God was against her.
- Because life did not work out how she intended.
- Because she has experienced too much grief and disappointment in her life and there is nothing that she could do about it.
- Because now she was alone, and she felt her life could not get better. Naomi felt that she would never get married again or have more children and therefore she felt hopeless. (Ruth 1:12)
As I stated in my video below at one point in my life I was very bitter because of the bad relationships that I was in. And therefore, I became bitter against all men or bitter in my personality when dealing with men because I was tired of being disappointed. And therefore, it was just easier to accept life’s disappointments as being permanent and becoming bitter seemed like the perfect way to cope with what I was feeling. Also don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here.
Let’s get into the signs of a bitter woman
In all honestly if you are a bitter woman, I hope that you would have some awareness that you are. BUT I also see bitter women every day and they do not even realize it so let us get into some of the signs.
Are you defensive:
Bitter women tend to be defensive. As in someone can ask you how you are doing today, and you can completely snap on them and accuse them of trying to offend you. If you notice that you have trouble getting along with people or you always feel like people are coming for you then I hate to say that the common denominator is you. They may not be the problem and your bitterness is the problem.
You may be hopeless in relationships:
This sort of bitterness can come in many different ways. As I said in my video below on why men are not approaching you, bitter women tend to give off an essence. When men approach them, they will be abrasive and angry. You can watch my video below to see what I mean.
The sad thing about this is that this type of behavior when it comes to women and men is a lot more common than you think and I have seen it with my own two eyes with some of my female friends. I remember when I was sitting on a roof top with one of my female friends a man came up to us to just have a conversation. He literally said nothing wrong and my friend completely went off.
Not only did she go off on him and was rude, but she failed to see how she played apart in the interaction going south. As the man stopped talking to us due to her explosiveness, she turned to me and said, “he was rude.” No, she was rude. And due to her bitterness, she did not even see it. If your interaction with the opposite sex tends to turn explosive or into an argument then most of the time you are giving off some bitterness.
The second signs of being hopeless in relationships is just feeling like no one will ever love you, that there are no good men out there, and that all men out there are trying to use women. Now are there some men out there to use women? Yes there are. In fact, you may have even became bitter because you may have encountered some men out there that have used you. But just because you have had a few or maybe even many does not mean you need to be hopeless because in the end there are many good men and there are plenty getting married every day. And if you cannot see that, then your bitterness plays a large factor in that. Also check out my video below on what to do when you are hopeless in love.
How to stop being angry and bitter
I want to jump back into the story of Naomi quickly for some quick lessons on how to stop being angry and bitter. Because if you read the book of Ruth then you should know that she met Boaz (click here to read my blog on that). Ruth and Boaz had a child and then Naomi had regained the family unit that she thought she would never get.
Then the women said to Naomi, “Blessed is the Lord who has not left you without a redeemer (grandson, as heir) today, and may his name become famous in Israel. May he also be to you one who restores life and sustains your old age; for your daughter-in-law, who loves you and is better to you than seven sons, has given birth to him.” Ruth 4:14-15
And so, what we can learn from Naomi about how to stop being angry and bitter is that. Just to be open. If you have it in your head how life is going to be and how life is going to suck all of the time so you mine as well be bitter because that is the only way that you can cope with the horrific things that life is going to throw at you anyway. Then you are closing yourself off. If you feel like because you have had some hard times in life or even in relationships and therefore life is going to always be like that then are closed off.
You are not going to find a good relationship because in your mind every man is out to get you and you being a bitter woman will always get in the way of a man trying to get to know you. You will not find good friendship because it is too hard to be your friend because you are so freakin negative. And you are never going to have good experiences because even in the good experiences you will probably only see the bad and nothing will ever be good enough.
So, instead of being bitter how about this. You be open, you expect things to be good, you actually listen to what people are saying to you instead of just assuming and projecting your past disappointments on other people who have done nothing to you (see my blog here for more on that). Examine your own behavior and how you come across to other people and how your own behavior contributes to how much YOU feel your life sucks.
Is the world fill with bitter women? Yes too many if you ask me. But do you have to be one of them no. You can be shooting down your own blessings with how you come across. And all you have to do is to take a shift in perspective. And if you need help doing that feel free to get my Christian Manifestation Guide with 29 affirmations and Bible verses that if you say them AND start to behave and believe them then this should help have a shift in your bitter woman mindset. Click here to buy.