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In this post, I want to teach you how to stop caring about what people think. Are you the type of person that gets depressed, sad, upset, and even crying when people do not like you? Are you the type of person that bases your life and your decisions based on what other people think you should do? If so then you suffer from the “I care too much about what other people think about me” syndrome. The side effects of this syndrome include the following:
- The inability to make decisions for yourself and instead you have to ask other people.
- Making decisions based on what other people think you should do, even if you do not want to do them.
- Being sad, depressed, angry, or even happy based on how other people feel about you.
- Changing yourself and the way you are in order to impress or make other people like you.
But fear not, I am going to give you 5 tips so that you can learn how to not care what people think about you.
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How To Stop Caring What People Think #1 ~ Don’t Give Away Your Power
When you learn how to stop caring what people think then you take back your power. I have come to learn when you do not care what other people think, you take their power away. The fact of the matter is that many people want you to care about what they think. Many people bank on the fact that you care what they think because when you do you are allowing them to have control over you.
You are allowing them to sway your decisions, what you want, and how you feel about yourself. In a sense, you are giving away all your power and putting it into the hands of other people. But you have to remember no one but you needs to have the power over your own life.
So you have to think to yourself. Do you want to live your own life OR do you want to live your life? Therefore, make decisions based on what you want, what you feel, and keep what other people think out of it. Sometimes it is even needed for you to not tell people about what is going on in your life because you do not need outside interference from them.
How To Stop Caring What People Think #2 ~Get Rid Of People Who Are Bad For You
There are so-called friends that are really frenemies (Click my blog here on frenemies). And every time they open up their mouth to tell you something about yourself it is probably negative and they WANT to affect your mood in a bad way. Because as I mentioned before it is a way of controlling you and deep down they need validation from you that their opinions matter.
It is one thing to have a real friend that is giving you their opinion because they really want the best for you. It is another thing to have a frenemy who just wants to say things to you to bring you down. To remedy this situation you need to just get rid of these people. Also, check out my video below for more on that.
I do not care if you know them from preschool, I do not care if you have known them forever, and I do not care if they are your so-called best friend. If they are bad for you then they are bad for you. I have let go of a frenemy at the drop of a dime. And I can proudly say it was a freeing experience and I have not once regretted letting go of someone that I felt was intentionally bringing me down through their words and their actions.
How To Stop Caring What People Think #3 You Are You And Be Okay with That
Another tip to learn how to stop caring what people think is to be okay with you. You are always going to be you and you are always going to be in your life. You were born with a unique set of gifts, looks, characteristics, likes, and dislikes. There is no one else on the planet that is like you and therefore you need to be okay with that and be okay with being you.
And if you choose to change yourself all together into someone that other people want you to be then you are robbing the world of the great person and that great person is you. Some people change their looks, their hair, their outfits, where they live, or their car based on other people’s opinions. Even if they do not want to and even if it does not make them happy.
They just do it because it is what other people are doing, what other people want them to do, or they think that other people are going to like them more if they just change (fill in the blank).
My advice to you is this unless those people are going to pay your rent, pay for your clothes, make your car payments, or come to do your hair every day then why are you changing things about yourself for them. The phrase be yourself sounds so cliche. But it is true. Who else can you be, but yourself?
When you spend all your time trying to imitate what or who other people want you to be, that is when you will lose your mind because you will not live by other people standards and you will drive yourself crazy trying to change yourself based on what other people think about you and who they feel you should be.
“I am me, there’s no changing that. So why apologize or conform for someone else. “
You have a brain in your head, the ability to form your own opinions, and your own thoughts that dictate your own actions. You do not need anyone else to do that for you.
“Not feeding into who other people think you should be can be a freeing experience.”
How To Stop Caring What People Think #4 You are Enough
I don’t understand why I see people beg and plead for someone to be their friend? If someone does not like you and does not want to be your friend, then so what. It is their loss. You need to understand that first and foremost, you have yourself and you are enough.
Why are you trying to convince someone else to be around you if they don’t want to be? Or why try to make someone like you if they do not like you as is? There are too many people in this world that will like you and appreciate you for who you are then chase after the ones who don’t.
“Life is too short to live by other people’s standards. “
How To Stop Caring What People Think ~ Case In Point
My first real lesson on how to stop caring what people think happened when I was young. I recall in grade school when all of my friends decided to shun me based on a rumor that my friend told them. They went out of their way to ignore me and not speak to me. They were the popular kids and I USED to be one of them. And overnight I was on the outside of the group. AND GUESS WHAT? I decided to not care.
I did not beg to be their friend, I did not chase them down, and I did not get upset that I was no longer in the popular crowd. I found a new friend that day and started hanging out with her. No, she was not popular. In fact, she was unpopular. BUT she wanted to be my friend, she liked me for me, and she did not do things or say things to make me feel bad about myself or threaten our friendship.
And I valued that type of friendship over the fake ones that I had. AND I did not care what other people in school had to say about it. I did not care about what they had to say about me for hanging out with her.
Because hanging out with her made me happy. And just like I said before when you do not care what people think about you you take away their power. After a few months of me having a new friend and being happy, my so-called friends all of a sudden decided to be my friends again. Go figure.
How To Stop Caring What People Think #5 ~ Your Everyday Affirmation
Every time you feel yourself getting bothered by what other people think about you remember to say the following:
I don’t care what others think about me. I am not going to die if someone does not want to be my friend and does not like me. Life is too short to live by other’s people standards so instead, I choose to live my life to the fullest, by my own standards, and doing what makes me happy. I don’t care what anyone else has to say about it.
Remember when knowing how to stop caring what people think, remember that you should be the most important person in your life. What you do and what you think about yourself matters MUCH MUCH more than what other people think about you. Choose to live by those standards and not other people’s.
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