3 Traits Esther In The Bible Had That Got Her A King

Lessons from Esther : Act Like A Queen To Get Your King.

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I want to tell you about the story of Esther and explain all the characteristics of Esther in the Bible that other women need to imitate. But since the book of Esther is so short I fear that many women will just read over the book and miss some of the key points about the story of Esther altogether. But lucky for you, I am going to point them out for you.  Also, be sure to check out my video on how to embrace your feminine energy lessons from Queen Esther.

Characteristics of Esther in the Bible ~#1 She was Nice

To illustrate this point, I want to first point out the following Bible verse so you can understand exactly what I mean.

When the turn came for Esther the daughter of Abihail the uncle of Mordecai, who had taken her as his own daughter, to go into the king, she asked for nothing except what Hegai the king’s eunuch, who had charge of the women, advised. Now Esther was winning favor in the eyes of all who saw her. Esther 2:15

I particularly love the end of the verse which explained how Queen Esther won favor in all of those who saw her. There were probably a lot of virgins who were gathered to the palace possibly be queen and it was a long shot that Esther would be chosen.  But the thing that set her apart was that people liked her, she was a good person, and everyone who met her remembered her.

Characteristics of Esther in the Bible ~ What’s my point

Queen Esther was not fake, backstabbing, conniving, rude, or cold-hearted.  She was a woman who people loved to be around and for that the king chose her. I think we all imagine that Esther chose some items that came into the king’s chamber, they slept together, and he chose her to be queen.  But I like to think that it was more than that.

Since when can sex win over a man? Who is to say that the king had not heard of Esther before he even met her?  My main point is that you should not walk around being a complete and total jerk to everyone. You do not know who may see you and you do not know who is watching you from afar.

Choose to be favored and have a good reputation over a bad one. The key lesson from Esther is that you never know who is watching you.  You never know if those people who are watching you will tell other people good things about you or tell other people how crazy you are. And other people’s opinion of you could bring you a king, a promotion, a job, an opportunity OR it can have the adverse effects and make you lose out on all of the above.

Characteristics of Esther in the Bible ~ #2 Esther Knew How To Listen To Other People

When Esther first came to the palace she and all the rest of the virgins were placed under the care of the King’s servant Hegai. And low and behold that Hegai was instrumental in helping Esther with the king.  The fact of the matter is that sometimes you have to know when to listen to people who know more than you and that doing so can help you out. The following paragraphs are from the book specifically for single women (click here to buy).

Excerpt To Show Characteristics of Esther in the Bible 

Let them be placed under the care of Hegai, the king’s eunuch, who is in charge of the women; and let beauty treatments be given to them. Esther 2:3 (NIV)

 Imagine if Esther came up to Hegai and said, “Forget you. I am going to do what I want” and rejected his instruction. Then where would she be?

 When the turn came for Esther . . to go to the king, she asked for nothing other than what Hegai, the king’s eunuch who was in charge of the harem, suggested. Esther 2:15 (NIV)

There is something I want to point out here. Esther was entrusted with Hegai. She won the favor of Hegai over the course of going through preparation for an entire year and when it came time for Esther to go in front of the king, it was Hegai who told her what to bring to appear in front of the king.

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What’s my point

My point is that you cannot think that you are a know it.  Sometimes you need to be quiet and take advice from people who are both smarter than you, wiser than you, and know more about a situation than you do. Humility is a beautiful thing, not someone who thinks they know it all.

Characteristics of Esther in the Bible ~ #3 God Ordered Her Steps

To illustrate this point I am going to take an excerpt from my Single Mom’s devotional (click here to buy) regarding Esther and how God ordered her steps. More specifically this goes out to all my single women out there that doubt that there is a man out there for them.

When you read the Book of Esther, you can clearly see that God had a plan for her. God can work His magic in any way possible to ensure that you end up with the man that He wants you to end up with, as well as the life He wants you to end up with. Esther went from being an orphan to being a queen. 

Consider these things when it comes to Esther:

“Now the king was attracted to Esther more than to any of the other women, and she won his favor and approval more than any of the other virgins. So he set a royal crown on her head.” Esther 2:17

I know often times, as a single woman you may want to get married and you may even wonder if it is going to happen. Do not get into the habit of chasing men or doing something desperate for the attention of a man. If you desire to get married, there is a man out there for you. You will not have to worry about a man not wanting you, not being seen, or being judged by your past. 

Remember, in the Book of Esther, when she was afraid to tell the king that she was Jewish? And when she finally did, that it really did not make one bit of a difference? It did not make the king love her less and it did not make him want to banish her as queen.

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Characteristics of Esther in the Bible ~ What’s my point

My point is that oftentimes as single women we start doing the MOST to get noticed by a man or we even change ourselves to be noticed by a man. Instead of doing all of that why can’t you just TRUST the process. If Esther was an orphan off the street who became queen what makes you think that God cannot do something as equally as awesome for you. God is the ultimate matchmaker.  Don’t forget that.

These are the three most important characteristics of Esther in the Bible that all women can learn from. If you know a fellow female who needs to read this post, then go ahead and share it with her.


  1. As a single guy myself – I can vouch that this is great advice! Just be yourself, and the right guy will come into your life eventually!

  2. “If you are so busy being a good person then you never know who you may meet along the way. And you never know who will help you along the way. You do not have to pretend to be someone else or be the stereotypical evil back stabbing woman to get ahead.” You really don’t. Thank you for this post!

  3. Oh, so many women should be reading this!!! Love Esther and your relevant connections for every woman! Would you consider sharing on my new Fresh Market Friday link-up?

    • Yes. I went to your site and shared it. Thank you so much. I would love to join your link up on a weekly basis. I love when like minded people connect.

  4. We can learn so much from Esther. You’re right, you never know who is watching! But it’s likely that someone is! Our actions can be a beautiful testimony. And while you shouldn’t act a certain way to gain favor with mankind, trying to be a biblical woman and gaining favor with God will have the same outcome! My life verse is Micah 6:8. Definitely a daily challenge! Blessings on your week, Sophia!

  5. So true: “Just be you, and through being you will allow you to go to places that you never thought possible.” This is advice we all need to remember and follow. Thanks for sharing, Sophia.

  6. Lovely thoughts! I love the Esther passage and lesson. Visiting from #Grace& Truth today.

  7. what a wonderful post! And it is so true – if you are true to yourself and who God created you to be, He will make sure that the right people take notice, and you will be praised and rewarded for your actions. Thanks for reminding us of this truth!

  8. This is encouraging,especially the fact that the king looked at the inner beauty,to work on our character and not just beauty and make-ups.

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