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In this post, I want to give you a few lessons by pointing out some key single women in the Bible that I know each and every single woman needs to learn from. As a single woman, I know it can be daunting being single you may even feel like God has forgotten about you.
BUT all of that stops today. Because through following single women in the Bible, I plan to show you exactly how God has a history of matchmaking and looking out for the best interest of single women. So read the story of these women AND most of all LEARN from these women. What worked for them can also work for you.
You ready, let’s get into it.
1. Advice From Single Women In The Bible ~ Esther
The first, of the three women in the Bible, is Esther. The book of Esther is one of my favorite books in the Bible. It is such a short book but it is packed with so many lessons that single women can learn from. I actually covered Esther before you can click here to read that blog post. BUT there are a few more lessons that I want to outline with Esther specifically for single women. I also have a video that you can watch below for more lessons on Esther, but also consider the following lessons.
Advice From Single Women In The Bible ~ Esther gained favor with all those who saw her.
Now the king was attracted to Esther more than to any of the other women, and she won his favor and approval more than any of the other virgins. So he set a royal crown on her head and made her queen instead of Vashti. Esther 2:17
And Esther won the favor of everyone who saw her. Esther 2:15
Queen Esther was not fake, backstabbing, conniving, rude, or cold-hearted. She was a woman who people loved to be around and for that the king chose her. Choose to be favored and have a good reputation over a bad one. The key lessons from Esther are that you never know who is watching you. You never know if those people who are watching you will tell other people good things about you or tell other people how crazy you are. And other people’s opinion of you could bring you a king, a promotion, a job, an opportunity OR it can have the adverse effects and make you lose out on all of the above.
Advice From Single Women In The Bible ~ Esther went through beauty treatments for a whole year before she was eligible to be brought before the king.
Before a young woman’s turn came to go into King Xerxes, she had to complete twelve months of beauty treatments prescribed for the women, six months with oil of myrrh and six with perfumes and cosmetics. Esther 2:12
Can you imagine being in the palace knowing that the king is looking for a queen, but you have to wait a whole year, minimum before you meet him? BUT often times you may not be ready and there is the preparation that needs to be done in the process. If you want a relationship, think to yourself, are you really ready?
Check out my blog on are you ready to be married. Are there some skeletons in your closet that you need to get out of? Or perhaps you need to address some neediness or jealousy-type issues? (Click my blog here on relationship baggage) Just like Esther had to go through the beauty treatments to prepare herself for the king, there are some preparations you may need to go through before you meet your king as well.
To sum up my point I want to take an excerpt from my book for Christian single women (click here to read more about the book).
Before Esther became queen, she had to go through beauty treatments. For a whole year to be exact. She may have seen the king walking around, knew that she was meant to be queen, or she may have been hidden from the king the whole time. We don’t know. What we do know is that she was at the palace for twelve months before she even had a chance to go before the king. She was getting beauty treatments and I am sure that the young ladies had classes on how to act and according to royal protocol. Becoming a queen was not an overnight process. Being queen was not something that she could just step into off the street and do. It took preparation. It took training, and it took learning how to look and behave like queen. The reason why I bring this up is because so many of you think that you are ready to be queen and meet your king and really, like Esther, you are still an orphan on the street. You do not know how to act like a queen, dress like a queen, or even speak like a queen. But yet you want to go before the king when you are not even ready. Like Esther, your preparation may be a year. It may even be longer or it may even be shorter. Therefore, don’t resent the things that you are going through because it may be preparation for your king. You don’t want to go before your king and not be ready because you may miss your chance be to queen.
Advice From Single Women In The Bible ~ Esther knew how to get her way.
When Esther went before the king uninvited; thankfully her head did not get chopped off! Because that was a very real possibility of what could occur when she decided to go before the king un~summoned.
All the king’s officials and the people of the royal provinces know that for any man or woman who approaches the king in the inner court without being summoned the king has but one law: that they be put to death unless the king extends the gold scepter to them and spares their lives. But thirty days have passed since I was called to go to the king. Esther 4:11
One thing about Esther is once she came before the king and he extended his gold scepter to her, therefore, saving her life, Esther did not start making demands on the king right away to save her people. Instead, she FED him! That’s right! She gave him a table full of food two nights in a row before asking for something. She did not begin screaming, nagging, and throwing temper tantrums. Women fail to realize that you can be nice to get your way and do not have to nag a man to death.
So the king and Haman went to Queen Esther’s banquet, and as they were drinking wine on the second day, the king again asked, “Queen Esther, what is your petition? It will be given you. What is your request? Even up to half the kingdom, it will be granted. Esther 7: 1-2
Below is another excerpt from my book for single women (click to buy) that talks about a woman’s mouth being a leaky faucet. The point is that sometimes you have to know how to get your way and nagging all the time, is not it. If you want to get the first full chapter of my book for free then click here.
2. Advice From Single Women In The Bible ~ The Samaritan Woman
The second of the three women in the Bible was the woman at the well. I have a whole blog that goes into details about the Samaritan woman that you can read here. For the sake of this post and what you can learn from her as a single woman, there are some things that I want you to consider. And also before we get into I have an entire video on some of the relationship issues the Samaritan woman had which you can watch down below as well.
Advice From Single Women In The Bible ~ She was looking for love in all the wrong places.
Once again to prove my point I am going to take an excerpt from my book.
I am convinced that the longing most people feel for wanting to be complete is actually a longing for God (Psalm 63:1). But instead of single women realizing this longing for God, they want to use an actual man to fill that void. Take for example, the Samaritan woman. He [Jesus] told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.” “I have no husband,” she replied. Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.” John 4:16-18 (NIV) The Samaritan woman was at the well by herself more than likely because other women did not want to be around her. This woman has had FIVE husbands! AND the man she was living with now, she was not married to. What was she looking for? Why would she put herself through the pain of so many marriages and all for them not to work out? AND why would she be with yet another man? The Samaritan woman was looking for someone to complete her because she felt incomplete and she thought that jumping from man to man would do it for her. It started with her being married and now she just settled for shacking up. After all, whoever she was with was a man and a man was better than nothing? Right? WRONG! You have not been listening. Let’s take the next verse. If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.” “Sir,” the woman said, “you have nothing to draw with and the well is deep. Where can you get this living water?” John 4:10-11 (NIV) The poor woman was probably taking Jesus literally at this point. He, however, was not talking about regular water. Jesus was comparing the well water to everything that the woman had been thirsting for in life. Jesus was telling her that He is the water that she have been looking for, He is the One that can complete her, and she did not need to go from man to man trying to look for something that cannot be found in man. In case all of this is going over your head, there is a point here I promise. You need to be complete on your own. You do not need for any MAN or PERSON to be that one for you. As long as you have God, then you have all that you need. I am not telling you to be single forever. But understand that relationships should add to who you are and what you already have and NOT be the sole source for your happiness. Don't be like the Samaritan woman jumping from man to man and husband to husband, trying to fill a void only God can fill.
3. Advice From Single Women In The Bible ~ Ruth
The last of the three women in the Bible was Ruth. And Ruth was full of pain. After her first husband died she followed her mother and law, Naomi, back to her homeland. There she would begin to work hard in the field. I am sure she looked like a hot mess while doing it. But even under these circumstances, she was noticed by Boaz, the owner of the field. Which I do an entire breakdown of Ruth and Boaz in my video below.
One would ask, what made Ruth go to that particular field to glean? If she had gone to any other field to work, it is possible she may not have found herself a new husband. She was a foreigner after all. I am sure most men would not have given her a second look for this reason alone. But Boaz did.
The main takeaway from the book of Ruth is that
“No matter how hard your life is, you have to believe that God is in control.”
Ruth left her home town of Moab to follow her mother-in-law, Naomi. Ruth was a widow with no children and she had to be around forty years old. To top it all off, she was headed to Bethleham to a land in which she was not going to be number one of the list to marry. She was not Jewish. She was a foreigner, she was a widow, she was over forty and she had no children. If this is your situation, then don’t feel bad, I feel more than anything this story should give you hope that God has not forgotten about you and no matter how single you are, there is still a Boaz before you yet. (Book excerpt).
The lesson here is that you just have to go about doing what you have to do, without feeling sorry for yourself (click to read my blog on why you should not feel sorry for yourself). God may just be leading you down a hard path so you can find your Boaz. (Check out my blog here on the Real Boaz Versus the Counterfeit).
These are the three single women of the Bible that you can learn from and if you know someone who may enjoy this post then share it with them.