Expert Advice On How To Get Your Life Together & Become Who You Want

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In this post, I am going to give you tips on how to get your life together and how to be the person you want to be. You may ask, what makes me so qualified to give this advice. I mean surely you can read my about me page (here) or my single mom struggle (here) but to make a long story short I am a part of the two percent of people that have a Ph.D., I am a National Certified Counselor, I am an entrepreneur, I am an author, I have a direction in life, I know who I want to be, and I got two of my degrees as a single mom.

In the same token, I am a woman, I have lost my job,  I have been broke, I have encountered so many insecure backstabbing people that have tried to bring me down or throw me off my path. I am a poster child of how to get your life together.  Some I had even considered friends. I have had both family and friends not believing in me. But yet here I stand. You can see my broken and struggling story by watching the video down below and don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here.

The reason why I say this is because so many people seem to think that when you chose to be the person you want to be that it will be easy and that you will never have to face anything.  They want to know how to get your life together but if during that process they face something that is hard they want to complain.  They think that everyone will be all for you and support you along the way, that no adversity should come to your way, and that you should find favor everywhere you go.

When really that is not the case when you choose to be the person you want to be you have to know that you should aspire to reach another playing field that many people have not even heard of. And because people don’t understand it, they tend to be against it. But know how to get your life together is remembering that it is your life.

The reason why I wanted to give you tips on how to get your life together and how to be the person you want to be is that so many people really want to be that person for one reason or another they just seem to fall short. They are not willing to do enough, give enough, or they just do not know how or what they are supposed to do. I can go on with this motivational speech forever, BUT I really want to give you some tips on how to become the person you want to be and how to get your life together.  So without further delay, let’s go ahead and get into it.

 #1 How to get your life together ~ Know That You Are Powerful Beyond Measure

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To understand how to get your life together then understand that you are a powerful person.  To understand what I mean by this I want to start off with a quote by Marianne Williamson:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” 

The one thing that may be holding you back from your full potential is that you have to limit yourself.  You do not believe or think that can be and do everything and because you do not believe you do not even try. Know that as a creation of God that you are powerful beyond measure and whatever you want to do or put your mind to you can achieve simply because you are you and you are chosen to manifest the glory of God.

Instead of fighting it and coming up with a bunch of excuses, tell yourself every day that you are the bomb and whatever destiny that you feel you deserve then you have a right to it and you feel that you can get it.

#2 How To Get Your Life Together ~ Work Work Work Work Work

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One thing you need to realize about how to get your life together is that just because you feel that you deserve something and you recognize the power within you does not mean that just because you want to be someone that it will just magically happen for you. The fact of the matter is that nothing comes for free and to whom much is given much is required. And the only way that you can really become who you want to be is to work at it.

There is no substitution for hard work. If you want to be a New York Times Best Selling Author-it is going to be very hard to get there if you have not written a book and if your work is crappy.  Don’t think that because you were meant to do something or that you want to do something that everything is going to just be handed to you because you are you.

As I mentioned in my opening story yes I have three degrees.  But never think that it was easy. Never think that I did not have to survive on 5-hour energy drinks and 1.5 hours of sleep for days at a time.  Because while I was going to school, I still had to work, I still had to be a mom, and I still had to do an internship.

The world did not just stop and my obligations did not just pause because I had goals.  I had to work hard in all areas of my life in order to chase those goals. So whatever you want to be, it requires work. And never think that because it requires work that it WAS NOT meant to be because it was too hard.

“So I say to you, ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened Luke 11:9-10

“If a door is not opening for you then keep knocking, keep asking, or kick the door in if you have to.”

Nowhere in the Bible verse does it say when you knock on the door the first time the door will open. Therefore, KEEP knocking, KEEP seeing, KEEP asking, KEEP working, and eventually it will be opened for you.  But you have to KEEP going and keep doing something. And if you fail then get up and still KEEP going.  To be who you want to be will take work. And it is through these works, shortcomings, failures, and successes that you learn valuable lessons and you truly start to transform into not only the person you want to be but also the person that God wants you to be.

#3 How To Get Your Life Together ~ Its YOUR Life

How to get your life together (realize that it is your life). You want to be the person that YOU want to be. Not the person that your mom wants you to be, not the one that your cousin wants you to be, your husband, your man none of those people.  A big reason why people do not know who they want to do be is that they are so busy listening to other people and what other people want for their lives instead of listening to themselves.

Plenty of people told me to not go back to school, not have my son, not start a blog, not try to be an entrepreneur, not write a book, and I did not listen to any one of them. And as it turns out, it is those same things that they told me not to do that turned out to be a huge blessing for me.

That is because I  learned a long time ago that you come into this world by yourself, you live your life by yourself and you are going to be with you the whole time, and when you die you are going to be sitting in front of God and making an account for your life BY YOURSELF.  The last thing you want to say is, “Yeah God I know you had all these big plans for me to do and xyz but the reason why that didn’t happen is that I was so busy listening to so and so.

How To Get Your Life Together

You become the person that you want to be because you learn to go to the beat of your own drum and you are not afraid to be who you want to be and to utilize the talents that God gave you. No matter how many people think it is weird, think you are not good enough, and no matter how many people make fun of you for it you learn to just do you.  I am sure the Wright brothers got made fun of for thinking they could fly.

Or Ben Franklin for standing outside with a key latched to a kite in the middle of a lightning storm (which was kind of crazy). BUT my point is, these are the ones that we remember to this day. NOT the ones who told them that they couldn’t.  Even though Ben Franklin was a little crazy standing in lighting with a key. Something told him that he was going to make it out of that situation alive and that he was somehow going to invent this thing called electricity. And HE chose to believe that and he chose to become the man that we know in the history books.

#4 How To Get Your Life Together ~ Final Thoughts

My point is that when are trying to figure out how to get your life together you need to be the person that you want to be and you need to believe that person was meant to be great.  You need to give this thing called life everything you have and leave this Earth with no regrets. When I die, I would rather say I tried and failed as opposed to saying I never tried anything much or did anything at all.

You are the only one that can live your life so transform yourself into a person that makes you proud. Sometimes it won’t be easy, sometimes you have to deal with people you do not want to or do things that you do not want to do. BUT so what. In the end, if you succeed, all those things that were against you and people who did not believe in you won’t matter so much.

If you know someone that is having trouble becoming the person they want to be then go ahead and share this post with them.

AND to help you out, check out my Christian Manifestation Guide for 29 affirmations to speak to yourself daily to help you become the person you want.  Just click here.


  1. This is really good. Knowing who you are as a person and what you capable and made of are really keys to attain success in just about anything you do.

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