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In this post, I want to encourage you to live your best singleness life. For some reason or another when women are single they are afraid to live their best life. They always want to wait for a man to do this, wait for a man to do that, and as a result, they are not living life at all. All they are doing is a bunch of waiting.
And the reason why I know that as a single woman you are probably sitting around waiting to be married or waiting to be in a relationship before you do things is that I myself use to do it. I can recall that there use to be a time that I felt that I had to wait until I was in a relationship to start enjoying life. Which just lead to me feeling more lonely and depressed. But then I realized that being single is not some death sentence and my sitting around watching life pass me by was MY OWN fault.
What I have come to learn is that wallowing in self-pity over your relationship status is no way to live life. In fact, you that is not called living life, that is calling sinking yourself into a deeper pit of depression. Which is why I am going to help you out. I am going to give you some amazing tips on how to live your best life as a single woman so that you can start living your life to the fullest and being happy exactly where you are. No man needed.
You ready let’s get into it.
Live Your Best Single Life ~ Mastering Singleness #1 Stop Waiting And Start Doing
In my books for single moms I said the following:
If you choose to live your life that way, you will be sitting around watching life pass you by. Even if you want to be in a relationship or get married, you do not need to put your entire life on hold until that happens. The best thing that you can do is to start enjoying you, because you are a very awesome person and your life can be equally as awesome if you stop waiting and start doing. While you are single, enjoy yourself, find your purpose, and do something that YOU want to do. Do not sit around on the couch waiting for your prince charming to come knock on your door and rescue you from your single relationship status. Life too short and too precious for that. No matter what our life situation is, tomorrow is not promised to anyone. So why not enjoy today? “Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.” Proverbs 27:1 You do not know what the next hour, minute, or second may bring, and therefore, you should go after everything you ever wanted with all your heart no matter if you have a man or not. The last thing you want to do is to look back on your life with a whole bunch of ‘what ifs’ and regrets because you were just sitting around, waiting, and watching the paint on the door dry until the man of your dreams walked through it. If you cannot learn to enjoy yourself and love yourself, then how can other people learn to enjoy you? If you want to travel more, go ahead and do it. If want to buy a house, then do it. If you want to make more money, then do it. What is stopping you? “And don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life.” 1 Corinthians 7:17 There is much to be enjoyed during this season. Do not let your current season pass you by because you are too busy wishing for the next. Each season brings its own blessings.
Just because you are single who says that you cannot live life to the fullest. There is no rule book that says as a single woman you just to sit around waiting to be rescued by your prince charming. This is not a Disney Movie, single women are not helpless. Therefore, stop waiting and just start doing.
“Just because you are single it does not mean that you have to watch your life pass you by. “
Live Your Best Single Life ~ Mastering Singleness #2 What Do You Want.
It can be really hard to live life to the fullest if you do not even know what that is. The first thing you need to do is figure out what it is that you want. What do you want in your career, your life, your future relationship, and what do you want your life to look like. Once you have a clear direction on what these things are then you can go ahead and pursue that direction.
In order to do this, I highly recommend making a to-do list or even a Vision Board (I have a whole blog on how to make a vision board that works). Once you have a clear indication of what you want then you can come up with a plan on how to actually start doing it.
Live Your Best Single Life ~ Mastering Singleness #3 Put Yourself Out There
There is no way that you can live your single life to the fullest if you are afraid to even leave your house. I get it, as a single woman you may be the last single friend left and feel that you have no one to go out with. You may want to do travel or do things but no one wants to go with you and you do not want to go by yourself.
You may get so down and out about being single that you do not even want to leave your house because you do not want to see the other couples which you know will make you depressed. What I need you to do is get out of your head. You are not going to live your life if you are too afraid to even do anything.
If you want some ideas on how to start putting yourself out there then check out my video on where to meet good quality men.
Live Your Best Single Life ~ Mastering Singleness #4 Be Present
As single women, we tend to tell ourselves that we are lonely, that we are not going to meet someone, that when we go out and it is not swarming with a bunch of single men then we start to feel like we wasted our time. And so everything that we do start to do becomes negative and everything that we say to ourselves starts to become negative.
So even if you are going out and putting yourself out there, if you are refusing to have fun because a man did not approach you. Or a guy thought that your friend was cuter than you and so he approached her or that you are going to refuse to go to your friends’ wedding because you are jealous; then you are going to make your life even more miserable. Instead of thinking about what did not happen start being happy for the things that did. Be present and choose to be happy at the moment.
Live Your Best Single Life ~ Mastering Singleness True story:
I have a friend that is single. We were trying to live our best single life. We would go out all the time. The downside to my friend is that whenever she goes out she is always sitting in the corner with a mean look on her face. She does not want to get up and dance and when people try to engage her she always had an attitude. Then when we leave the event she gets upset because she did not meet anyone or she says that she did not have fun. When really the reason why she did not have fun is that she is not fun, she is not present in the moment, and she already made up her mind when she left her house that she was not going to have fun.
Live Your Best Single Life ~ Mastering Singleness ~ The moral to this story
The moral of this story is that we can be getting in our own way. We can also make our self have a miserable time because we have already made it up in our head that this is how it is going to be. That single women cannot have fun on their own and so you don’t have fun on your own. So choose to be present and in every situation choose to have a good time.
Even when you go out, I do not care if there are 20 women and only one man in a place. Instead of getting mad about it. Choose to be happy, choose to engage other women, and tell yourself that this is a wonderful opportunity to meet new female friends. Because when you are negative, not only are you going to NOT create good memories but it also shows through your outward appearance, behavior, and your body language. And the end result is that NO ONE will want to engage you. Not men, not other people, and you are certainly not doing yourself any favors.
Live Your Best Single Life ~ Mastering Singleness #5 Create a Bucket List
Creating a bucket list is really simple, just come up with a list of all the things that you want to do. Write them down and then do them. It does not matter out outrageous, outlandish, or how far off you think it is just write it down.
Live Your Best Single Life ~ Mastering Singleness ~ True story
There were many things, trips, cars, and even buying a house on my own that I had written down on my bucket list. Many of the things that I wrote down I had no idea how I was going to do at the time. There were things that I had written down that I did not even have the money to do. But I wrote them down anyway and low and behold and time went by I was slowly checking things off my bucket list. It gave me more confidence to go after other things on my list.
Live Your Best Single Life ~ Mastering Singleness ~ The moral to this story
Writing things down makes it more possible that you are going to make something happened. And every time you cross things off your list it reminds you that you are living life, you are doing things that you really want to do, and it will give you the courage to do even more things.
Live Your Best Single Life ~ Mastering Singleness ~ Another true story
I had a friend that wanted to travel internationally and she made up her mind to go on her own. She was so nervous about it but she made up her mind to go and to have a good time. She went to Europe and she did have a good time. She put herself out there, made a mission to enjoy herself, and when she came back she is now planning another solo trip internationally. . Do you see what I mean, just taking the first step can step can lead to a whole staircase of amazing life experiences that you had never thought of OR think that you wanted.
In closing, I want to say this.
“Don’t let your singleness be your depression and don’t let your loneliness be your defeat”
You only get one life and you do not need to let it pass you by just because you do not have a man in it. Really commit to making your life the best life possible and commit to living your life to the fullest.
If you know a fellow single woman that is struggling to live her life because she is single then go ahead and share this post with her.
I have something for you. my book Fix It, Jesus! For Single Women Only. The Straightforward No-Nonsense Guide To Dating, Relationships, and Self Improvement to help you live your single life to the fullest.