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In this post, I want to talk to you about why you need to start surrounding yourself with positive people, why you need to surround yourself with positive influences, and why you need to surround yourself with those on the same mission as you. Have you ever heard of the saying birds of a feather flock together? It means that when you surround yourself with positive or even negative people then that is how people will see you.
Surrounding Yourself With Positive People ~ Case in point
When I used to work at a company in which I became friends with another female employee that was the same age as me. The only difference was she was a bad employee, she did not do her job, she did not get along with people, she was lazy, and had a bad reputation. AND GUESS WHAT? Whenever I came into the room and started talking to someone they automatically associated me with her.
Surrounding Yourself With Positive People ~ What is my point?
My point is that people can view you based on who you hang out with. Just like people judged me off my negative friend’s people will judge you based on the positive ones. If you choose to hang around a bunch of losers then people will associate you with being a loser. And hanging out with a bunch of winners then people will think you are a winner. I also have a video on, how you cannot take everyone with you that you can watch below, and don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here.
Surrounding Yourself With Positive People ~ Sex and The City
So I know that Sex and the City is not actually real life. But I want to make a point here. When you look at all of them, they are all successful women, all of them date successful men, all of them support one another, and all of them encourage each other to do better. Even though they are different people they are in the same league when it comes to being career-minded and even the caliber of people they date.
Can you imagine being the one Sex and the City friend that is a loser? Being the one who is unemployed, with no job, no career, no goals, no life, and always in a state of struggle. Can you actually see someone like that in the Sex and the City group? No probably not. BUT on the flip side, if you are a fan of the show then you can see how them hanging out with one another was a come-up.
Surrounding Yourself With Positive People #1 It Will Make You Push Yourself
Let’s face it when you see there are other people in your inner circle doing well it will make you want to do well too. That is because your inner circle is your baseline. Meaning that if they are doing good then subconsciously you will also want to start doing good.
Because your friends have already set the bar high and you will just want to keep up with them. For example, I can recall that in my Ph.D. program a few of my fellow classmates were completing their work better and faster than me AND getting better grades. I was thinking to myself that they must be some type of genius or something.
I was looking like the one that was falling behind in the group and I did not want that. So it made me push myself harder because if they were doing then there was no reason why I couldn’t do it. The last thing I wanted to be is the runt of the class always falling behind and not getting my work done. So because the people in my group were working faster and harder it made me work faster and harder as well. Just so that I could keep up with the group.
Surrounding Yourself With Positive People #2 It Will Keep You From Remaining Stagnant
On the flip side. If you hang out will people who are less successful than you, then you will be comfortable staying where you are. You will always say “well I am doing better than most of the friends that I know.” And because you are doing better than people who are not doing well anyway then you will trick yourself into thinking that you are doing good when really you are just doing a little better than your friends who are doing bad.
Let me put it like this,
If all your friends are people who are unemployed and are doing drugs. Then you may say to yourself, well I am working a job that is minimum wage and I am not doing drugs therefore I must be doing great. When really to the rest of the world you are just getting by. But then if you start to surround yourself with people who are making double your salary, live productive lives, and who are not on drugs; it will make you aware of where you are in life and once again it will push you to do better and keep you from remaining stagnant.
Surrounding Yourself With Positive People #3 They Make Your Life Better
I cannot stand when people call themselves your friends but they are really your frenemies. People that pretend to be your friend but hate you in real life (see my blog here on fake friends). These are the people you want to avoid because every time you do something wonderful they are just going to try to rain on your parade and make you feel bad about something you accomplished. As a result, you won’t want to accomplish much because your “friends” will make you feel bad about it. These are NOT the type of positive people that I am talking about.
Real positive people are those who are happy for you, that encourage you, and those that want to see you do better. People who motivate you and are ready to pick you up when you are having a bad day. Real friendships are mutual, not one-sided. Meaning that if each friend is a productive and positive human being; because you two are the same then you are literally feeding positiveness to one another. These are the friends that are going to encourage you to be the best you and make you keep going when you feel like you want to give up.
Surrounding Yourself With Positive People #4 You Can Learn From Them
Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.~ Proverbs 13:20
I can recall when I first meant a woman at my internship she had the same education level and in the mental health field BUT she was a genius at marketing. She is the one that introduced me to the idea of blogging and sharing your knowledge in a different way.
I really learned a lot from her in the short time that I knew her. That was several years ago and not only have I taken what she has exposed me to, but I have taken blogging to another level.
That is the type of friends that you want. Someone that can teach you something that you can carry on with you through life. That is why it is not only important to surround yourself with positive people but to also surround yourself with those on the same mission as you. If you are business-minded then surround yourself with business-minded people that way you can learn from them. Those who walk with the wise also become wise.
Surrounding Yourself With Positive People #5 They are Loyal
Some friendships do not last, but some friends are more loyal than brothers. ~ Proverbs 18:24
Some people are fickle and will turn on you faster than anything. But loyal friends are not like that. The type of people you want to be around you is people that will stand up for you even when you are not there. Having loyal friends are essential.
They are the ones that are going to speak good to you about other people and that are going to recommend you for a job that you are good for, give you an opportunity, and the ones that you can trust, and will not stab you in the back. When friends are positive, they lack the negative energy such as jealousy. So you can trust them to be loyal to you and a loyal friend is a good as gold.
These are some of the top 5 reasons why you should be surrounding yourself with positive people. When it comes to being positive it goes beyond just having positive behavior. Positiveness is contagious and can spill into other areas in your life. And before you know it you will be achieving goals and going after things you want all because of the positive influence that the positive people you are hanging out with have on your life.
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Good morning. I found your post today on Modest Mom.
I love your list! There’s a whole lot of wisdom here!
And, I think it’s fabulous that you are working on your PhD! Go, Girl!!
Hope you have a blessed day~