10 Obvious Signs He Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You

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There are so many obvious signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you that women just refuse to pay attention to. It is like women have this ride or die mentality and feel that if they just love a man hard enough, wait long enough, or just prove themselves to the man about how amazing they are then he will come around and eventually make her his girlfriend.

As a result, they find themselves being in an unhappy situation and chasing after a man that is showing obvious signs he’s not into you (read my blog here on not chasing a man).  The woman is afraid to leave the man because that would leave her single and any “relationship,” even though it is not technically a relationship, is better than being alone in so many women’s eyes.

Other women stay in what they perceive to be a relationship, when in fact they are just in a situationship and she is just one of many women that are in his regular rotation on his calendar (Check out my blog on the difference between relationship and dating).  Also, check out the video on why you should never compete with another woman. And subscribe to my channel by clicking here.

But it is okay, I am a woman like you are a woman and we have all been there. So I am not here to get on you but instead I am here to show you the most obvious signs that he doesn’t want a relationship with you. In hopes that you will just leave him alone and stop giving your attention to a man that does NOT want you. If the man that you are seeing exhibits these signs, then please just move on. Do not try to change his mind, to not go crazy, or threaten to harm yourself until he loves you.

“You cannot make a man be with you or see your worth if he is not willing to see that on his own.”

Now, let’s get into it, shall we?

quotes 10 Incredibly Obvious Signs he doesn't want a relationship with you If he doesn’t want you it is best to move on. Find out the signs he doesn’t love you, like you, or want to be in a relationship with you.

1. Signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you ~  He has never officially said that you are in a relationship.

I do not care if you talk on the phone every day, see each other each night, or even if he takes you places. If he has not officially said that you are his woman and he is your man and that you two are in an actual relationship then you are not in a relationship.  Do not assume just because he may act like you are his girlfriend that it makes it so. The only thing that makes you his girlfriend is him verbalizing it to you.

In a relationship, when a man is ready to make things official with you, he will have that talk and let you know that things are official.  If you are unsure, pay attention to how he introduces you.  If he introduces you as his woman or his girlfriend or he introduces himself to your people as your boyfriend, then that is also his way of making it official. If he has never said that you are in a relationship or refuses to put a title on the situation you two are in, then he probably does not want a relationship with you.

2. Signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you ~ You Have Never Met Any of His Family or Friends

If you are just dating for a week, then of course you are not going to meet any of his family or friends. But if you have been dating for a few months and you have never met his mom, his best friend, or any of the people that are close to him, then that means he is not serious about you.

He does not want to introduce you to these people because when he dumps you, he does not want his mother and his friends to ask where you went. If a man is planning a relationship with you then he is going to start to introduce you to people who are in his inner circle. If you are never met any of those people that is because you are just on a temporary retainer.

3. Signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you ~ #He Never Takes You Anywhere

If your relationship consists of you coming to his house or him coming to your house then this is not a relationship. This is just chilling with each other.  During these chill moments, he may ask you to clean his house or cook him some food.  He is fishing for a maid, not a girlfriend.  In a real relationship, you go places with each other, go on dates, or go on vacations.

If you are not doing any of that, then you are not in a relationship and he is putting forth minimal effort to try to impress you. In fact, if all of your dates just include a Netflix and chill situation. I would say that you are more of a sex partner than someone he is considering as a girlfriend. And if you are still going over to his house for all the dates and have not had sex with him yet, then in his mind it is just a matter of time and that is why he keeps inviting you to his house.  Also, check out my video for sure signs that he is into you.

4. Signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you ~ He Only Calls You for Sex

This should be a no-brainer, but it is not for many people. If he is only calling you to come to lay in his bed that is not a relationship, that is a booty call.  Sex is not a relationship and you cannot make sex into a relationship (see my blog here).

Another indicator is that if after you have sex, he leaves your house or he kicks you out of his house.  If he does not want to go to sleep and cuddle with you but wants you to leave the right way, this is a clear indicator that he does not want a relationship with you. Heck, he does not even want to cuddle with you. He just wants to cuddle inside your vagina and you are just sex.

5. Signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you ~ He Does not Claim You On Social Media

Say what you want, but social media has become such a big outlet for people to profess that they are in a relationship. Big indicators that you are not in a relationship with a person is looking on their social media page.  Certain signs to look for in this case are:

  • If you are not friends with them on social media
  • He keeps denying your friend request.
  • It does not say that he is in a relationship on social media. 
  • There are no pictures of you on social media.
  • He does not like you commenting on his pictures that would give any indication that you are seeing each other.
  • He is taking pictures with other girl’s on social media.
  • He has blocked you on social media.

All of these things are a big red flag that he does not want to be in a relationship with you.

6. Signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you ~  He Never Calls You

If you are always the one calling him and or texting him then you are not someone that is on his mind and that is the reason why he is not even trying to get to know you. Relationships consist of each person actually trying to get to know each other. And the way that you do that is through talking.

And if he does not want to talk to you, acts annoyed when you call, ignores your phone calls, or does not respond to your text for days on end then the last thing he is thinking about is having a relationship with you. In fact, you just need to leave him alone because now he is just being disrespectful to the point that he cannot even give you the courtesy of talking to you.

7. Signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you ~ He Ignores You

If you have seen him one day and then weeks and weeks go by before you see him again on top of the fact that he doesn’t even call you in between, then he does not want a relationship with you. If you see him out randomly in public and you try to speak to him and he either ignores you or plays it off like you are just some random woman that he has no real connection with, then he does not want a relationship with you.

8. Signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you ~ He Talks About Other Women In Front Of You

I mean I think that this is pretty self-explanatory. If he is thinking about other women then know that he is not thinking about you and if he is not thinking about you then he does not want a relationship with you. If a man talks about how he cannot wait to see such and such or wishes you were like such and such, or even calls and texts such and such right in front of your face when you are with him. Then he wants a relationship with such and such and not you.

9. Signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you  ~ He Disrespects You

If he is openly disrespecting you then at this point he may not even want to be your friend. He may be hoping that you get out of his life altogether. If he tells you he does not want you, that you would not a make good girlfriend, that your body is ugly, that you are ugly, stands you up for a date, and just talks to you like you are his dog. Then all of these things are disrespectful and that is how he feels about you. He probably barely likes you let alone wants to be in a relationship with you.

10. Signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you ~ You are the one doing all the work

  A relationship is a two-way street. If you are always the one giving to him and he is not giving anything back to you then he does not want to be in a relationship with you. Check out my blog on how to tell if you are in a one-sided relationship but examples include:

  • You buying him a Christmas or a birthday gift while he gets you nothing. 
  • You planning and paying for all the dates. 
  • You always trying to get him to open up and talk to you. 
  • You doing all the communicating while he just sits there. 
  • You are always the one that drives to go see him and he never tries to see you.

In short, if you feel like you are giving while he is giving nothing. Then that is an indication he does not want a relationship with you.

There you have it, ladies, these are the most 10 obvious signs that he is not just that into you and he does not want a relationship with you.

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  1. Yes, all of this! I have a hard headed friend that’s dating a guy that only comes around in the middle of the night. They’ve been seeing each other for about a year, no dates. She even tried putting him as her #MCM on instagram, and he got angry about it! But… she still tries, poor thing. It’s such an emotional thing for her.

    xoxo, Sam | thehauntedhousewife.com

  2. Yikes. Dating is so hard. It’s hard to find someone that you’re compatible with and wants all the same things out of life that you do. Ugh. I’m really over the entire dating scene.

  3. Times have changed! Social media? For reals? Damn. I am glad I am not out there. These are awesome signs, though. Seriously, I got flashbacks of crap relationships I had been through and you are spot on, but social media? Really? 😉

  4. These signs are so true! The sad part is, we women do see the signs but turn a blind eye thinking he’ll eventually fall and things will change

  5. These signs are so true. The sad part is, we see the signs but ignore them, because we hope he’ll eventually fall madly in love if we do all the right moves. Never happens

  6. I think that it is hard for anyone to realize that something is over (or never really started). Even with the warning signs people may not want to accept that facts. Thanks for sharing.

  7. True list. The only one that I feel like I’m guilty of is the social media. I take the Beyonce approach on social media when it comes to my relationship. I used to post all the pics and stuff with other bfs but it just had too many people in my business. Now I may post something if we go somewhere really special or take an amazing concert. No more of the “lunch with my love” stuff it just feeds into the social media bs of making your life look perfect.

  8. The claiming you on social media thing is a big deal! I had a guy in college who wouldn’t tell people we were dating on social media and it always bothered me. He wasn’t dating other girls, but he wasn’t ready to commit to everyone he knew either.

  9. God, I think this is the hardest lesson for us girls to grasp for some reason. Watch their actions! They’ll let you know..don’t be blinded ladies :).

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