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Can a married man love his mistress? It was requested for me to write about this topic. Apparently, I did not realize how prevalent of a phenomenon this was. Married men messing with mistresses and mistresses wondering if the man really loves her and if he is going to marry her BUT before he does so he has to leave his wife.
Now before I continue on with this post, I want you to know that I am going to keep it 100% real with you. If you are expecting me to sit up here and give you an unrealistic point of view of a married man and his mistress then know for that is just not me. I do not fluff anything I am just going to give you the reality of the situation. BUT know that the advice that I give you has your absolute best interest at heart.
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Can A Married Man Love His Mistress? Consider Is It Love or Lust.
Can A Married Man Love His Mistress? To answer the question I think we must define love. The definition of love can be very subjective depending on what you consider love to be. Since I am writing this, I am going to tell you my definition of love. I feel when you truly love someone, then it is really one of those most unselfish things you can do. See my video down below and subscribe to my channel by clicking here.
- When a married man has an affair with a woman, is it more like lust? (see my blog here to know the difference). Or better yet works of the flesh (see my blog here to understand why that is).
- Love is beyond the feel-good emotions, love is beyond sex, and love is beyond having a good time. It is about wanting the best for them, wanting to provide for them, and wanting them to be happy in their lives. And an affair is not that.
So when you think about the question can a married man love his mistress? An affair is a lot of sneaking around, the other woman being jealous of the wife, the wife being suspicious about what is going on, and the husband going back and forth between them. And that is not love. That is called a hot mess.
Because really when you think about it, if a married man was to love his mistress what is she getting out of the situation. She may get money, she may get sex, she may get a little bit of time. But that is not love, those are just things. It is not like the man is going to be there for her through thick and thin, she cannot go home and meet his family, spend the holidays with him, call him after work when she is having a bad day (because his wife is home), or just pop up to his house when she wants to.
So what about that spells love. It sounds more to me like a relationship of convenience. Real love is about fully immersing your life with another person. The other woman may go on vacations with him, dinner, or give him encouragement from time to time. But she does not take on the full responsibilities of a real relationship like the wife does.
She is not the one raising the kids, contributing to the household, or dealing with the in-laws. The mistress is really only there for the good times and not the bad. And that not love that is just fun. Love is unconditional. But an affair has conditions on it. It says.
- I love you as long as my wife does not find out.
- I love you as long as you are not asking me to leave my wife.
- I love you as long as you have sex with me.
- I love you as long as you be what I want you to be and do what I want and I get to go back home with my wife in the end.
- I love you but….
Can A Married Man Love His Mistress? ~ What’s My Point
I hope you really get my drift here. Because as soon as you are not giving him what he wants as a mistress then his love is gone. As soon as you require too much time as a mistress his love is gone. As soon as he is tired of you his love is gone. And as soon as you come between him and his wife his love is gone.
The point that I am getting at is that when it comes to love, you have to be there for both the good and the bad. So how can a married man love his mistress, when she is only there for the good and when the man wants to have a good time and that just called lust. Also, check out my video on women cheating with married men and subscribe to my channel by clicking here.
Can A Married Man Love His Mistress? No, Because He Loves His Wife
I highly recommend you read my blog lies married men tell their mistresses because the fact of the matter is that no matter if the man is cheating on his wife at one point and time he stood before a judge, preacher, or some ordained individual and took vows before God and his family declaring his love to his wife. The mistress does NOT have that luxury. She is really just his secret that he keeps tucked away and no one really knows about.
I mean really, when you think about it the wife is getting all the benefits because deep down she is the one that he loves. The man goes homes to his wife and his kids and what does the woman go home to….herself. The wife is getting the house, her bills paid, the authority to make decisions on behalf of the family, if a married man dies, the money, house, cars, and life insurance will go to the wife.
If he had debts the wife will be responsible for paying them. What does the other woman get? She does not benefit from the life insurance policy or his health insurance. She does not have to worry about how the house is going to get paid off or making funeral arrangements if he dies.
In fact, if something happens to the husband the mistress cannot even show up to the funeral and say her goodbyes. If the married man ends up in the hospital the wife is what makes the medical decisions in case he is in a coma, not the mistress.
There is a difference between being a wife and playing wife (click here to read about a real wife versus a play wife). The fact that the wife has all this authority simply because she is his wife means that he loves her and not the mistress, I mean think about it.
What real long-term benefits does a mistress get. Because even if she is getting money from him now on any given day the married man can just leave and never talk to her again and like that all of the benefit he gave her is gone. Also, consider checking out my video below on how messing with a married man can bring bad karma to your life.
Can A Married Man Love His Mistress? No, So Why Does She Love Him
Can A Married Man Love His Mistress? In case you are not getting my drift here, the answer is not. As a mistress, you are getting the short end of the stick. A mistress is being faithful to a man that cannot be faithful to her because he has a wife. When the mistress has a hard day at work she cannot call the man because he may be with his family.
The man is literally getting all of his needs met and the woman is waiting around getting the short end of the stick. She is in a relationship with someone that is not really in a relationship with her. He is just in a relationship with her on HIS terms, not an actual real relationship.
Sharing a man with another woman should hurt you, not having your own man that is fully dedicated to you and your needs should hurt you, having a man that has to get up after you have sex with him and rush home to his wife should hurt you. Now, if I ask a battered housewife, why she stays with a husband that beats her.
She may say because I love him and he loves me. But how can a man who hurts you love you? I know that is what he says, but is that what he is showing you? And think of it this way. Even if by chance a married man does leave his wife for you, as a mistress then what is keeping him from doing it again with you when the next hot thing comes around?
Can A Married Man Love His Mistress? If It Is Really Love Then Let It Go
Can A Married Man Love His Mistress? I personally do not think that a married man can love his mistress based on ALL the above things I just mentioned but let’s just say that he did. A true act of love would be for him to let the woman go and allow her to live a life. The only way a married man can truly be with a woman he is having an affair with is if he divorces his wife.
And why would you ever want a man that is willing to leave his wife and kids for you? And more than likely he is not willing to do that anyway. So a true act of love would be to allow the mistress to go on and find a man that she can call her own and marry. Not to keep her tucked away in his back pocket pulling her out and putting her back in whenever he feels like it.
Therefore, ladies, do not put yourself in the position of a mistress and do not fool yourself into thinking that this married man is in love with you. He is not and he won’t be, and even if he does you should not want a man that is so fickle that he falls in and out of love with his wife.
Can A Married Man Love His Mistress? Final Thoughts
Here are my final thoughts on can a married man love his mistress. Remember, a married man can say anything that he wants about his wife when he is going to another woman. But there are two sides to every story and who knows if what he is saying is even true. If they are going to get a divorce, it would be best for the other woman to allow it to happen on its own and not be the driving force for a man to leave his family. My saying is that God is NEVER going to give you someone else’s husband (click my blog here to read more on this topic).
God values marriage and does not want anyone to commit adultery. I seriously doubt, he is going to turn over one of his 10 commandments for you to be with someone else’s husband. And more than anything, please do not get into a situation where you are competing with another woman over a man or in this case her husband. Check out my video below on how to stop doing that and don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here.
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