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If you are comparing yourself to others then today is the day that you decide to stop. If there is anything I want to impress upon you in this post, it is that you should be happy to be you and you comparing yourself to others is actually a disrespect to yourself because you are saying that you are not enough.
If that is the case then one or two things need to happen. You need to figure out how to be enough or you need to get some self esteem. Before we get into the rest of the post check out my video below on self esteem and comparing yourself to others, advice directly from the Bible. AND don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here.
Step 1. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others & What The Bible Has To Say About It.
I did not fully become the confidence person that you see before you today until I realized the magnitude that being a child of God is. I know that is sound all corny and cliche but hear me out. As a daughter of a king (AKA God) you are royalty. God somehow thought it was befitting for you to be here, the way that you are, the way that you look, and with the gifts that he bestowed within you.
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5
God knew you before you were born, He knew how you would turn out AND he thought it good to create you anyway. He thought so much to give you, your own fingerprints, your own face, and then for some reason you want to look at someone else and compare yourself to them and say to yourself that how God created you is not Good enough? When you are comparing yourself to someone else that is what you are saying.
That there is something in yourself that you are not satisfied with OR there is something in the other person that you wish you had. Both of these emotions are jealousy and envy, also known as works of the flesh and emotions that God does not want to feel because once you do, this unrealistic emotion of comparing yourself to others will get bigger and more worse, leading you to develop other problems such as self esteem and then depression and then God knows what.
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16
What’s my point?
I am going to give you a step by step way on how to stop comparing yourself to others but the fact of the matter is I REALLY want you to know that when you compare yourself to other people you are putting yourself at risk to developing other issues. What if I told you that I don’t feel jealous and I weened myself out of that emotion a long time ago. Some of you may think I am telling lies, but what it all comes down to is the following steps I am about to give you. And knowing that God created you for a purpose is the first step to understanding that.
Step 2: Comparing Yourself Is Pointless, Accept Yourself As Is
You are you and there is no changing or escaping that. You can get plastic surgery, you can put on makeup, or you can change your outward appearance to look like someone else but no matter what you do to yourself you are going to be you and you can never be them no matter what. You are made up of mind, body, and soul; so even if you change something on your body you still cannot imitate the person’s mind or soul. Those are uniquely yours and there is no changing yourself to into someone else.
Once you learn to accept the things that you cannot change then you still stop worrying about what you can’t be and embrace the unique talents in yourself flaws and all to become what you can. It is your flaws and the same things that you hate that actually make you better than the next person (see my blog here). It is your flaws that help you own your unique blessings that is directly for you that you will never get to if you are too busy worried about and chasing other people’s blessings.
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. Ephesians 2:10
Believe that you are God’s creation, an awesome creations and that you were created to do good works in this life. And that you and only you can do it. Also check out my video down below on how to discover your God given talents.
Step 3: Are You Comparing yourself to others because you need to step up your game?
Another main reason why other people compare themselves to others is because they are jealous of them or want something that the other persons has. Instead of comparing yourself to their life, their job, their man, and whatever the case may be step your game up to get the same thing on your own.
You can get a better job, you make more money, you start a business, you can do something. There is no reason sitting there scrolling on social media coveting someone’s else life wishing you had when they have, when you can go out and get the same or better yourself.
For example, if you are comparing yourself to other people because that person went to college and you didn’t, the best thing for you do to do is to go to college yourself. Even if you think going to college is hard and you cannot afford it (see my blog here) it is better to try to get what you want then to sit and compare yourself to someone else because they have something you want and you feel you cannot get. The first action will lead to progress in your own life, while sitting there will lead to nothing but depression and jealousy. You can sit there and continue to feel that way OR you can do something about it. Which I also did a video on that you can watch down below.
Step 4: Stop Comparing Yourself To Others Is To Cut Off The Source
Let me ask you a question? If you put your hand over the stove and your burned yourself, would you continue to keep your hand on the stove (causing yourself more pain) or would you remove it? I hope you would remove it. Social media can be a pain for some people, being around frenemies can be a pain for some people, having certain types of friends, or hanging around certain types of places can be a pain for some people. If doing any of the above things is causing you to compare yourself to other people then get off social media, stop hanging around that person, unfriend, or unfollow people that are causing you to feel bad about yourself.
According to the Bible:
If your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell. Matthew 5:30
We already know that this whole thing of comparing yourself, jealousy, and coveting is works of the flesh and is going to lead you down a road you don’t like, a road filled with envy, low self esteem, and self confidence issues. I am not telling you to cut off your hand of course, nor am I saying you, you are going to go to hell. But what this verse speaks to is if something is causing you to feel down about yourself then it is better to get rid of it so that you do not continue to feel down. It is better to do that then to continue to let these things play on how you feel about yourself. Which I talk about in that video down below.
Step 5. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others, Just Control Your own Emotions
The fact that you are comparing yourself to other people is your problem not theirs. Unless the other person is just intentionally throwing their self in your face trying to make you jealous (if that is the case refer back to step four) then more than likely you comparing yourself to them is YOUR problem.
No one can make you feel any kind of way unless you allow it. There is no need to go crazy on social media in the celebrities comment sections because they are bragging about their money or their body, when really you are just mad about what they have. IT IS YOUR PROBLEM.
You have to become the master of your own emotions (see my blog here) and understand that you can choose not to do this to yourself. You can choose to not suffer from insecurity and you have ALOT more control of your emotions then you think. Instead of getting upset, choose to laugh, and choose to put a smile on your face.
Of course it may take practice at first, you may still feel some type of way even as you smile. But the more you control your emotions the more you will learn not only to stop comparing yourself to others but to also learn to stop being jealous of other people, stop getting angry at other people, stop comparing yourself to other people, and your mood will not be swayed by what other people do.
More than anything you have to believe that the more you feel joy the more you will bring joy in your life. And the more you feel the negative that is exactly what you will get. It is the whole reap what you sow mentality. So put that energy into working on yourself , feeling good about yourself, and learning to love yourself as is. Knowing that there is no real purpose and nothing good will come of just sitting there comparing yourself to someone else.
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