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In a world in which the divorce rate is at about 50% some of you out there may be wondering, how should husband love your wives? We know that the Bible says that husbands should love their wives like their own flesh. BUT okay fine, what does that really mean for marriage?
If your answer to this is “I don’t know ” or “I am not sure.” I promise that I am going to break it down for you. I am going to break it down so much that it will now and forever be always ingrained in your mind so there is no question on what husbands love your wives like your own flesh means.
In a moment we are going to get into Ephesians 2:22-33. It does not matter if you are dating, in a relationship, or in marriage; reading, Ephesians 5:22-33 is the best place to start. Because it tells you exactly how to love your wife according to the Bible. And for women, it tells you how you should be loved.
If you are dating then you need to be dating a man that is like the man in Ephesians 5:22-33. If you are in a relationship that you want to go toward marriage then the man you are considering marrying needs to be like the man in Ephesians 5:22-33, and if you are all already married not only do I encourage you to read my blog on Biblical submission (don’t worry, it is not what you think) but you need to look at how your husband can be like the man in Ephesians 5:22-33.
BUT before we get into the Bible verses I do want to share my video where I spoke about this very topic which you can watch below and don’t forget to subscribe to my channel by clicking here.
1. Husband love your wives Bible Verses: Ephesians 5:22-33
These verses tell you exactly how husband are to love your wives according to the Bible? Check out the following verse:
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies.
He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church because we are members of his body.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
As you read the above Bible verse you should have taken away two main principles when it comes how to love your wife according to the Bible.
First, husband love your wives like Christ loved the church.
Second, husband love your wives like you love your own flesh.
It is easy for people to say that they love their wives like this BUT when an argument gets heated or when the man gets mad, you will quickly see that the man will not treat the woman as his own flesh. Loving someone like you love your own flesh means that you love them just as much as yourself.
And you need them just as much as you need the flesh that you are in. And if a man would not hurt his own flesh, curse out his own flesh, or leave his own fleshes, then he should NOT do it to his woman. And this is just the foundation of a Christ-centered relationship, but it gets so much deeper than that.
Before I continue on, it is probably noteworthy to watch my video on how a man’s role is to protect, profess, and provide, using men from the Bible.
2. Husband love your wives Case in Point: Adam and Eve
Let’s go to the beginning of the Bible, with the story of Adam and Eve. People normally blame Eve for the fall of mankind and cursing human beings for all eternity. Why don’t we forget that part for a second and focus more on what Eve meant to Adam shall we.
3. Husband Love Your Wives Picking Up At Genesis (Chapter 2:20-24)
God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
The man said, This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman for she was taken out of man. That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
In Ephesians 5 we see that husbands love their wives like their own flesh, but going all the way back to Genesis you see that woman was made from the flesh of man. So it is not just about loving your wife like your own flesh, but in the beginning, the wife was made from the husband’s flesh. Note what Adam said about her (Now this is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh).
If you are a mother and you have a child, it is like a part of your flesh is out and about running in the world. What hurts your child hurts you because your child is from you. Now, this is not a post about parenting, I am just trying to give you a visual of how Adam must have felt about Eve. BUT we have not even gotten into the deeper stuff, you know the stuff I mentioned earlier in the post. The whole basis of how husbands love their wives like their own flesh.
4. Husband Love Your Wives In Genesis 2:16-17
After Adam was created before Eve came into existence, God told Adam this.
You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.
With this being said, Adam did not eat from the tree, while he was the only person on Earth. Also, note that God had told him if he ate from the tree what would happen, he would die.
So here Adam was chilling on Earth minding his own business not even tempted to eat from the tree. And here comes Eve. Remember that part about Eve causing the damnation of mankind? We are going to talk about that now. But in a different way than what you may expect.
The serpent isolated Eve and got her to eat from the forbidden tree. Which I convinced that the devil did on purpose. Because he knew that if he could get Eve then he could get Adam because Eve was the flesh of Adam. After eating the fruit, she then brings it to Adam and asks him to partake of the fruit as well.
Now let’s ponder this for a minute, as mentioned above Adam knew very well what eating from the tree would do however he also saw that Eve had already eaten from the tree, and therefore he knew that she would die. How did he know this? Because that is what God told him would happen.
So why do you think Adam ate from the tree, knowing that he would die and be departed from God. A misconception is that Adam was manipulated or tricked by Eve. But I think not. I think that even though Adam loved God, and knew what would happen to him if he ate the fruit, he still chose to do so because he loved Eve so much and if Eve was going to die, then he was willing to do so as well.
You see, to Adam, Eve was his flesh, she came from his own body, and to imagine life without her was not possible. So he chose to give up the perfect life that he had in Eden with God, to go into the wilderness with his woman. To him, it was not a choice because Eve was a part of him.
5. The True Meaning Of Husband Love Your Wives
Adam is the true meaning of “Husband love your wives like you love your flesh.” That you are willing to die for her, go into the fire for her, where she goes you want to go, and you would not want to see yourself parted from. Because to be parted for your wife AKA your flesh, is the same as someone coming and ripping your skin off and you walking around with no skin.
Husbands, wives, girlfriends, and boyfriends, whatever your situation ask yourself these questions.
- Are you willing to take the hard road with her, as opposed to leaving her when you see that she has made the wrong decision?
- Are you willing to share in her consequences and responsibilities?
- Are you willing to give your life up for her, just as Christ gave his life for the Church?
- Are you willing to take care of her and feed her as you would yourself?
The last video I want you, women, to check out is how the characteristics of a good man according to the Bible so that when you choose a husband you can find a man that meets these characteristics.
That is the true meaning of how to love your wife according to the Bible. That is how God intended it. Not love your wife until a younger model comes around and then you trade her in. Not love your wife until you get tired of her and you do not want to be bothered anymore. But like the very flesh that you walk around in every day. And that is the type of love that you should strive for in your marriage or in a relationship that you are thinking about getting married.
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