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Do you feel like you can’t get over a breakup or are you having difficulty getting over a breakup? If so then you have come to the right place because I am going to give you 5 very real tips on how to get over someone ASAP. Also, you can check out my other blog about how to get over a breakup in the fastest way possible by clicking here for more breakup tips. Also, be sure to check my video below on how to get over your ex.
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1. Getting Over A Breakup ~ Remember who you are
Getting over a breakup can be hard. But the key to it is not to have a total break with reality. After a break up many of us, women want to crawl under a rock, eat a ton of ice cream, check ourselves in a psych ward, and let ourselves go. We may even do a bunch of drunken text and phone calls in the middle of the night which will only embarrass us even more. Remember this begging, crying, and gaining 30 pounds is not the way to go it will only make you feel worse.
The last thing you want to do is give your ex more power than he deserves and show him how you cannot maintain your emotional well-being without him. This will not make your ex regret breaking up with you, it will only make him feel sorry for you. And will only confirm in his mind that he made the right choice by getting rid of you. After a breakup, we all have the need to eat ourselves into 3 more pants sizes or walk around side looking like a hot mess. But fight that urge, please.
If you bump into an ex or hang out with someone who knows your ex the last thing you want them to report back to your ex is how terrible you looked. This has happened to me, by the way, check out my blog on why it pays to look good. You never want to look like you were hit by a train and then the train backed up and hit you again that is not going to make him regret anything. Therefore REMEMBER who you are.
When getting over a breakup remember that you an awesome woman that deserves a good man and does not take crap from anyone. You don’t beg for any man because you don’t have to and being single is not the end of the world. If you put your whole identity into this man then you lose the essence of yourself and you are lowering your value based on the fact that a man does not want you.
Say affirmations if you have to, lose weight if you have to, get fit if you have to, or get a degree if you have to. A breakup is a perfect chance to maximize the awesomeness that is already you. This is a chance to be a little conceited and boost your own head up about the wonderful things you have going for yourself, who you are, and where you are going in life.
And do not just tell yourself that but actually be that. Set in your mind that any man that passes you over is obviously blind because you are one complete package and anyone would be lucky to have you. Also, check out my blog on how to build confidence after a breakup. And check out my video below.
2. Getting Over A Breakup ~ Don’t Beg
The second tip for getting over a breakup is that if someone wants to break up with you, let them. You may be hurting and you may want to cry, but save all of that for after they walk out of the door. Remember sometimes people are pulled out of your life for a reason (see my blog here for more on that topic). So do not try to keep them in by begging for them. You would be shocked at how many people get off seeing someone beg and act a fool over them.
Do not be that fool. Do not cry and spill tears over someone not wanting to be with you, at least not in front of them. Let them go and be a mature woman about it. The more you chase, whine, and stalk a man the worse off you will be because you are not letting yourself get over the breakup. You are just festering in it, which will only hurt you more. It is better to just rip off the bandaid and face the fact that he is gone because it will help you get over the breakup and get on with your life.
3. Getting Over A Breakup ~ Be About Your Life
The third tip for getting over a breakup is to do you. After a breakup do not sit looking at the sky wondering when your next man is going to fall out of it. Date, go out with friends, do something. Get a hobby, pray, go to church, go back to school. I am famous for that after every break up I get a new degree or start a new hobby or something.
And these are the things that will get your mind off the breakup and show your ex that your identity is not in them but that you have your own life and you are not worried about what is going on in his life. Remember you have a life to live and that does not stop because you have had a breakup. You should always be about your purpose and doing big things in your life with or without a man. In my book for single moms (which you can buy here) I wrote the following:
While you are single, enjoy yourself, find your purpose, and do something that YOU want to do. Do not sit around on the couch waiting for your prince charming to come knock on your door and rescue you from your single relationship status. Life too short and too precious for that. No matter what our life situation is, tomorrow is not promised to anyone. So why not enjoy today?
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Not to be morbid but you may not make it to tomorrow OR better yet you could meet someone new and even more awesome tomorrow, but it will be hard to do that if you are not getting up, getting out, and getting on with your life. If you are just sitting there in the four corners of your home, sulking, and not doing anything much you are literally watching life pass you by.
And life is way too short and exciting for that. So fight the urge to just sit in your house and do nothing, and get up and do something. Get up, get dressed to the BEST of your ability, and do something that will make you happy. Soon you will be so busy living life that you won’t even remember what’s his name. Also, check out my video on how to level up on your ex. If you are too busy leveling up then that leaves less time for you to think about your ex.
4. The Key To Getting Over A Breakup Is To Stop With The Emotional Breakdowns.
The fourth tich for getting over a breakup is to stop the breakdowns. I cannot tell you how pathetic is it to see a man trying to break up with a woman and she will cry and cry her way out of the breakup. Yeah, he may take the break up back for that moment because he does not want to be responsible for the suicide that you are threatening to do if he leaves. But it still does not change the fact that he wants to break up. You are just delaying the inevitable.
Men will be with you even if they do not want to be with you and if a man wants to break up with you he is going to do that. Therefore, do not make any trips to the psychiatric ward, do not call him in the middle of the night and tell him you cannot live without him, and do not threaten to kill yourself so that he will see how much you NEED him and change his mind of about breaking up with you. That is emotional blackmail. It is not fair to you and it is not fair to him.
And more than anything it will not make a man come back, it will make him question your sanity. If you need to get therapy after a breakup, then do so without telling him. Do not go into desperation mode with this attention-seeking behavior thinking that if he has pity on you then it will make him come back. You will just be making a fool out of yourself and delaying the inevitable if he does come back with you for this reason.
5. Getting Over A Breakup ~ Do Not Chase
The last tip for getting over a breakup is do not to chase. When an ex leaves you, do not stop by his mother’s home to have a conversation about what her son did and try to convince her why her son should get back with you. Do not move into the apartment next to his or start working part-time at his favorite hangout spot. Do not call all of his friends, sister, and everyone else that he knows to try to get them to tell you what your ex is doing. It is never a woman’s job to chase a man (click to see my blog on that)if he values you then he will try to win you back not the other way around.
Plus doing all of what I just said paints you out to be a grade-A stalker. Some women think this is cute, but it is creepy. It says that you are a stalker and that he may need to get a restraining order out on you. All this behavior really says is that you are making a fool out of yourself. Trust that all of his friends, mom, sister and all these people that you keep talking to in order to keep tabs on your ex sees you as crazy.
And they are more than likely reporting back to your ex. More than anything you need to create space between you two after a breakup. Still fighting to be in his world like nothing has happened is only going to make you feel worse when you hear that he is dating again or you have to wait on him and his new girlfriend because you decided to be a waitress at his favorite restaurant so you can see him more. Do not be that desperate woman that can’t let go.
These are just a few tips that you need to implement ASAP if you are facing a breakup and need help getting over it. PLUS, I have something else free for you. I have a specific book for single women which you can buy here. BUT I want to give you the first chapter of that book for FREE. Just click here or the picture below and it is yours.